Plz Somebody Answer Me.

I forget the actual statistics (haven't looked them up in about a year), but from memory, I believe that the numbers are: The average woman having unprotected sex is pregnant without knowing it 4-7 times per year.

From studies done, the single most common reason, was a miss-match of genes/allelles. All of our genetics have to zipper up, and form a brand new complementary DNA double helix. Sometime lethal combinations are made, other times during the "check" that the body does, the DNA is coding incorrectly (these are big bad mistakes...like DNA that won't code for protein, etc. Small mistakes that are STILL lethal get bipassed at this stage, and terminate later :( :( :( While there are literally hundreds of birth defects that are NOT lethal (downs, spina bifida, hydrocephalus, etc)...there are thousands of defects that we don't ever see except for in a lab, because the body terminates.

Sitting in class, looking at all of these studies and research, 2 things always came to mind:

1) How do ANY of us ever get born in the first place?
2) The mental image of a little spirit standing there with her hands on her hips and an eyebrow raised, tapping her foot saying "Nope. Try again. I am NOT going to have two heads! Excuuuuuuse Me. You want me to be born without bones? I don't THINK so. Start over. Let's get it right this time, shall we people???"

It's possible that the test you took at home was more sensitive, or that your hcg levels were higher...and that the blood test will come back positive. It's also possible that this is one of those times (that we only catch when we're hoping&testing&hoping&testing that the dna just didn't line up correctly. Wait for the bloodtest to come back. We'll cross our fingers for you!!!

i have heard you can have a false positive but not a false negative however I'm not sure that is true with urine tests. If you are trying to conceive i recommend reading "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler.

this book has helped me tremendously, all i did was think about it and i was pregnant with my first so when it took me over 1 year to get pregnant with my 2nd child i started looking for answers. this helped so much and it was so much easier to get pregnant with my 3rd.

hopefully you get the blood results back soon & your mind can be at ease. so sorry hang in there.

I would wait for the blood test results as that is supposed to be more accurate than urine tests. With both of my kids I took tests when I was a few days late and they came up negative. The positive wouldn't show up on my tests until I was about 6 weeks preggo and the lines were super faint. My best friend could take a pregnancy test 5 days early and get the darkest lines. We are all different and our hormone levels are too. It's not that urine tests aren't accurate, because they are, it's just that sometimes there isn't enough hormone in your body to detect the pregnancy if you take it too early. Each test is slightly different. Some detect smaller doses of hormone (the 5 day early ones) while others require higher hormone levels to detect the pregnancy. Perhaps you used an early one and your doc did not? Do not get discouraged just yet. Wait for the blood results and hang in there.

That same thing happened to me before I conceived my son. It was probably a chemical pregnancy, when the egg gets fertilized but doesn't implant. I wouldn't worry about it too much. These things occur all the time in healthy women and its just nature's way. We normally wouldn't even know it was happening if it weren't for these pregnancy tests that you can take "5 days sooner."

A girlfriend and I both had the same thing happen - positive test, then negative - because of a miscarriage. If you miscarried very early in the pregnancy, you might not have any usual symptoms. I'm so sorry for the stress and grief this is causing you! Not knowing is very stressful.

The other most common cause of a negative test when someone is actually pregnant is taking the test too soon, before your body has built up enough of the hormone to show up on the tests.

Giving birth can affect your cycle, so you may be less, or more, regular than you were before having a baby. That can also make you think you're late, even if you aren't.

Don't worry, I'm sure you'll be able to add to your family when the time is right. Good luck!

I went through a similar situation with my 2nd Son. I kept taking pregnancy tests, home and at the Dr., all were coming back negative. My Dr. even prescribed me a pill to make my period start. It never came. =) I was pregnant with my 2nd Son. I had a feeling I was pregnant the whole time. Give it a week and go back to the Dr. and have her test you again (if your period doesn't come).

Hi M.,
The blood test is more accurate. What they are checking for is elevated levels of HcG in your urine. This is the hormone the baby creates once it implants.
Also, if you are still nursing your 15 month old you may not be ovulating as you were before even though you may be menstruating. One way to check at home is to do a ovulation predictor kit. It detects certain hormones that indicate whether or not your body is preparing to release an egg. This will also tell when you are most fertile and able to conceive.
It sounds like you have a lot going on in your home with a 15 month old and your husband's health issues. I imagine once things start to get easier on both those fronts you will conceive. Your hormones are very much effected by stress. Acupuncture is a great means to help with stress management. Some insurances will cover a portion of the cost. It also helps balance hormones and prepares your uterus for conception.
Also, make sure you see a good ob/gyn to give you a physical. If you have had a hard time conceiving (more than 6 months), than they will run some tests. Some of these tests include checking your hormones a day or two after you menstruate and on day 15-20. They should see shifts in both your estrogen and progesterone. Low progesterone seems to be the most common hormone that prevents pregnancy from happening. However, this can be supplemented through progesterone shots or suppositories.
My husband and I went down this road for nearly three years and we are just 13 weeks pregnant with our first. We ended up going through IVF as there seemed nothing really out of the ordinary in our health aside from our ages.
Hope this helps.

