My Daugther 1 and My Son 3 Years They Always Need Me Attentions Same Time

Dear M. C:

I understand your feelings. I am a Mother of 5; 3 girls (9, 7, 5) and 2 boys (2 & 1). I work full-time. I have to admit that most of my time is spent cleaning up spills and doing laundry. It is definitely an effort to make special time for each child.

So, the individual special time you grab when the other child is taking a nap or something. In our home usually the youngest child stays up the latest (at least until they start school) for some extra baby snuggles.

I usually put the older children up on our counter so their drawings and projects are away from the boys who will probably just eat them.

On the floor I spread out some toys or cars for the younger ones to play with. Then I sort of cook dinner and go back and forth between the two play areas.

Sometimes we notice that one child hasn't had some really good alone time with us in awhile; so we make arrangements for a sitter and take them out to lunch or a movie. They really love that.

When they get older you can actually say, "OK, I'm going to throw a load of laundry in, start dinner; then I'll help you with your homework and then read a book to your sister.

You're only one person. It's my opinion that they adapt to that and it helps them learn patience and understanding when they're older. I was an only child...and there's not a patient bone in my body:)

Good Luck

J. G

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You can try to have them play ball.? Dancing to kids music (you can rent music from the library). Tell him when his sister goes for a nap, you will play (one-onone ) with him & his toys. He is just looking for his mommy that he had before the new baby sister came along. =) Good Luck!

M., I remember those days. My sons(15 and 13) are only 18mths. apart. I now also have a 5yr.old daughter and sometimes my daughter does the same thing when she sees me doing something w/ her brothers....Finding things the kids can do together and w/ you is a good way to teach them to play w/ each other as well as you. I love the finger paints that crayola has out now the color wonders they only work on special paper. It helps to keep the mess to a min. Playing legos is also good,try Fisher price little people. Kids love them, they are cute and help them w/ their imaginations and moms can play too. Plus if your one yr. old trys to eat them they are safe. LOL!!!!! Good luck and just have fun. Kids are so special at this age befor you know it they are all grown up and dont want your attenchion anymore.

On days where I am feeling pulled in several directions, I assign a certain amount of time to each child. For example, the oldest gets 15 minutes alone with me, then youngest gets 15 minutes alone with me. After that 15 minutes of playtime together, then mommy gets her alone alone time while they play. I repeat this as long as it is needed throughout the day.

I also reinforce througout the day that mommy has enough love for both of them and I love them the same :)

M.,

Try staggering their nap times during the day and have special time for each of them while the other one naps. This way you'll be able to give both of them undivided attention during the day. On the weekends plan a mommy/daughter daddy/son day or a vice versa every so often that way each one feels special gets to spend time alone with you and/or their daddy.

Hope this helps,
Mel

Maybe you could get your older child to participate in helping you with your younger child. set aside special time for each and it will take time for them to understand that right now you are doing one thing with the older and so the younger must take some time close by to themselves and vice versa. I know it is struggling right now but I can assure you in a few short months things will change. I am a mother of three(5,4,and3) and I know how different they can be in their activities. Safe things to do with your older child that your younger child can have fun with as well.. look online for this recipe but have them finger paint with pudding paint. It is edible and priceless to watch. Hope this helps

Hello,
my mane is P.. Try things like movie time, then have tem draw there fav thing from the movie. Or you could paint with them(non-toxic). Try buying toys they can share, like building blocks, little people etc. Try playing one of his games with her them one of her games with him. That way they learn to share as well.
P.