Trying to Get Pregnant - Los Angeles,CA

It took me 10 months of unprotected sex to get pregnant with my first child and now me and DH are trying again. I thought that since my first pregnancy went wonderful (without one complication), that getting pregnant the second time would be easier. Lo and behold, we've been trying unsuccessfully to get preggo with #2 for 8 months now. Im just trying to enjoy the child I have now and know that if its meant to be, Ill get pregnant again, and if now.. well, Ill just consider myself blessed to have the wonderful child I already have. Some couples cant have children at all, im so happy to have my one.

I am sending preggo baby vibes your way! One thing to keep in mind is that as we get older, often times our periods become more irregular. If you have been on birth control for a long time, it is hard to know what type of cycle you may have in order to plan for the "right" time. I was on birth control for 15 years before trying for my first. When I went of BC I wanted to get pregnant right away. It took a few months of following my cycle to realize that most months I had 35 day cycles. I was way off on when I thought I should be ovulating so we were not hitting the "key" time. There are lots of free fertility tracking websites out there that might help give you some peace of mind- especially if you are a visual person. You enter data each day and it charts your cycle and shows when you ovulated that month. If you do this for a few months (while still trying just in case you get lucky and get preggers) you will start to see patterns in your cycle. On a side note, with my second child (who was a surprise) I got pregnant 1 week after my period. We were doing the rhythm method and I didn't think there was any way I could get pregnant that quickly after my period. Good luck, keep trying, and have fun while "practicing".

It sounds like your body is still adjusting, just keep trying. Get an ovulation kit like first response and this will tell you the "right" time to get busy. It took me 6 months to get pregnant, but once I used this test bamb I got pregnant with all three the fist time using the tests.

A., I don't have much to tell you other than the fact that I am in a similar situation. I am young, was on the pill when my hubby and I got pregnant with my 4 year old, and have been trying for almost 10 months now for number 2 to no luck. Just know that when it is time, it will happen. If you ever need to chat, feel free to PM me.

I think the key is here "is trying so hard". The more stressed out you are, the more negative the impact of those stress hormones are on your fertility hormones. You are putting way too much pressure on yourself to try to get pregnant for your husband's birthday. Take a deep breath and a few steps back. If you are 9 days late already, wait to take another pregnancy test no sooner than 5 days. Some pregnancy tests are less sensitive - I love Clearblue Easy.

In the meantime, get your body ready to receive a baby. Take prenatal vitamins, eat a balanced diet of protein, veggies, and fruit, exercise, and enjoy "practicing" with your husband. If it turns out that you are not pregnant, it's OK to be upset, but once your period ends, start taking ovulation tests so that you can start to track when you ovulate.

I am a bit older than you - I conceived my first a month after stopping the pill. We started trying for #2 a year and a half later, and it took awhile because we weren't keeping track of my ovulation (I was having regular periods by then). Turns out I ovulated late (day 21 instead of day 14) so we timed our fun around that day, and we are now pregnant.

Hi A.
Don't stress toooo much about not conceiving just yet.. just relax your second child will be here. There's nothing wrong with either of you. These things take time.

Best of luck to you guys & happy birthday to ur hubby

I have never been on birth control, but got pregnant with my first two children the first month we tried...both times. Imagine my feelings when trying for a third. Of course I expected it to happen that first month and when it didn't I felt that it was somehow my fault. It wasn't, I think we just got really lucky twice. It took three months of trying for this third one (which still isn't that long), but it comes as a huge relief that it finally worked out. Just be patient. Was your first child fathered by your husband? I agree with Melinda that it could be him...again it's only really been one month though, so I wouldn't get too worried about it. Stress is only going to hurt your chances of becoming pregnant. Good luck!

Don't stress yourself out. You can stress yourself into not getting pregnant. I would worry that after a year of trying and nothing happening then you should be concerned, but only a month and a half. Not time to worry yet! Relax and enjoy the "getting pregnant" process. I mean really isn't that the really fun part!

check out the book; Taking charge of your fertility.