Read the book: Taking Charge of your Fertility. It recommends charting your cervical fluid and morning temperature to determine your actual day of ovulation, and your temperature indicators to determine if you are a) ovulating and b) possibly getting pregnant and miscarrying. You have a child, so that means that you can get pregnant. It took my husband and me nearly a year of actively trying to conceive our second. The charting that the book talks about is very helpful in understanding what is happening with YOUR cycle in particular, and can help troubleshoot any issues that you might have. Good luck! Hang in there!

yes i would say the doc's office is most accurate..stop stressing..relax..and say "if its going to happen it's going to happen i'm not going to stress over it" i was stressing out..i'm now 44..i was 40 and trying to get pregnant..after not getting pregnant for like 3 months i spoke to my child..I said "hey you better you come soon b/c i'm starting to change my mind" and i stop stressing out about it..i had faint lines..and i wanted them to be positive..then we had sex June 7th 2005..same day i took off for NYC ..and my clothes started to feel tight immediately and i took a test when i got home and it was a solid strong +
I really think it was b/c i quit stressing. i also took herbs like some raspberry tea thing...but i think it was b/c i quit putting pressure on myself..i would lay in the bath and imagine going to this place where all the babies are and picking out my baby..sounds kooky but it helped me. So..3.5 years later and i'm thinking..OMG! why did i do this haha...no really i love being a mom...it's HARD but it's great and you'll get pregnant and if not there are alternatives..but again stop stressing* hugs
and good luck!

I too had a positive home pregnancy test on the morning of day 29 of my cycle. Scheduled a doctor appointment that afternoon to confirm and get an OB recommendation. The urine test came back negative. So he scheduled a blood test which came back positive. Be patient and wait for the blood test results--they are the most accurate.

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this stress. I've been there and it is so difficult to process it while you are in the moment.

This is different for everyone, so take a little from all the responses and hopefully it will add up to something. I had a similar experience, happened three times actually. I took a home pregnancy test = positive. Blood test at doc was positive, but, low. A week later, it was lower and I had had an early miscarriage. The doc said it was just a normal miscarriage (they all are 'normal' the first, and second, time around).

The third time, faint positive at home, then negative urine at office. But, the blood later came back telling me that I had been pregnant again. Intuitively, I felt that there was something up, I had to switch doctors to get someone to listen to me. The new doc ran some tests and found that I had a clotting issue, but that still didn't really explain the early miscarriage (clots affect the second trimester - but I felt lucky to have found this issue and went on blood thinners once we got a pregnancy to stick).

My doctor also thought it could be hormonal, so we started progesterone (quinone) I think 48 hours after we tried to conceive. The next time we tried, the pregnancy stuck and I have a lovely little girl.

As for urine tests, they are accurate to a degree (if they see enough of the pregnancy hormone, they will read positive), but, the blood test will tell you much more, quantitatively (how much of the hormone is there).

Just remember, everyone has a unique experience. Listen to your intuition. Relax and trust your body to tell you, and then trust your doctor to help you sort it out when/if you feel the need.

all the best..

Wait for the blood test. In May I had taken an early home pregnancy test and the first day it came back really really faint. The next day (day 27) still faint but a little darker. The next day I had a health scare that put me into UrgiCare. I told them I might be pregnant. They did the urine test and it said negative. Since they wanted to give me an x-ray, I held firm to my belief that my faint HPT's were right. They did a stat blood test and it was positive. I am now 10 weeks pregnant.

Good luck!

When I was pregnant with my son, I took 2 home tests that were negative, but my period was a couple days late and I am never late. I went to the dr. when I was a week late and they did a urine test(same tests we get at the store). It still showed negative. I went on vacation and came back a week later and still had not started so I went back to the dr. and he did a blood test. The next day, I called back for my results and they were positive. My body had not built up enough pregnancy hormone to show up in a urine test yet, but blood tests can tell right away. The tests you took, were they an early pregnancy indicator or a regular test? That may be the reason the dr. cannot tell yet and you can. Your test may be able to detect it sooner. Good luck!

urine tests are pretty accurate, but the blood test will tell you for sure. it could also be possible that something happened that canceled the pregnancy in the meantime. it is an emotional rollercoaster for sure!

if you continue not having luck the Doc can do some blood work on you...another easy test is have the Dr swab you a few hours after intercourse and look at it under the microscope to see if the "boys" are thriving (that turned out to be my problem). of course try to alleviate stressors 1st and get hubby checked too.

good luck!

What you had was a chemical pregnancy. I know because I had 7 of them between my first and second children. You need to have your doctor check your progesterone levels. May be worth it to see an OB who specializes in fertility. The fact that you conceived is good news. Now they just have to figure out how to keep you pregnant.

