19 Months Old Still Having Sleep Issues

Updated on August 18, 2009
L.G. asks from Canoga Park, CA
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Hello Momma's..... I have 2 wonderful girls ages 7 and 19 months. My 7 year old is a fabulous sleeper. As if she came with training from the hospital. Then my little 19 month old has proven that 2 are never the same. I have always had sleep issues with my little one. She just seemed to always have short restless sleeping patterns since a few weeks old. I can probably count on 2 hands the number of times she has slept an ENTIRE night. Typically she will go down fairly easy with little problems. However she wakes easily and constant throughout the night. The other issue that seems to be growing is the way she does not want me to comfort her initially. She seems to be angry and will start to say "go" as if we need to go outside the room and do a stroll around the house while she calms down on my shoulder. Is it night terrors? This continues to happen every night...no joke. Please share your stories of relief or resources for help would be nice. I am so tired of hearing she will grow out of this by a certain age...blah blah. Thanks for reading

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S.H.

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I don't think this is night-terrors. But you can read about it online.

How about, since you said she wakes easily... when she does wake, just wait. Wait and see if she will settle herself down by herself, first. THEN, if she does not, then you need to go in and try something.
Or try white-noise. When my son naps, we put on a fan on low... and he likes this. It mutes out the other household noises while he naps. And he has a lovey that he loves sleeping with.

Many babies/kids wake sporadically during the night.. but it does not necessarily mean, you need to go and pick them up right away. Many times, they will go back to sleep.

ALSO, make sure she is taking naps during the day. An "over-tired" baby/child will NOT sleep well at night. Over-tiredness actually makes a child unable to sleep well at night, AND they wake more.

ALSO, before bed, make sure she winds-down first. And keep things calm/quiet etc. Not active playing before bed, as some kids do. Even an hour BEFORE bed, just calm things down first.

Or maybe she is teething.

But as you said, every child is different with sleep, ability. My daughter, since birth, was noise sensitive and a light-sleeper and very alert even during sleep. Even a flushing toilet would wake her. She was just more sensory sensitive. So, we went according to her and her rhythms. My son on the other hand, was so much simpler to put to sleep. He was routine oriented, and did well with a sleep schedule. Whereas my daughter did not... she had different needs. BUT By the time BOTH my kids were about 2 years old, they were sleeping through the night. As many kids do. But I never let them cry it out. It was a natural progression, and per their sleep maturity ability.

There is no single "cure" for sleep deviations, since all kids are different.

Or, make sure she gets a good feeding before bed. Since during growth-spurts, they tend to wake more.

All the best,
Susan

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J.S.

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I don't have any suggestions, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. My son is also 19 months and does NOT sleep through the night. He is up anywhere from 2-8 times a night. I find that a lot of it has to do with how much he eats before going to bed.

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K.M.

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we have a 20 month old who also tends to to wake 1-3 times per night (sometimes more) and we have tried many things since she was 6 months old to help her sleep through the night. once we ruled out ear infections and teething as the cause (we had a 6 month run of ear infections and the teething seems nonstop sometimes!), we usually wait a little to see if she settles. If not, then my husband usually goes into her room, not me, and we don't pick her up but pat her gentley. sometimes he sings softly to her, tells her it's night night time, to lie down, etc. In June, at 18 months old, we started to do a sort of modified CIO since we don't believe in that and we would put her down, soothe a little, say our night nights and then walk out. if she cried for five min, one of us would go in, pat and soothe, not pick up and then walk out again. we did five min on, five min off and the same at nap time. we had some rough nights but not much and she's been sleeping through the night much better. we realized that she shifted and we needed to do more quiet play and settling down at night. she still wakes some nights, but I do remind myself it's a phase, she'll grow out of it and sometimes our expectations of children sleeping through the night aren't realistic. plus, at this age, hard to know if it isn't something wrong (teeth hurting and waking her when she's in the lighter phases of sleep, bad dream, noise, who knows?) so we do go in and comfort but try to put some limits on it. she also sleeps with a white noise machine to help prevent wake ups due to sound (we have two teens as well and prefer not to shush them all evening!).
good luck, I feel your pain...

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L.T.

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I luckily have a good sleeper who is almost 2 1/2, but a couple of months back she went through a phase where she was waking more than normal at night and seeming more restless, and seeming to have a few nightmares. I think it has a lot to do with age. I noticed that her crib wasn't as comfortable anymore either, so we are covering the crib sheet with a soft blanket that tucks into the sides to keep it from sliding around and she is much happier when her bed is "nice and squishy" (her words). Also, we got her a pillow with her favorite characters on the pillowcase, a small table fan set on low or medium (she is a hot sleeper and this has helped IMMENSLY) and also a nightlight, which was a huge help because at this age they start getting scared of nightmares, the dark, etc. I think you will have to work on this a little longer with your little one, but making a few changes to make the bed feel more comfortable and happy might help a bit. I would try to minimize the time you spend in there, I know it's hard but it will make it easier in the long run. Good luck and I hope this is just a developmental phase so you can go back to getting some sleep soon.

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