We got the American girl book the care and keeping of you but it didn't seem to talk about sex which is what my daughter is asking about. And honestly she won't talk to me so a book is the way to go I was lookingn for a good book to start with she is 10 thanks!
You can try "It's So Amazing".
It's the same author as "It's not the Stork" which someone below mentioned, but it's for the ages 8 and up. It's Not the Stork is for younger kids because it's got mostly illustrations and not very much text. It's So Amazing covers the same topics, but with more explanation, and also has a few 'older' topics that aren't covered in the younger version.
Talk to your daughter. My mom talked to me about sex. I didn't want her to talk to me about it but she did and when I had questions it already laid out the ground work for coming to her and asking her questions.
No book should take the place of great conversation and amazing communicaiton.
Talk to you daughter. Even if she doesn't want to talk to you. You are the best source for sharing information and values.
We got the book "It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library)" by Robie H. Harris.
It goes into everything in a very age appropriate way. It includes birth control and sexually transmitted diseases along with all the mechanics and all the changes. It does not in any way encourage young kids to begin having sex while answering all their questions. My husband and I found it to be very well written and it really helped my son with all his questions. He would skip chapters he wasn't interested in and would ask us any questions he had as he read.
It's fine if she doesn't want to talk to you. I'd say the majority of us were probably mortified at the mere idea of talking to our mothers about such things. But it all comes down to how you want her to see you in her future. Giving her a book may seem great, but if you just leave her to it she'll feel alone. And her not talking to you will most likely continue.
You could find a good biology book and sit down with her to look through it. That way you can answer her questions as you go. I'm sure she'll have something to say at that point.
I think a good angle to start with is explaining evolution. There is a terrific theory involving Sex once humans stood upright. Coming at Sex through a purely scientific lens keeps the conversation nuetral. She'll be less likely to feel embarrassed that way. And you can help her understand sexual desire by way of hormones and such.
Good luck. Just whatever you do, don't laugh at anything she says.
No recommendations other than this: do NOT google "sex for kids"
(That's a joke...)
My pediatrician's nurse recommended "Our Bodies, Our Selves."
I like It's not the Stork. The age range is 4-8, but I think it should be 6-10. I also have a daughter that won't talk to me so this was perfect for her at that age-matter of fact and easy to understand.
http://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0...
If you google Christian books for teens about sex you will get a great list. Even if you aren't Christian or looking for that angle. I checked out a bunch of other books from the library for my 13 year old- wow, some of them made me BLUSH! Way too much info. Like yours, mine was asking about the sex part, so I wanted one that gave some basic info. These were beyond basic. The Christian ones were able to give the info without being too graphic or crude. Maybe crude is the wrong word, but I found the Christian ones to be more what I was looking for. We are Christian so that was great for us, but I could have easily just bookmarked the parts I wanted her to see if I wasn't looking for the rest. Good luck!
The web site A Mighty Girl has great recommendations.
You say she won't talk to you but she has questions about sex. That screams that she needs to get some answers and she needs those answers from you. Wouldn't you prefer to give her the correct answers vs her getting wrong info at school or on the internet? Does she ever talk to you? Do you two have any sort of communication with each other?
I feel it is important to have a no topic off limits line of communication and most of the time... you as mom are listening OR talking WITH her not AT or TO her.
If you feel uncomfortable talking to your daughter about sex and facts of life, then talk when you are walking in the park, driving down the road, etc so you don't have to look at each other. She needs to know it is OK to talk about these things. She's probably hearing things at school and she simply needs confirmation of what is true or not.
I know she is just 10 and at an age where she is changing and yes of course she might feel like she can't talk to mom about things like that. She knows her body will be changing as many of her friends may be going through different phases of puberty.
Just a book is not going to cut it. If you use books along with communication it will be more effective plus help you build your relationship with her. That relationship is in for many changes through the next 8-10 years and right now is what sets that relationship up for the future.
If you already know her questions, you have a start... make a fun date and include communication about sex, boys, the color of the sky... just talk.
Sex is not a teenage thing. Your title rubbed me the wrong way, although I know you are asking it from an innocent place.
