Duaghter and Sensitive Subject.

Updated on March 06, 2011
M.R. asks from Corinth, MS
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My almost 5 year old daughter is having a problem with pulling her clothes away from her private area. It's almost like it has become a habit or something. There is no redness and she doesn't complain of "it" itching or burning. She just says she doesn't like her panties to touch her. I have tried changing her panties 3 different times to bigger ones, boys shorts and different material and she still pulls her clothes away. This is so embarrasing when we are around people and so I tell her to only pull them away in privacy.I don't know what else to do. I hope someone can help me. I do think it is some sort of sensitive skin issue. Does anyone know about any sort of sensitve skin issues in the private area and how to resolve it? Do I need to take her to a doc about this?

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K.L.

answers from Redding on

I saw packages of little girls underware that said they were "no wedgy" style. I wonder if they would help. I saw them at Walmart, and it seems like they were a name brand, so probably are in other stores also. I know there are so many styles on the market including hip huggers, and high hip, even nearly thongs for toddlers! (yep, Im old) And maybe she would feel more comfortable in the old fashion "full size", with the waist band up at her waist. If you are buying her the hip hugger or low rise style maybe she feels she needs to pull them up more, thus making them catch in the crotch and feel uncomfortable. I hate when that happens. (o:

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D.B.

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S.W.

answers from Minneapolis on

My daughter is a little picky about clothing, too. She will only wear one style of undies, and only stretchy cotton pants (no blue jeans!).

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Y.C.

answers from New York on

Do her pants bother her too? I wonder if she just gets bother with any clothes or is just the panties. Buy her different panties (different materials and styles) and ask her to try them all and to pick the one that she is comfy with, she can help you buy the different styles.

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C.J.

answers from Dallas on

Curious have you let her go without panties at all to see if it is all clothes or just the panties?
Could they be too tight? Maybe going up a size (or two) could help her out.
I would also suggest splurging on the Hanna Andersen brand of panties they have minimal seams and are super soft.
You may have already tried all of this,but just thought I'd offer some suggestions to consider.
I guess if all else fails it is just a phase and she will grow out of it. It may be embarassing, but she is a little girl and most folks know this if she does it in public or around family friends. I'd try to treat it as a kid who picks their nose - gently remind them not the place, but don't get too freaked out (BTW - I have boys who are nose pickers - drives me NUTS! LOL)
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L.A.

answers from Minneapolis on

Does she do this when she has dresses on too? My daugther is super sensitive and refuse to wear pants that "ride up" I pretty much have to put her in "mom jeans" that have a higher waist, dresses or leggings. It was frustrating because I just spent a ton of money on new pants and she wont wear any of them. Maybe try loose fitting, or longer crotched pants. Good Luck!

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E.M.

answers from Johnstown on

Are her undies 100% cotton? If not, this could be the issue. Are they they right size? Make sure they aren't tight. You may want to try a larger size for her.

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R.J.

answers from Seattle on

I have a mild latex allergy and I'm adhd (meaning I also have sensory issues). I quit wearing underwear when my mum finally let me pick out my own clothes at about age 9. I'd wear a swimsuit under shorts, but the rest of the time just went commando... and still do. I only wear underwear under dresses or for sex schtuff.

The leg holes in underwear trigger the allergy. My skin doesn't get red... it just starts to break down. It doesn't hurt, exactly, nor itch, nor burn... it's just reeeeally uncomfortable/weird feeling UNTIL I get to the last layer of skin and then it breaks and gets very very infected. If I have to wear underwear frequently I usually end up with a lowgrade fever (not super typical with allergies, but it's how my body responds). My usual temp (latex free) is 97.4. On latex I hang out at right about 99-99.5. My mum never caught it, because she didn't know I ran "cold".

TMI... but the first sign of my skin breaking down from underwear is the *smell*. If I ran my finger along the crease between my legs and vaveejay it would smell like feet or worse. NOT wearing underwear, it smells like skin. That area gets quite sweaty. Sweat + latex allergy + beaking down skin = a vile smell. My mum always claimed it was from not washing well (deep sigh... As an adult who showers 3 times a day, and a child who bathed twice a day I can guarantee you it's not and it wasn't). My allergy has gotten worse as I've aged. A single day in underwear starts breaking down my skin. Sex with a latex condom (oy!)... the burning!!! I got new contacts my doc didn't mention were latex based (nor saw the giant red flag in my chart) and my eyes swelled shut. It's a very MILD allergy... but the allergy makes underwear a pain in the.... well yeah.

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S.F.

answers from Utica on

I would venture to say that it is just a phase and that it is probably bothering her but she will soon forget about it. Maybe you could ask her if there is a pair of underwear that she has noticed that she doesnt feel this way with and purchase a bunch of those. Maybe it is the way the underwear sits on her or it is the type of fabric. I know when I was a child, I think it started around her age, I refused to wear socks the proper way because the seam in the toes drove me insane. Quick fix... I wore them inside out until one day I guess I just grew out of it.

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M.M.

answers from Washington DC on

Put a dress on her and use a larger cotton undie, or just go without.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

Sounds like my daughter.

For her, she just does not like her underwear riding up... in front or back.
I, got her underwear that is one size up.
Hanes or Fruit of the Loom kids cotton underwear.

As a child, I remember, at various 'phases' hating that feeling too. Its just quirks.
But it gets outgrown.

She will outgrow it.
Right now, she may not be self-conscious about it since she is only 5.

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M.S.

answers from Dallas on

I have a friend whose son has a sensory issue with underwear touching his skin and he's been going commando since about age 6 or so. It could be something sensory related and have nothing to do with the size or type of underwear.

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A.T.

answers from Wilmington on

I agree with the size of the panty comment. I would definately make sure they are fitting properly. Also, cotton is important. The two of these issues combined can create a yeast issue too so make sure she has cotton. You may want to have the doc check her to make sure there isn't a urinary infection or yeast problem that may require medication. Letting air get in there is important as it is for us "big" girls.

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M.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Is this only with pants or also dresses? I would try letting her go without undies for a few days and see if the break helps. You could also try getting her some boy short style panties--maybe if she has more coverage she will be less likely to pull at them.

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L.P.

answers from Raleigh on

Some girls are really sensitive there. The other comments looks good but I want to also suggest using a fragrance free laundry detergent. The perfume could be irritating it further.

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