I ended up doing acupuncture for 5 months. It was specifically for fertility. I had done all the fertility tests and they couldn't find anything wrong. So I turned to natural methods. But even with acupuncture I took progesterone for the first trimester.

Keep the faith. It will happen, just keep investigating what will help!

HTH,
B.

Dear M.,

Everybody's situation is different, and there are lots of specialists out there who can help you should the need arise. I can only tell you from my own experience that both my husband and I were convinced after 10 months of trying that we both had terrible problems. Worse I kept having these terrible stomach cramps, but no period. All my urine and pregnancy tests were negative. I was sitting at my desk and my doctor called to tell me that my stomach cramps were not in vain, that I was pregnant. My symptoms were weird, could be ectopic, but as it turns out, my little stomach cramp just finished his first year of college. Best of luck.

Dear M.,
I had hard time to conceive about almost for two years. And now I am 6 weeks pregnant. My husband is a big guy and his health gotten better. We both taking vitamins for four month and then, we gave it, it try again. And you must see if you are ovulating. Ah, the white stretching thing that is coming out of your******ia. It means that your eggs are warm for only couple of days. I also went through a postpartum depression Just want to let you know that I went through a lot. A lot of emotional rides with my wonderful husband. If you think you are going through that, see your therapist. Get healthy first!

A.

A false positive pregnancy test is when the test says that you are pregnant but actually you are not. This is a one off case and a positive pregnancy test is a pretty good indication that you are pregnant. False positive pregnancy tests are rare - though there are instances and conditions where they can occur. There could be various reasons for a false positive test:
1-Chemical Pregnancy
A chemical pregnancy is basically an early miscarriage. Research has shown that half of all first pregnancies end in miscarriage. Due to the high sensitivity of home pregnancy tests, many women catch early pregnancies but end up going on to have their periods due to a chemical pregnancy.
2-Missed Reaction Time
For accuracy in home pregnancy tests it is essential that you read the test results in the stipulated reaction time. If you let the test sit for too long (after the instructions on the box tell you), the test is invalid. This may cause it to show false positive results.
3-Evaporation Lines
While technically not a true pregnancy, some pregnancy tests leave a faint evaporation line as the urine crosses the test. This faint very light grey evaporation line in the test area is often interpretted as a positive result.A blood test administered by your doctor is more sensitive than the early home tests and can be taken between seven and twelve days after you conceive.I would trust the urine test at your doctor's office more than the ones you have done at home.However if you don't get your period in 2 weeks go back to your doctor for repeat pregnancy test.

Hi M.,

I am a woman in my fifties, BUT when I was 23 years old I was also late for my
period. I had a 19 month old baby and felt that I was pregnant. They did not
have home pregnancy tests then so I had to go in to my doctors office and give
my urine sample. They told me I WAS NOT pregnant. A few days later I had no
period and I continued to feel I was. I gave urine during the 2 1/2 months and
each time they were adamant I WAS NOT PREGNANT! I knew my body, so I went
to another doctor and they gave me an internal test. I remember their exact words...
"Honey you have a bun in the oven" I was almost 3 months along. So doctors and
urine tests and home pregnancy tests can be wrong. I hope for your sake they are...
but keep trying. Yes, stress can play a VERY BIG part when trying to get pregnant.
Hoping for the best for you.

M.,

The urine test done at the doctor's office is no more or less reliable than the one you do at home. And many things can effect the outcome. If you have been drinking enough water the HCG hormone may be so diluted in your urine that it is undetectable. That is why home tests tell you to do them first thing in the morning (when your urine is the most concentrated and least diluted).

The blood test will tell you what is going on. Good luck and {{hugs}}.

T.

Good Morning M., Don't be sad, I'm going to tell you the same ting i told my son and daughter inlaw, RELAX and just keep enjoying one another, they have been trying for a little over 2 years and nothing they have done all the mechanical stuff to get pregnant like taking her tempature, following and documenting her ovulation days, but what happend was their love making became all about making a baby. My daughter inlaw is the only wife in their circle of friends who does not have a baby, every month she goes through the same dissapointments you are going through. so now i got them to wrap their minds around it will happen when it;s supossed to, you know you can conceive you ave a 15 month old, relax sweetie you have time, I am 52 that's why i;m talking to you like a mom, my son an daughter inlaw are both 25, they will be 26 this year, I was 26 when i had him and her mom was 26 when she had her. I had my other 2 at ahe 30 and 32, all planned. I understand the sadness of thinking you were pregnant and wasn't I went through a ver depressing time in my late 40's I knew I wad pregnnt or starting menapause, although I didn't want a baby in my late 40's the idea was making me excited, of course that wasn't the case, the dissapoitment drapped over me like bed spread, hope for not knowing you that wasn't to much information, if so sorry. but be happy with your family you have, it when it's the right time I believe it will happen, stress wont help you. J. L.