E.,
Lisa is right about him training you. There may be a reason for it, but you still need to expect respect for your schedule and your home.
Is he in any chronic pain? Is he frustrated because an older child is talking for him and he hasn't practiced his own words?
If he is up later at night, then he won't really be awake early in the morning and ready for breakfast. Perhaps you could break him of his bottle habit by simply giving him a water bottle in his crib. I had to do that with a couple of my 7 children. He may just be thirsty and not ready for the day. Perhaps you need to eliminate his nap for a day or two so he will fall asleep when you want him to at night... Then re-introduce the nap earlier in the day and/or for a shorter time. Purposely wake him after so many minutes so he will sleep at bedtime.
It definitely sounds like a control issue. You need to win this one or your future life will be miserable. You decide what schedule you want in your home and he will learn to adjust.
One standing rule in our home that helped me and that my children totally get and appreciate now that they are older, is 'you whine, you lose' ALWAYS.... Even if it was something you could let them do, if they whined to get it, it didn't happen. (my kids hear whining in a grocery store and look at me like, whose the parent?... omg...you whine, you lose... why do the parents allow that ugly behavior?)
If you are consistent with that you will enjoy your days ahead. i would tell my children, I can't hear you when you talk like that... or , if you are going to whine, it isn't happening, or i was silly with them and said do you need cheese with that w(h)ine? :) and things like that. They need to learn to talk to you and others respectfully. We don't have to respond to disrespect. You are catching this while he is young and will be ahead of this problem behavior in no time.
This will not take long to turn around perhaps a few weeks of consistent structure... and you will have a happy home again.
Feel free to email me personally if you like. Blessings, L.