I had a miscarriage in September. My husband & I were devastated. We went through the d & c and was told to wait either a couple periods or 3 months to try again. Well, on month #2 I found out that I am pregnant. I'm scared to death. I don't know if I should be happy or terrified because it was not planned. Being that I didn't know I was pregnant, I had indulged in a glass of wine a nite for 2 weeks before my period was supposed to start due to some major family medical issues. It seems that everything I should've done I didn't and everything that I didn't do I should have. I'm really uneasy about this & am awaiting the lab results to come back to ensure that this is a healthy pregnancy and not a fragment of the d & c and or unviable. Has any other ladies gone through this? I'd sure appreciate any advice!
I had a miscarriage and one month later went to the ob/gyn and she told me i was pregnant again. I was in a car accident at 3 months and was told I could miscarry again.
She was 11 last week.
I went through this just last year. I had a miscarriage in late 2005 and got pregnant in early 2006. I had indulged also and didn't know. When I found out I was scared like you. I also had the same problem that caused the miscarriage with the pregnancy. I worried the whole time and was monitered closely by the Doctors. Everything went well and I have my baby that will be one on that 21st. It will be hard not to worry. Take it easy and one day at a time. I wish you the best and I am so sorry that you had to go through that loss. It is never easy. Have a great day!
M.
Just claim down first thing, everything will turn out like it should...sometimes things you don't plan are the best and then they are what is suppose to happen. ill be praying for you. but you are fine, just set back and be happy, i know you are and you will be ok
Dear D., I believe that everything happens for a reason. Back 20, 30 years ago, women smoked, drank in excess and even did drugs before they knew they were pregnant,so don't worry about having a few classes of wine. If a higher power wants you to be pregnant this soon then welcome it with open arms, as you said you and your husband are both ready to be parents, I know it is hard for someone to say this, but relax, don't stress. Good luck.
Basically the same thing happened to me. I had a miscarriage and two months later was pregnant. I too didn't believe I was pregnant and had about 6 beers one night. When I told my doctor he said that was ok; it's the excessive drinking that hurts the baby, not moderate. That pregnancy gave me a sweet girl who just turned 3 and is the most energetic, healthy fun loving girl ever!! Good luck to you!!
D.,
I have another friend who became pregnant soon after having a miscarriage. She has a healthy 2 year old now. I'm a mom of almost four (I'm pregnant and due in May), so if this new pregnancy is the winner for you and your husband, we'll be having babies a couple of months apart. Your fear is normal... Just give yourself some time...
I would not worry. God takes care of babies and fools so that pretty much covers all of us at some point.
Hi D.. I'm sorry for your loss. Try and stay positive during this time. I have quite a few friends that had miscarriages and then went on in the next or following month to get pregnant and go on to have healthy babies. I had a similar situation but I had an ectopic pregnancy which burst and I ended up loosing my fallopian tube on my left side. I, too, went on to get pregnant my second month after and have since had three babies! So, I think the most important thing (so I'll say it again) is try to stay positive, and calm and hope for the best. If it ends up that you are indeed not pregnant, don't blame yourself, it just means it isn't quite the right time yet. Your time will come. Best wishes to you and your husband!
like everyone else has said if it's meant to be then it's meant to be put that in
God's hands. as for the drinking don't bear yourself up about it, i drank for 2 months without knowing i was pg. (I still got my period for those to mos so i had no reason to believe i was pg) and everything turned out just fine so good luck to you and i hope everything goes ok
This same thing has happened to a few friends of mine - they didn't wait the 3 months after a miscarriage, got pregnant the next month or the 2nd month after, and they went on to have perfectly normal pregnancies. Also, the drinking wine thing - I did the same thing when I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. So did my sister and just about everyone else I know. I just stopped once I found out (I had a half glass on New Years though!), so try not to worry about that :>) Best of luck to you!
When the time is right, you will have that healthy baby. Last October I was prescribed a pain killer for my back that had mistoprol (not sure of the spelling). It is used to induce abortions and pregnancies cannot thrive at all with that medication. I found out I was 2 months pregnant in December. I had a very healthy baby boy. He was not planned and I didn't think I could have children. He is now 3 months old and has no health problems at all. So don't worry about that glass of wine. God knows when you are ready better than you do. He will give you that healthy baby when he feels you are ready. Just let Him do the work for you.
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I wish you the best
I think you are fine! My Doc said to wait 6 weeks - basically one full cycle beofre trying again (post D&C and even post tube removal surgery). The doc might have been telling you to wait longer to recover emotionally.
