T.T. asks from Richmond, TX on June 11, 2010
HELP! I Guess I Am the ONLY Woman Who Doesnt Know Her Body
OK, so please be patient with me. I have posted on here twice before thinking I was pregnant, but I am not. I am confused by my recent doctor appointment and made another for Wed because I think they are wrong. Something is wrong with me. I know it in my heart, and my gut. I had my gall bladder removed in feb of this year. and this stuff may be because of that, but I have no idea. For the past month, or a little more, I have headaches. I can have one for a whole week, or have one just that week. Which is REALLY getting to me. This month in particular, I have been so tired. I posted on here in May (14th) and reported I was so exhausted. I FINALLY started my period yesterday (the 10th) and I do feel better. Not as tired, but still tired. My breasts started to hurt on the 8th and I thought I was pregnant because they have not hurt in MONTHS. But the pregnancy test came negative. My period for the month of May was short and weird. Lasted a few days. which I normally last a full 5 to 7 days. In May, this did not happen, and when my period was done, after 3 days, I dropped a few clots, which where not bloody. SO, now i started on 10th of this month. Which I did bleed pretty good yesterday using a super tampon. I did notice at one point late in the afternoon I passed a clot that actually looked more like blood mixed with mucus. But didnt really think much. I pretty much stopped bleeding today. Yesterday I was experiancing bad cramps and even had to use an icy hot patch to help with the cramps at night. But today, it has been off and on with heavy then nothing at all. My OBGYN told me that my period for May was like that because I probably didnt ovulate. Ok, I get that, but why would this happen again this month? Does this mean I dont ovulate? He told me to count my days on when I should be fertile, and when you are fertil that means you are ovulating right? Then why do they say you ovulate when your breasts hurt? I am so confused. We are trying to have a baby and have been trying for a year now, with no luck . Along with my symtpms now, no matter what I eat, I get sick after I eat. Makes me not want to eat anymore. Today, I only ate 3 tamales and one ice cream cone. Which normally I have more then that, but I have no appatite. I think this is it so far. ha ha... SORRY about the spelling and this being so long, but I dont know what to do or what to ask my doctor. I just want to have a baby. But now I think something else is going on. My head has never hurt like this, I normally LOVE to eat. I barely have the energy to do basic household chores. I dont work, and stay home with my 5 year so I dont do anything that would exhaust me. Plus my horomones are out of whack too. I cry at the drop of the time, and just so emotional. ANY help would work. I am lost. Dont know what to do and probably over reacting. I just need to know what to do and what to say to the doctor. Thanks so much for listening to me.
R.J. answers from Seattle on June 11, 2010
The best piece of advice I can proffer is to stop trying for 6 months. Seriously. Start trying again as an xmas gift to yourself.
The reason why stress messes us up so much is that it ISN'T all in our minds. Stress brings on an adrenalin response. In the short term adrenalin does the following:
- Speeds up our heartrate
- Pulls the blood from our limbs & skin surface to our core
- Shuts off the digestive response (hence why people throw up when nervous, or kids pee their pants, or in extreme situs people have uncontrollable bowel movements). This not only includes eliminating, but also shuts off our hunger response
- Halts our circadian rhythm (no rest / inability to sleep)
- Shuts off our immune response
- Heightens our emotions / emotional response to stimuli
- Uses a LOT of energy
(and about 40 other things, but those are the biggies just off the top of my head)
Honey... does this list sound familiar?
(( The Parasympathetic Nervous System is nicknamed "Rest & Digest", the sympathetic nervous system... we have a whole SYSTEM for EACH... is nicknamed "Fight or Flight" ))
In the extreme short term, our sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight) is very very useful. In the long term, it causes sooooooo many problems. Stress triggers the sympathetic system, and we can live on it... but it makes us sick. Very very sick.
You've undergone a LOT of physical stress from surgery & healing (simple fact). You're also under stress trying to conceive (hence why so many women get pregnant on "vacation" or right after they've finally "given up" and in sooooo many cases, just after they've adopted a baby).
Give your body some time to heal, and time to take care of itself. Give it at least 6 months. Rest. Relax. Pamper yourself.
