Daddies, Daughters and Nudity

Hi D.,
I have 2 boys and 1 girl. I think it can go either way for Mom or Dad giving the children their baths. When the children have an "issue" then it is time to stop. My boys and I have talked openly about the difference between boys and girls and that is not appropriate for ANYONE to touch your Private Parts! Our Doctor also talks to the children about this at their visits.
The human body is something we all have in common and should be discussed openly. If there are open lines of communication your children will tell you everything you need to know about what they are feeling.
Good Luck to you and your family!

Hun,

There is no right answer, this is all I can tell you w/o a doubt in my mind.

I can tell you that I was raised different I guess. The whole kissing on the lips (unless you're married) is just kinda ewww. But by the same token, we had a family bathroom well into my teens, heck clear up until I moved out.

It was no big deal if I was on the toilet or in the tub and he needed to do something in the bathroom. Just as it was no big deal if he was in the bathtub or on the toilet and I needed to do something in the bathroom. In my family, if it's the idmediate family it's ok. Grandpa/uncles on the other hand not so much.

I think I turned out ok. I was a virgin until I got married, so it's not like I thought it was the "ok" thing to do with just any guy.

It does have a lot to do with the child though, I'm sure my sister hit the "excuse me, I'm not dressed" with the sarcasism added stage. But I know she was at least 12 before that happened. If I were your husband, I'd not worry about it at all. Now if the girls start wanting more privacy, by all means, dad please give them some.

Whatever you do, make sure they learn why it's ok for daddy to see them naked and why it's not ok for other boys/guys to see them naked.

Good luck!

My girls are 9 and 6 months. My husband will not give her a bath--only sponge bath. He does change her though. For the other 2, one is very modest now. She has been for the last year. She does not like ANYone walking in on her in the bathroom. The other walks around in her underwear all the time. We are trying to get tehm to understand that they are older and it is time to always have clothes on, or at least a robe. I think once they get to the point that they can take showers/baths on their own is when it all kicks in. I know a couple that the husband has never seen their daughters naked, not even to change the diaper. I would say to just follow your instincts and listen to queues from your girls. You probably have an other year or 2 before anything comes up.

I wouldn't worry about it until your girls are uncomfortable with it. If they don't feel it's a big deal, no need to make a big deal out of it. Just remember that their dad will be the first man they "fall in love with" when they are about five or 6. It has nothing to do with him giving them baths. It's perfectly natural.

My daughter, age 5, showers herself, but b/c she inherited my wonderful skin, she needs lotion and sometimes cortizone on her body. My husband will do this when I am or not home. Not a big deal. He makes sure he is covered, on weekends, when he leaves the shower, but it is all normal. I do not think it is a big deal about kissing on lips. I am 32 and still kiss my dad when I see him. I guess it is the way you are brought up.

I think that once someone becomes uncomfortable with it, either daddy or one of the girls. Some people are totally against dads seeing their daughters (and visa versa) and I am sure you will get some posts in regards to that but I think it is a natural thing and you will know when it is time to stop having daddy do baths.

There was a huge post about this a few months back, you may be able to find it and see the responses. It was interesting.