Advice on Teenagers

Updated on January 05, 2011
M.B. asks from Topeka, KS
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Hey Moms, I have a strange question....how come there aren't any support groups for parents of pre-teen, teens, and older teenagers. Alot of the problems I encounter with my children when they were younger seem easier to solve and less dangerous. :) I think I have more mental stress now and can't recover from it as easily as I did from the physical stress of little ones. Do any other parents feel this way or am I alone in this one, let me know. Thank You!!!

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Hi Ladies!! Thank-you for all your responses! I think I will start some sort of support group. The baby books don't prepare you for the emotional blowouts (both mine and the kids) the eye rolling, the sighs, the "looks of death or you just don't get it". (Although I remember doing all of that to my parents, sorry mom and dad)Plus the scary stuff like when a boy calls my 15 yr. old daughter or when my 19 year just barely graduated high school, driver's ed, are they old enough to stay home by themselves without burning the house down?? I think I could go on and on.:) Well, I live in Topeka, Ks. and would love to hear more from you all. I will keep you posted with my ideas and feel free to email me at ____@____.com

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A.L.

answers from St. Louis on

I can't agree more!! I have a 18yr old girl and almost 15 yr old girl. I have heard boys are easier. My oldest pretty much don't talk alot. she would rather talk to her dad. because we see things different. and my 15 yr is getting there to. it hurts doesn't it?? we have had some classes at church but not ones that really helps me. I would love to start a support group. but how ,where ,when and what about?? what area do you live in??? I am in Wentzville area. I am willing to talk if you ever need to. went can meet somewhere. at least we can share together issues. and I am so sure it is harder with step children. because you don't want to to get away with things that your kids don't. but then too you don't want them not to come to you and not like you. Best wishes. feel free to keep in touch if you need advice. I am here.
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R.M.

answers from Tulsa on

I am with you on this one. I have a son who just turned 13 and I know I could use some support now & then!

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K.W.

answers from Tulsa on

I agree! My kids are 15 & 11, and I've noticed a lot of the requests on this website are for younger children. And I definitely agree that it gets...maybe not HARDER, but definitely more confusing as time goes on. It's especially hard for me to recognize that my kids are turning into adults, gradually, yet quickly, right before my eyes. And stress???? LOL, I'm definitely stressed. In fact, I don't know what it would feel like to NOT be stressed. So no, my friend, you're not alone, lol!!! :)

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B.M.

answers from Columbia on

You are not alone. I have a 19 year old boy and once he hit those "teen" years I wished so many times there was someone I could talk to. The people I ended up talking to were my coworkers. It has to be so much harder on you not having any. I know I would not have made it through his school days without the support of a couple of those people I worked with. They were wonderful for just listening and helping me figure out what was the best thing to do. How to handle certain situations. But I do agree with you about needing support groups for teenagers. Heck and even when they are older. Good luck with all those minds to nourish and hormones to control. If you need a sounding board just let me know. I'm a good listener. Don't have all the answers but am good at the hearing part.

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A.H.

answers from Springfield on

M.,

I agree with you. I have said this numerous times to women in my community. I am the mom of 3 teenage girls, ages 20,16,15--(one of whom is already on her own now, and the other two are living at home still). I find the teenagers and moms of teenagers are forgot about.

There is no support groups, and there is no place for adult supervision (like babysitters when they were younger). As a single mother of teenage girls, I hesitate to leave them at home alone with the all potential problems that could arise, such as teen pregnancy, rise in drug usage among teens.

There is a single moms group in my town; however, the teenage children are not allowed to attend, and there is only child care available for the younger children. I do not attend groups where my teenage children aren't welcomed as I'm not going to leave them at home just to attend. This is a serious problem and no wonder the teenagers today are acting out, as I'm sure they are feeling as unwelcomed in their communities as the moms of these teenagers. Something needs to be done about this in the future, especially for those in the lower and middle class income ranges...as cost is always a factor.

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M.L.

answers from Rockford on

Hello
I was just saying the same to my girlfriend I have a
12,14 & 16 Year old It is crazy I could handle any amount of little ones over three crabby teenagers I believe God has huge sense of humor because not only did I get to go through my own teenage years I get to go trough it three more times.
Relacore worked wonders for my state of mind it is all natural and just kind of takes the edge off and I was able to deal with thing a little more even keel with a clear mind and I lost some weight.
You are not alone ask me anything and I will try to help.

S.L.

answers from Kansas City on

You are definitely NOT alone.

Suzi

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C.P.

answers from Philadelphia on

My lovely little girl is turning into a grumpy, closed off, accusing teenager. She is 14. I cleaned and painted her room while she was away for a week, rearranged her furniture slightly, well you would have thought I was the gringe who came in and stole Christmas. Now anything she can't find she blames on me. This is my first experience with her and her moods. It really hurts me because she was a pretty loving little girl. I feel like crying a lot. I keep telling my 11 year old maybe there is still hope for you.

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P.M.

answers from Kansas City on

Maybe we need to start one! Is there a subheading here for teen issues?

My kids are just below tht teen stuff -my oldest will be 11 in a couple of months...and there are so many 'new' issues coming up that I feel so unprepared to handle them!

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