Have you guys ever felt that way about an ex boyfriend? LOL I dated a guy for a couple years when we were teenagers, and at 17 we were talking about getting married. But, he was so immature I finally broke it off with him. Then dated someone who was a million times worse. :(. Uggh he was a verbally abusive, chauvinistic !%&%&. I will say that he wasn't like that when we first dated. He was SO sweet, sent me flowers, showered me with compliments...etc. All of my girlfriends said I was SOOOO lucky. Yeah, but after we got engaged everything changed. He was controlling and tried to tell me who I could and who I couldn't be friends with. Tried to get me to stop working so I could stay at home and wait on him, anything to isolate me. He was never wrong about anything...ever. Finally I woke up and dumped him.
Then I met my current husband, who is smart, funny, and treats me well. So, anyway I found out from some people that the emotional abusive guy I dated is married with one son. Apparently his wife is a meek, totally repressed thing. Who hardly ever leaves the house. The lady that was telling me this told me, "I am so glad you got rid of that one, I shudder to think that that could have been you!"
The other guy has been married three different times. He still can't keep a job, and still makes rash decisions. I guess he never really grew up. So I not only dodged one bullet, but two!
Kim. LOL I am sure that there are a couple of guys who think that way about me....especially since because I have had three cancer scares in the last three years.
I did not doge the bullet. I married it. Sigh.
However I cannot be regretful since the nightmare produced 3 fantastic kids.
Also, it challenged me, changed me, and forced growth and wisdom on me that I might not otherwise have.
tehehe, cool post!
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i, like Theresa, married the bullet...lol. Although I've got a mini bullet out of it that I wouldn't trade for the world.
I don't think I dodged a bullet...I think I just finally pulled my head outta my butt. I have been in numerous abusive relationships...verbally, physically, and sexually. I was so stupid, staying, or going back, or finding the exact same kind of idiot to date. Thank God I finally figured out that I was worth more.
L.
My mom married one of those and thank God, divorced him after I moved out of the house.
This brings me to think that I will be teaching our daughter how to spot red flags during dating and how to break up with guys. I didn't learn any of this and had to learn the hard way on different things.
Good post :)
WOW, I sort-of had the same thing and not once but twice too, But I think we all can look at our ex's and see a bullet we all dodged.
My 1st= Momma's boy to the extreme he is now 36 and built his own house above Mommy's. He has a daughter now, and still will not commit, he has been with this women since we broke up (Over 13 years) Really ridiculous.
My 2nd = lived in the basement of his uncles restaurant. While we dated I had him living with me with his 2 kids. After he broke up with me to be with his ex (who used him for her own materialistic gain) he is still mooching off anyone he can and now he is not even working. LOOSER.
I am happy for you. You got the validation you needed that your choices to run were good ones; I wish more people had the guts to listen to their instincts and run.
I have dodged some bullets then got hit by others, but they were only flesh wounds so it's all good. I just know I am blessed I found the man I did....or did he find me? Not sure, but he's a treasure either way.
I have dodged a few bullets. It funny to see where they are or aren't now.
One that dodged me is now an anethesiologist. Makes a ton of money and turned out to be a great guy. But I do have my own great guy, just took me a while to find him.
Gurl my ex was the bullet I dodged, years later I found out years later when i remarried he(the ex) was arrested for stalking! I Thank God for my real husband.....
Yes im Willing to bet we all have ! I love my husband but when we were 19 he wasn't prince charming! It took a long time, 10 years before I felt like we were ready to be married. I dud date a guy one time that was so nice to me, held my hand and showered me with complimentary. That was lovely until I woke up and realized he was kind of secretive. Um yeah, your secretive when your married! I broke it off immediately and it took me a ling time to get over that guilt ( although I honestly had no clue). I ate the bullet on that one :( you live and learn I guess....
I, like Teresa, married the bullet as well... turned out to be the biggest blessing of my life because of my two sons that were the product. After 20 years he ran out of ammo and I happily escaped tho.
Second husband is a dream except now he's bipolar, so he's turned into a bullet, but now that I've had practice, I can hang.
I dodged a few bullets... I learned pretty quickly those red flags and when to run.
Oh... definitely. When you are young (read: in your 20s) you can really put up with some ludicrous behavior. (at least I did)
I also think that bad situations are where/how we learn to recognize the good ones.
Good for you....I think we all like to hear that guys, who once broke our hearts, are now miserable...:)
Good for you girl! Your head is screwed on tight and you do have good sense to do what is right. I hope your family stays strong and your children inherit your better judgment to be as successful as you are. Life teaches us great lessons in strange ways and people fall on our path to learn and grow. You were strong enough to rise above it and stay strong....what was best for you.
Although difficult, I too dodged a couple bullets, an abusive relationship and the first love of my life who seems to have an alcohol problem now a days. He finally got married recently and only because his girlfriend got pregnant. God help these men!
I can't help but wonder if some of my ex-boyfriends feel like they dogged a bullet by not committing to me?
