Two Year Old Hitting One Year Old

I have a one and a half year old son that often hits also. We find that it works well if we discipline him first and then make a lot of fuss over the person that he has hit. A lot of time he acts out to gain attention, but by focusing on the other child he learns that this is not an appropriate way to get our attention.
Good Luck!

I understand exactally what you are going through. My 2 yr old nephew hits my son who is 5. He usually just comes and tells us that he was hit. My son was taught not to hit, but it is not fair for him to get beat on. I realy have no advice for you, except keep going on the time -out. Also be assertive if he gets up return him to the corner, but don't talk to him. If you return him enough he will eventually stay there. Also be consistant.

Please know that I do not intend for this to be rude but who's the boss? My advice to you is that you stay consistent and put him back into time out as many times as it takes for him to stay!Stand your ground and let him know that you wont back down and his behavior is unacceptable (to quote a famous Nanny!) Only keep him in there for two minutes. One minute for each year of his age.I would also invest a couple of dollars and get an egg timer so he begins to know how long two minutes is. Where you place him should be boring and away from you but still in your sight. Hope it helps. Don't give up or give in!
Blessings, A.

hi, this may or may not help..you need to be firm and let him know that it is not alright to hit. and that he should always use nice touches, that it also makes you very sad that he hits. i found that small children strive for their parents aproval especialy their moms. i work in a pre-school for children with autisum spectrum disorder..and it seems to work with them. we also limit time out to 1 min. per the childs age...2min. for a 2 yr old...and we also are consistant, a behavior takes 6 wks to change and usually gets worse befor it gets better....i hope this helps at least alil...an god bless you ...3 boys..lol

I dont mean to get into your business but do you hit any of your kids? If you're using hitting as displine then he's just mimicing that behaviour and telling him its wrong is confusing him. just a thought.

SEE SOME TIME YOU HAVE TO DO TO THEM THAT THEY DONT WANT DONE TO THEM.SENT THE BABY CANT DO IT THEN YOU HAVE TO DO IT.AND THAT TIME OUT STUFF DONT WORK .

Hey P.. My advice to you is to make sure whatever you do make sure your child doesn't get up from time out. If he gets up from time-out put him rite back in time out and tell him why he is there. The big key to timeout is to make sure the child knows why he/she is there. The other thing you should make sure you do is when time is up make sure you tell your child you love him and tell him again why he is in timeout. Timeout is a great choice for discipline, beacuse you don't have to hit your child or yell at them you just sit them in a chair or in the corner. My daughter's feelings get hurt when i put her timeout. She trys to get up all the time, but i put rite back in timeout and tell her why she is there. After she has sat there long enough while being quiet i then hug her and tell her,"I love you sweetheart, but you can't ....." and everytime i put her in timeout she doesn't do the same thing again. Good Luck Hope this info. helps.

P., I am going through te EXACT same thing right now. My 2 yr. old is doing the same thing to my 1 yr. old. She has been hitting him when he is trying to play with a toy or pushing him down by his face when she gets mad about what he is doing , even if she wa not interested in the first place. It can be very frustrating. It has just started happening more and more recently. I have found that sometimes when I catch it in mid stream I can redirect her to something else that she has or can do so she stops but when I have to pt her in time out I usually take he to another room and make her sit, wether it is on the steps or on the floor but away from the situation. I tell her she has to sit and if she gets up I just take her back to where she was and make her sit again. until she is allowed to get up. I do not stand over her and that seems to help, but she trys to get up, i just keep putting her back in the same spot and tell her she has to sit because she can not do that to her brother. Maybe u can get a little kitchen timer and set it up and tell ur 2 yr. old not to get up till they hear the ding of the timer. But u need to keep to putting them in time out and not let them think they tell u when they can get up. Dont make abig deal about it but just keep putting him back in time out to let him know that is ur ruling. I know that part of it is the age and part of it is now that my one yr. old is interested in paying my daughter feels like she doesnot want to share or he is not allowed to do what she doesnt want. i just remind her she is not the mommy and he is allowed to do whatever he was doing. I hope this has helped. I know it can be upsetting.....hope things get better for u.
K.

HI P. I HAVE FOUR CHILDREN AND MY SUGGESTION TO YOU IS TIME OUT. YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT IF HE HITS MAKE HIM SIT. IF HE GETS OUT OF TIME OUT PICK HIM UP AND PUT HIM BACK IN. ITS TIME CONSUMING BUT HE WILL EVENTUALLY LEARN IF YOU PUT HIM IN TIME OUT HE NEEDS TO STAY. HE REALIZES THAT WHEN HE GETS OUT YOU ALLOW IT. GOOD LUCK AND MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU FOR YOUR LOSS. STEPH

Hey girl, didn't you ever watch the Nanny show? You have to make him stay in the timeout spot (wherever that might be). I know it can be tough with a young child but after a few times of physically putting the child back they eventually get the hint. Of course, there are always the stubborn ones that take a little longer than others. Pick your battles and stick with what you say, if you cave he will never learn. He will know that if he cries long enough, or keeps getting up, you will eventually give in. I have used timeouts on my 2 year old niece. It's really just about patience and perserverance (sp?). And make sure to tell him that it's just not nice and it hurts to get hit. I always tried to make my son think about how his actions made others feel. Good luck!!

Your 2 year old needs to learn that hitting the baby is absolutely NOT ok. However, the way he is feeling is perfectly normal. So, what I suggest you do is validate his feelings ("You're mad at your brother, aren't you?") then allow him to express the feelings in a healthy way - ask him to show you with a doll what he'd like to do to the baby (or draw a picture or even use a pillow). This will allow him to vent his frustration, feel like you are still on his side and teach him a better way to get the anger out without hurting anyone.