12 Month Old, Delayed Development & in Need of Positive Feedback

Please don't beat yourself up. You have a beautiful baby who I'm sure is very loved. Don't regret having him. You chose to have another child. He is here and is a great person, regardless of whatever issues he may have. Embrace him for who he is and help him be the best he can be. I have cared for children with special needs as a daycare provider and foster parent for many years. Each of the children brought such joy to my life. They all were happy, wonderful people despite their challenges. I say that you should trust your instinct on whether to pursue further testing with him. You aren't neglecting him as he is in EI. Continue with therapy and pray for the best. All children develop differently. He may just be taking his sweet time and catch up soon. If he doesn't, then the extra help will help him a lot. Only time will tell what hiss capabilities will be. Don't waste this precious time in your baby's life worrying because it goes by too quickly. Just love him. Things will work out how they are meant to be.

Ok, I am sorry but I somehow got lost in the post and could not quite keep up with who had what and how many children you have but that is beyond the point. For any child who has development concerns one thing that I have learned is that mommy needs a support team of other parents who GET IT!!! Another is that you need to work on the things that they are behind in MORE than what they are succeeding in and you need to pay attention to the milestones and HELP your child reach them IN ORDER!!! We skipped orders on some and I REGRET IT. My child does have special needs and I feel that we could have done him a better service had I recognized it earlier and not been so focused on what he did well and said "Oh the rest will come in time" some things did not really come and he is 4 still working on learning some skills of a two or three year old and tests like that as well Really ... all you can do is say YEAH I have children who are physicall healthy they just need help in some areas and I can be the one to give it to him weather that is by doing it yourself or getting him to the people who are trained for it. You are not at fault, you are not a bad mommy or a bad person you simply need to pick up the pieces of your broken heart and get the right team put to gether and get things working in the right direction. **HUGS**

Hang in there. Keep working with the therapist. Do you live near a children's hospital? Maybe you can get an appointment with a developmental pediatrician.

I am a very proactive person, so I encourage you to look into this more when you are ready. Maybe give it 3 months. If he's not crawling or pulling to a stand by then, get a referral to a developmental pediatrician.

My daughter is the same. At 13 months, she's not crawling, not sitting herself up, not pulling to stand, and of course not walking. At 9 months we started PT with her and she's made steady but slow progress ever since. She has low muscle tone in her neck/arms/shoulders that makes crawling and lifting her head more effortfull, but she can do it and we need to work everyday to encourage her and do the the excersizes the PT teaches us.
I KNOW, it's a bummer, but i've come to the conclusion that this is just a small part of who she is. It's her life and her journey and all I can do is love and support her. My daughter is a delight in every aspect, the kid just needs some excersize and motivation.
Please don't beat yourself up, you're doing your best and that's all we can do.

You have one child with special needs, and that is one of the most stressful experiences ever. You need to take care of yourself, and see a professional about how you are feeling emotionally. All parents who have children with needs will need help at some point, and there is absolulty no shame in that at all. It is very difficult, and you are not alone. I can spot your need, I have been there myself, and you can feel better. Call a mental health professional, and if you cannot do it yourself, have your husband call for you. Treat this like the oxygen mask on an airplane, you need to put the mask on yourself before you can help the child sitting next to you.

You need to stop blaming yourself and feeling guilty and selfish, a professional can help you get over that, so that you can do what needs to be done for your youngest child. ECI is not diagnostic, and is never all that kids need. Make an appointment with a developmental Pediatrician, it will be many months before your child will get in, so you have plenty of time to get help so that you feel better in the mean time. By the time your child can get into see the Developmental Pedaitarican, you will no longer be looking at it as picking them appart, but as the first step in finding out what you need to do to help them.

Been there, done that...you are not alone.

M.

my sister had a friend whose little girl had the same thing going on with her when she was a little of a year old. she couldn't sit up, couldn't crawl. basically the only thing she could do was lay there. fast forward 6yrs (with no therapy) and she is perfectly fine. every situation is different, of course, but why beat youself up over it? all of your children will be loved equally, and your middle child (and more than likely your youngest) will have a great amount of compassion and understanding of the differences and obstacles that people have to overcome.

Look, you obviously love both of your kids. (you have 2 right?) Anyway, as you well know, EI is key and you are getting him that. Take what your doc thinks to heart, get your LO the services & help he needs. He might surprise you! Hang in there, mom. You'llALL be ok.

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Try to find someone in your area to work on both of your DD children. It doesn't matter where the delay comes from, the intervention is the same. A home program can be given to you so that there is little need to go to EI. he needs to learn to crawl and he can't because he is stuck with primitive reflexes that will not let his body and central nervous system work together. I have been doing this work and seeing miracles for all ages, even when the therapists gave up! It works! Typical therapy works on symptoms, MNRI goes right to the core problem and fixes it so the brain can mature. Get started right away. If you need help, let me know.