And do not worry about the wine - for the first 2 weeks of your pg the baby feeds off the CL - not your body - nature's way of protecting the little ones when we do not know we are pg! Plus, one glass of wine is not going to hurt any baby - just think about what our parents did when they were pregnant with us! They were told to have a beer/glass of wine to help them sleep! You should get a few betas done just to make sure that the baby is safe - but otherwise, smile and congrats!!!!
I'm sorry that I do not have the answer to this but I did just want to say a small prayer for you and wish you the very best :)
God bless you
You are not the first woman to get pregnant soon after a miscarraige. Nor are you a bad mom for having some wine before you even knew. Relax and take comfort that God may have a bigger plan. See what unfolds in these next few weeks and try not to focus on the what ifs too much. Remember, being a mom is an easy reminder that we are not in control. There really is nothing you can do in this situation. You can either drive yourself crazy with worry, or enjoy what you have right now. I would try to choose the enjoyment.
You really shouldn't worry--not that it helps to hear that. I have had good friends who have been in your situation and have had lovely children with their second pregnancy. Your body was apparently ready! Don't worry about the wine-- I also indulged before I knew I was pregnant and my 4 year old is well and healthy!
The only part I can speak to is the wine, really. When I was pg with DD, I'd had quite bit of wine for about a week and a half, fulling thinking we missed the window of opportunity nd being so certain I wasn't pg. Well, to my surprise, I was, and DD is just fine. You probably didn't have enough to cause any harm at this stage. Soon, you'll have the test results to reassure you. Hang in there.
Don't let anything spoil your joy of being pregnant. Often women get pregnant right after a D&C because it throughs their body right into ovulation. I would go on ignorance is bliss and just enjoy. you are in for the greatest joy you have ever known, even if things don't go "as planned". Don't sweat the wine, the placenta has not formed and the baby is self sufficient until then. YOur good. If anything were to go wrong it would not be your doing in any way. Bless your little family.
J., neonatal nurse, mom of 4 & #5 on the way!
My nighbors son and daughter in law went through the same thing. She was pregnant withing a month, and I am happy to tell you that their little boy was born perfectly healthy last month. As for the wine, I found out that I was pregnant on January 3rd- needless to say I didn't exactly stay sober that New Years, as we were at the beach with friends. We had been trying but had stopped paying attention to bbt, etc because it was stressing me out to much! I have a perfectly healthy little boy who withstood all that I put him through that first week:) I'm sure those glasses of wine didn't hurt anything. Good luck to you! K.
I wouldn't worry too much about the wine thing. IF you were out everynight getting plastered, that would be one thing, but a glass of wine contains very little alcohol. I have a friend who had problems with her blood pressure when she was pergnant. Her doctor recomended a small glass of wine. It apparently helps to thin your blood and is safer than prescription medication.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, I didn't know until I was almost three months and had been taking birth control pills. SHe is perfectly healthy.
Many times the body is ready and knows what to do. I wouldn't stress until I had some tests. I think that all will be fine, if the body is ready. The wine- don't stress, italian women have been encouraged to drink wine to help their pg. Good Luck and God Bless
D., I am sorry you are having doubts. I too had a miscaarriage at 8 weeks after trying to get pregnant for 4 years, it is devastating! It is hard to shake the fear, but have faith that all will work out. You have to put it in God's hands! I had to take fertility drugs to get pregnant but through all the trying times he saw fit to bless me 3 times, and I have so greatful. I wish you all the best and hope this helped!
K.
It's so much easier said than done, but the best thing you can do is to try not to worry so much. You can't change the past, and besides, I really don't think a glass a wine a night hurts a fetus - they are VERY protected from a small amount of toxin like that. Also, those glasses probably helped you relax, which sounded like something you needed. Above all, don't beat yourself up. If you are pregnant, just celebrate by enjoying it and being as healthy as you can be while minimizing stress. Again, it's easier said than done, but that's really the best you can do. - Mother of a 3 1/2 year old son and 13 month daughter.
I know exactly what you are going through. I miscarried, and although I did not have to have a D&C, I was told to wait about three months to get pregnant. However, about two months later I found out I was pregnant. I worried a lot too, but in the end, I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. I can't tell you not to worry, but as long as you go to all your check ups, you should be fine. I'm was almost 37 when I had my son, so all I worried about was my age, the miscarriage I had, etc. Take care and good luck.
Honey I had 2 friends miscarry and get pregnant 2 weeks later and there babies turned out just fine. Oh and I have had 3 kids and 3 different Doctors tell me that a glass of wine a day is good for you and the baby because it cleans out your system but not more then that. Both of my friends kids are 4 and 5 now thigns are just fine with them and my kids with the wine thing have no problems what so ever.