Think of it as "home remodeling" for the baby to come. The more rested and relaxed you are when you conceive the healthier the pregnancy will be.
So the best piece of advice I can proffer is to wait 6 months.
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B.S. answers from Honolulu on June 12, 2010
It all sounds hormonal and hormones are controlled by your brain. If you're stressed out for any reason it can throw your hormones out of balance. If you're obsessed with getting pregnant and it's causing you stress then you're likely not to have success. I'd stop trying to get pregnant for now. I'd focus on getting daily exercise and eating well. Sometimes if you want something badly enough your body responds by sending out false hormonal signals like pregnancy symptoms even if you're not pregnant. Good luck with everything, I know it can be frustrating.
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R.Y. answers from New York on June 11, 2010
It really does sound like something hormonal, though not necessarily pregnancy. I would request your doctor do some blood tests including hormone levels. I would ask for a thyroid function test (it makes you tired and messes up your appetite if it is low). It might also be something related to low blood sugar (headaches and being tired) especially since you are not eating well. I do sometimes get a month with bad PMS and periods(moody, irritable, tired but can't sleep, etc.) and some of it sounds a little like that. You can always try a pregnancy test again in 2 weeks just in case. I don't know but I am not a doctor.
I would look for some good information on the menstrual cycle. There is probably stuff online. I have heard there is a good book called Taking Control of Your Fertility (I think) written for women trying to get pregnant. I have a 20 year old copy of Our Bodies, Ourselves that has a great chapter on the menstrual cycle. It's very readable and has a chart with all the different hormone levels through the month. Briefly a typical cycle starts (day 1) when your period starts. Estrogen (and some additional hormones) increase for the first half of the cycle and this makes an egg ripen until it is released at ovulation then that hormone level drops. The place in ovary that released the egg starts releasing progesterone that then builds up the uterus lining. If there is no pregnancy the progesterone level peaks and drops off and when it drops you get your period and are back at the beginning of the cycle. If you get pregnant (about a 3-4 day window around ovulation) the fertilized egg implants 7-10 days later and starts producing another hormone (HGC) that builds up the uterus to sustain the pregnancy. Most pregnancy tests are testing the HGC level but sometimes a woman can only have a tiny bit that early on and it doesn't register.
Anyway, I'm not sure that much of the science is helpful but you can read various books and chart your cycle for a few months to figure out your own cycle and most fertile time. Because things seem so off for you right now I would write down what is happening for you and how you feel each day. Even if your doctor runs some tests and doesn't know what is happening yet you might start to see a pattern after a couple of cycles. If this goes on for a while you could try and endocrinologist or infertility specialist who might have more idea of what is going on. I hope it sorts itself out for you soon.
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D.K. answers from Sioux City on June 12, 2010
Thyroid and low progesterone can cause pretty much all your describing. Ask your doctor to run some hormone tests.
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J.L. answers from Minneapolis on June 11, 2010
You should check into natural family planning. There are things you can do on your own to accurately chart fertility. If done correctly you can even know when you're going to ovulate, if you have successfully ovulated or not. Many women who have fertility issues have successfully conceived using natural family planning. If you have issues like pcos, fibroids, endometriosis or are perimenopausal, you might be a better candidate for NAPRO Creighton Method of family planning.
Read the following books:
Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler
The Art of Natural Family Planning by Sheila Kipley
Nutrition and Fertility Cycles by Marilyn Shannon
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K.K. answers from Detroit on June 11, 2010
Ask your Dr. to do blood work to check your hormone levels. There are quite a few different ones that should all be checked under the same panel. Some of them are: estradiol, progesterone, TSH (thyroid), BHCG (pregnancy) etc... This will at least be a start to make sure your hormones are ok.
Good luck, I hope you feel better, and I hope you are able to get pregnant soon!!
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J.W. answers from Houston on June 12, 2010
I would suggest picking up a copy of "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Wesschler (sp?).
It will shed light on so many of your questions.
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B.Z. answers from Chicago on June 11, 2010
Do you visit a reproductive endocrinologist? I have a story to share with you that may point you in this direction. I'll message you privately about it. In the meantime, I hope you can get more from the positive things that you have in your life at this time; these things can help you through this rough spot.