Have you come to a medium on disciplining your children with your spouse?
Mostly. As i am a SAHM, I do most of the disciplining my way. When he disciplines, sometimes I think its a L. loud or harsh, but i never contradict him in front of the boys. We will discuss it quietly in the kitchen or something. We are always on the same team, and usually on the same page :-)
My ex, no. Which is one small part of why he is my ex.
My husband and I don't use the same exact discipline method, we do discipline for the same things though. I am not strong enough to force our 3 year old into his room for time outs, while my husband is. So he can do that. I on the other hand can take away toys.
It think it has more to do with that the rules are the same, not how the rules are dispensed. Not everyone in the world is doing to treat your child the same, so it is silly to think you two can use the same discipline styles.
My husband and I are of one mind when it comes to raising our children. We have the same goals for them, and agree on how to reach our goals. Do we always agree in every situation? No. But, in the big picture, we very much do.
More or less, yes. Mostly, this is us conferring every weekend on where things are in our family, what we're seeing with our son, and trying to get on the same page regarding discipline strategies so that we're both being consistent. This is also a good 'checks and balances' for us. Sometimes we'll get tired and resort to less helpful disciplinary measures; reflecting this back to each other, asking for help and for insights is great. Working as a team makes the parenting better for everyone.
Yes, my husband and I are on the same page when it comes to discipline.
Hi, Con:
You and your husband need to agree on the disciplining of the children.
Sit down and write down the rules and what will the consequence be for each rule broken
Good luck.
D.
we have our rules in the house of what is and isnt acceptable but we def have different ways of enforcing the rules. In front of the kids we are a united front but if we have an issue with what happened or how something was handled we do talk about it privately.
My husband and I were raised in very different environments with different styles and ideas; for the very same reasons we always communicate and find a medium to discipline our children. It is important that children see parents agree in the way they discipline them, otherwise children will always misbehave trying to find the weakness of their parents and lose respect.
