20 Month Old Won't Go to Sleep - Savannah,GA

Make sure her ears are ok, my son used to be the same way and it was a persistent ear infection. His pain got worse when laying down...that might explain why she will not want to go to bed and be left alone with her pain.
In any case, I would not leave her alone with her problem (no matter what it is), if she cries and wants you, she needs you anyway, right? I would just be there to comfort her and let her know she is not alone. I know it's hard, but it shall pass..good luck

Have you ever considered chiropractic? Chiropractic adjustment for kids from birth throughout life can be very beneficial especially in the areas of helping with sleep and preventing illness. Does she have any other health problems that may be contributing? Look up a wellness based family chiropractic practice in your area.

Most children can sense tension no matter how hard you try to hide it. She may be a little clingy due to the divorce but the best thing for you to do is put her down to sleep and don't hang around in the bedroom. Say her prayers with her and kiss/hug goodnite and leave immediately. My twins doctor told me the more you try to quiet her the more you get frustrated... she will sense your irritation and then she will get more irritated. If she is not crying all day you know there is no medical problem. She is probably having separation issues. And this too shall pass just like all the other things our children go through. The key to everything with children is CONSISTENCY! However you decide to handle it... you have to do the same thing everytime you put her down to sleep. They only know what we teach them. Pray for her. God bless you!

Just hold her, lay down with her, snuggle. She's going through a lot of changes, too. And sounds like she's having some separation anxiety.

If she's still screaming and fussing even with your undivided attention and lovin's, I agree with getting the ears checked.