Thoughts on Hair color...and School...

I'm 25 and have a fve year old too. I usually don't dress like any of the other mom's either. I dye my hair red and have tatoos and piercings. I get some looks from parents, but my daughter's friends seem to think I'm alright. And most importantly my kid loves me just the way i am. SOmetimes she thinks what i do is cool or funny sometimes she doesn't really dig the kind of music I listen to or asks me about my wierd earings, but bottom line is she loves me and it totally doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. ~Liz

Hi there fellow mom,
I am 27 and run into the same problem and then about 6 months I realized I was going to all of the events for my children and I was one of the only mom, or dad that was consistently there, or who didn't send the nanny or babysitter. I have a great relationship with the my kids teachers and coaches and it is because they know I am going to be there and really do care. I realized that with tattoos and crazy hair I am still the best mom I know. And having a mom who is a little different and has her own personality gives your kids great confidence too. Just remember it is whats on the inside that counts. And by doing what you want to do lets your kids know that they have freedom too. Hope this helps! Take Care and I bet your hair is going to rock!

I say if they have a problem with the color of your hair they have a real big problem. what you do to your hair is none of their business. However if you were talking about the way you dress, short short bras and see threws i would have to say noo. but with the hair go for it. I think 5 year olds will like the different colors. i know my daughter would

YOU NEED TO BE YOURSELF....life is to short to worry what people think of you... YOU ARE YOU !!! THAT'S WHAT MAKES YOU... COLORING YOUR HAIR DIFFERENT COLORS DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON...IT' SHOWS YOU CAN HANDLE CHANGE AND DO WHAT YOU LIKE TO DO.... BESIDES IT WILL SHOW YOUR KIDS TO BE WHO THEY ARE AS THEY GROW IN LIFE....LIFE IS BORING WITHOUT COLOR...

BE YOURSELF....AND YOU WILL BE HAPPY....

your hair/clothing style should have absolutely nothing to do with how great of a parent you are. i would much rather my mom be funky, edgy and 'cool' than old, out of touch and close minded. i myself am a young mom w/ an edgy look. i have tattoos and piercings. my hair is dyed platinum blonde and short and funky. i know what youre feeling about being 'different' than other moms. when i drop my daughter off at pre-school i feel like im the youngest and because i dont drive a mini van or wear a velour sweatsuit and adidas sneakers or a business suit to work that the moms look differently at me. but you know what - who cares!! dye your hair! have fun! keep your youth!

also - if you dont have a hairstylist i am currently enrolled in beauty school and if you want you should come in and be a model for me!

You need to just go for it!!! Tatoos and piercings are so accepted today, and so is funky haircolor! I have mine streaked with 2 colors at the moment...but I tend to change it often...my kids and thier friends love it! My kids have never been made fun of for the way I present myself. Go with it and be true to yourself. You may very well be setting a positive example for your daughter and her friends. I agree with the other moms...its whats on the inside that counts!

Good Luck and Have Fun!

M.

your right in that sense its noones business but maybe ask your daughter what she thinks, I know she is only 5 but maybe show her a pic of you in those days of change (what colors have you done?)see what she thinks and ask her about doing that change again and let her know about how kids can be, ya never know you may just be the hip mom.

Good luck

G.

Personally, I wouldn't worry about it. Of course, everyone's situation is different and you might know better than us if anyone would take umberage at your particular school.

I don't dye my hair but my 8 year old likes to have hers colored every now and again. We only use natural herbal conditioning hair color and it's not permanent. Usually washes out in 6 to 8 weeks. We have to be careful about the colors though because the school has a rule that says no "unnatural" colors allowed. The hair color I use only has three colors though...a "clear coat" that basically enhances shine, a earthy brown, and a nice golden auburn color.

I say be who you are and don't hide it. People who know you don't mind and those who don't...oh, well...can't make everyone happy so you might as well make yourself happy. Right?

:)

go for it! If you want to color your hair do it. Your hair color or how wild it is has no bearing on what type of mother you are!

HAHAHAH! This is a very out there request! I love it! I have a lady that is on my team in my at home business. She is very professional and VERY crazy! You never know what color her hair is going to be! At the moment her bangs are purple! Her personality totally fits the hair color! She is a grandma and no one (that I know of) ever thinks twice about the color of her hair! Maybe if they aren't very open to hair color you could give them a lesson on how to accept differences in others. Sounds harsh, but it is your hair. I don't see how purple or green hair changes your parenting styles! Go for it!

I am the same way as you are, my hair has been natural for about 3-4 years but I am getting tired of it. In this situation who cares what other people think. As long as you are a good parent, your kids are taken care of no one has any business to say anything. People are always going to judge other people, but if you are yourself and you are truly happy with yourself who cares what anyone else thinks. As far as your daughter goes just sit her down and ask her if it will embarass her or make her feel weird in any way, if she says it won't then do it, if she says yes it will then I would hold off for a little while or maybe just do a little part that you can't really see so she can adjust to it a little at a time.

I totally agree with the kind of person you may be and would say the same for myself... I dyed my hair every color of the rainbow and kept it all short and spikey for years... for the last five years though I have been letting it grow naturaly. I sometimes have the urge to go dye it a deep mahogany cherry color... or pitch black! Or cut it all off again and wear it in a pixie style... I dont though... simply because I remember how long it took to get my hair the way it is now... long, beautiful and natural. I also think of it this way... one day - when I start going grey... I will probably start dyeing it again to cover the grey... and dyeing ruins your hair -so I might as well wait until I really have to start dyeing my hair before I go and mess up what took so long to obtain. ~But thats just my opinion... I think if you want to do something different just do it! Maybe you can find a really cool color that is still somewhat "conservative" - just a little spunky! Good luck!

Be who you are! If you like funky hair, go for it! When she is older she will understand and appreciate individuality. It also encourages her to be who she really is also. We were not put on this earth to follow a "abercrombie & fitch" model.

Unfotunately people do make an opinion on peoples apperance. However, it's your decision...your daughters only five. It will much more likely effect her in her pre-teen/teen years.

I think as long as it isn't something trashy looking, it's no big deal. I think when we do have kids we do have to consider the effects on them and keep it classy. There are tons of different ways to change your hair and appearance that doesn't say "I'm a weird-O"!!!

I'm a 27 year old "Abercrombie and Fitch" type of mom and have always been this way. However, one of the best friends I ever had was just like you - she'd die her hair every color in the rainbow (using Kool-Aid) but she was a wonderful person. You may get some stares or some snide comments from a couple mothers but I think that teaching your daughter that she should never care what others think is a wonderful lesson and one for which she will be forever grateful.

As a side note, do you have any tattoos? This is something I've struggled with for years - I can't seem to take that leap!

Hi A.!
Trust me when I say I know exactly how you feel! Beleive it or not my hubby does too! Hee hee :) But to answer your question, if your worried about what the school thinks~do what I do. Go with a burgundy color. You get the purple tones but its not over the top, but still gives you an edgy and funky look.
Good Luck!

Go for it girl. We're all a different. Your child at this age will probably love it. Now when she's older that's a different story.

I have managed to refrain from dying my hair but just because of my job. I have tattoos though and plan on getting A LOT more. I know a lot of tattooed, pierced, mohawked mommas. Its not about appearance its about being a loving,caring, responsible mommy. Yeah other parents and teachers will look at you differently but do you really care? If they are that closed minded then they arent living life to its fullest. While as you obviously have a creative fun loving side. I bet you have an amazing relationship with your child and in the end isnt that what really matters? And as far as other kids go I bet they will think youre just "so totally cool".