Daycare Thinks My Child Is Sick!

One thing I have noticed with most kids is that they act differently with different people or at different places. My almost 3 year old daughter chatters all the time when she is with with us. After the first 3 weeks of daycare, my Aunt picked her up, the next day when I went in the teacher said "Wow! I didn't know Erin could talk. She talks really well." Apparently my daughter and aunt had quite a conversation while the teacher stood there amazed. Have you ever noticed a child that is behaving until he sees his mother or the other way around? Maybe he just doesn't like daycare. You can pretty much bet he doesn't get as much attention there as he does from you. Maybe he is just adjusting to playing with other kids his age. Erin is the same way when it comes to eating. She will eat what I give her because I know what she likes and I give her those things (to a certain extent) but I can't imagine daycare food tasting any better than that of a school or hospital and I know you remember what hospital food tastes like. Just give it time. He will come around. If he doesn't you could always try another daycare or try to find an individual to take care of him. Hope it helps!

Hi J., I'm A.. I work in a local daycare (I work with toddlers) Speaking from experience...trust yourself. Ask yourself, How long has he been in daycare? Are the teachers in the room constant or do different teachers rotate through? What is the overall feel (aura) of the room during the day? Emotions manifest themselves physically at that age. Talk to the teachers or even the director and see if there is anything in the room that may be upsetting him. You may actually want to talk to the director first. If there is an issue in the room, she may not know about it yet and will then be able to fix it. Keep in mind that some babies have a hard time adjusting to changes. If anything in the room has changed recently, he may not be adjusted yet.

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I wouldn't worry if the doctor said that everything is fine. I would let them know that he/she said that your baby is not sick and he is gaining weight. He probably just misses you while he is at daycare. He will get better with the daycare, as long as they are sweet to him and not neglect him.

I think that you should either find another daycare that has the video taping where you can watch your child on tape for your self or you should just pop in one day and sit at the nursery out of your child site and monitor his behavior. Or just find another nursery for your child, it may not be your child it make the workers in that facility.

Hello J.,
Well...that's a hard one. Tell them the doctor says he's fine. He probably just feels safer with you. If it gets to be too much, change daycares. I keep telling my hubby I would love to watch a infant since mine are getting older but, he's just afraid of being blamed for something. You know how people are sue happy in this world. Good luck.

God Bless,
J.

Maybe he is that way because he misses you at daycare. If he hasn't been there that long then maybe that is what it is. Maybe you should check out the daycare or pop up unexpectidely during the day and see what is really going on.

I WOULD MAKE SOME UN-ANNOUNCED VISITS TO THE DAY CARE,POSSIBLY
THERE NOT SHOWING THE LOVE/TIME/ WITH HIM !!! ~
BABIES PICK UP ON THAT! SOME DAY CARES JUST WANT THE MONEY
BUT NO EFFORT !! SOMETHING IS GOING ON THERE I THINK..........
HAVE A NICE DAY ! ~

I would take him out of that daycare. It seems to me they don't have the time to care for him so they say he isn't well or blah blah blah. I know looking for care is hard but it is worth it's weight in gold when you have a good one and your child is happy. good luck

I ran into a similiar situation when I was taking my little sister back and forth to daycare. (there is 17 years difference between us, and until she was 8 I was basically her mom, so I did everything that the mom normally does) What I discovered after taking her to doctors to look for phantom ear problems and supposed loss of appatite, was this-the daycare I was taking her to was afraid of appearing indifferent or innatentive, and since she was such a good baby and toddler, they never had anything to tell me when I picked her up. They started making up things to tell me so the would seem more attentive. Anna did not have ear problems, ate fine, slept regularly at nap time, didn't argue with other kids. She was the epitome of the perfect baby and the staff just didn't know how to handle that. So I would go to pick her up and they would tell me,'She didn't eat her lunch or snack,' when in fact she had eaten all of both. I had a friend who started working at said daycare and kept tabs on Anna for me. She filled me in on what was really happening. It could be the same for you.
Hope you figure it out.
K.

I say don't worry about it. If the doctor says the baby is fine he's fine...maybe you should find another child care if it's always something. If you get tired of them check me out.

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Honestly I think that daycares try to give you the heads up everytime so that you are not surprised and so that they cannot be put in the wrong for NOT telling you, you know what I mean. Then again there might be something, but with my son (17 mo) they tell me every time they think he played with his ears too much or didn't nap well. I think that it might just be giving the heads up, but you never know. Hope that hepls at all.

That doesn't sound normal to me. If the doctor says he is fine and he is fine with you then if at all possible I would try and check out some other daycare centers. My little boy went to daycare for a year at Sunbridge Early Learning Center and we really enjoyed it. The teachers were great and always had something positive to say about him. I am able to stay at home with him now which is why he's not there anymore. Hope that helps.

Maybe it is separation anxiety from not having Mom there. You could try to leave something there with him that smells like you, and/or maybe leave a little pillow or something for him to hold that has your photo in it?

This is tough, because I struggle sometimes with the tendency of most daycares to always give a positive report regardless of how the child's day went. But, this would be very frustrating. Would you be able to take tiem off work and observe a day? Maybe from somewhere you child won't notice you? Maybe there is something you do that they don't that you could have them start. Try talking to his teacher about why she does not not think he eats well ir why she thinks his ears hurt. He may be expressing frustration over something else that you would recognize but are not yet. His teacher should be willing to work with you on learing to respond to his cues and needs as you would. Or, you may want to try a difference daycare if nothing else works.

I have been working in childcare for about 7 1/2 years now. I do not think that makes me an expert or anything, but I will say that it is perfectly normal for your child to be totally different from what he is with you. I have worked with children from the ages of 6 months to 5 years, the age that I have worked with the most is 2 year olds. I don't know how long he has been there, but being that he is only 8 months old I would say not too long, it takes some time for them to adjust. Some longer than others. I don't want to scare you, but I have seen children take until they are 2 to adjust. If you have had him checked out by a doctor and they say he is fine, then he is fine. I hope this helps!!

Angie

Hi J.,
I too have had my daughter in daycare since she was 2 months old and unfortunatly for me, she usually was getting sick. Unless the daycare tells you he has a fever, has diareah, or is vomiting, don't worry. Sometimes babies who are insecure will show symptoms of illness even if they are not. Since your doctor has told you he is fine I would ask the daycare to just jot down what your son does during the day so that you can talk to your doctor about mabey, why, he does them. Try to keep him in daycare, the socialization skills are invaluable. (sometimes a smaller daycare or an in-home day care is better for some children who, like my daughter, get sick often.) Good luck