Having Another Baby - Bedford,OH

I have to say that I found out that I was pregnant with our second child when my first was 4 1/2. He was old enother to understand what was going on and was/is a big help around the house, only problem I find with the big age gap is that my oldest wants to do bigger boyu things while my now 14 month old wants to play with him. I really think it is a flip of the coin.Good luck to you and your family

Well my kids are 20 months apart and I think by having them close together they relate better and will grow up close to each other. I think the more the age difference the less likely they are going to be as close cause if you think about it if you got pregnant now your son will going on 4 by the time you had the baby. He will be going on 5 when the baby is 1 and there just isn't much a 1 and 5 year old can have in common. My kids are great they can play together well and like the same things and I think most that is because they are so close in age. I'm sure with your husband it won't take long. But make sure that is what he wants and not just agreeing with you. Once you make the baby there is no turning back and you don't want him to regret it. Good luck!!

Having gone thru this with my husband for our first (and only so far) baby, I know what you're going thru. I tried the "having a baby later in my life brings more possible complications with the pregnancy" line (I was 25 when I had my son). Also, the "experts" say that between 2-4 years apart is the perfect spacing for children; you could try going that route. Ask him why he doesn't want more kids right now, and listen to his point of view - if you approach him with the mindset of "this is what I want and I'll listen to you but it won't change my mind" then he'll probably be able to sense that and won't be as open to talking. Good Luck!

You both have to be in agreement for another baby to work. That being said, if you are planning to stay at home while your kids are young, and go back to work full time when they start school, you could bring this up. The further your kids are in age, the longer you are going to have a little one at home, so therefore, the longer it will take you to go back to work. I don't know if finances are a big deal or not for you, but you never know what will happen, and if you are a big believer in trying not to use daycare, this may be something to think about. If you have to work to make bills, and your baby is just going to end up in daycare pretty quickly, he is probably thinking about that, and that is contributing to his decision to wait for another child. I'm sure there is another reason for him to want to delay having another child other than just being happy with one. You just need to have a candid, non-confrontational discussion with him about it. He may not agree with you even after the discussion, but hopefully you will understand each other's reasoning, and be respectful to each other until you are both ready.

If you have always intended on having more kids, you might want to point out two things.
1. If you have another child while you and he are young, you will still be young enough to enjoy the time after they leave the house and go to college.
2. Having a child now the kids will be roughly four years apart. That is close enough in age for them to play together and yet far enough apart that you don't have to deal with things like driving, dating and high school at the same time. Any more than five years and then the playing together get hard.
I would do it on a date night. Have a babysitter and let him get relaxed. If you try to have this conversation either while or right after your child is going "mommy, mommy, mommy", you won't get anywhere. Good Luck!