The Dreaded Potty Training...

Updated on December 07, 2011
M.H. asks from Roseville, CA
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My daughter is 2 and a half, and after some intermittent interest in potty training over a 6 month period, we had some real interest and successes starting about a month ago. Unlike most kids, she was very willing to poop in the pot, and continues to do it 9 times out of 10 on the pot. The pee on the other hand, is a completely different kettle of fish. It's all good when it's her idea- but it's only her idea a couple of times each day. She WILL NOT get on the pot and pee first thing in the morning, despite a variety of incentives that I've attempted to offer, including but not limited to wearing panties for the day, a piece of candy or a prize. She very often will p on the pot before bedtime- and some other random times throughout the day. I'm ok with her continuing to wear a diaper- but she wants to wear panties now- but will not go and "try" to pee when I suggest it. I'm super frustrated! I tried setting a timer so we would just visit the bathroom together at intervals through the day- but she won't go. I've offered an m&m for every successful deposit into the toilet- which she seems excited about.

Am I reading signs from her that she just isn't ready yet? We keep talking about the fact that she can't wear the panties until she will visit the pot when she needs to pee. But she keeps asking for them.

She is super smart and advanced in every way- is this just a strong will asserting itself? Please help me with some advice and ideas! Thanks in advance,

I'm going to take an advil now.

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Y.B.

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My son was 3 and just a little over a month ago started using the potty to pee. He was really excited about it and was doing really well. Then he got sick for a couple of weeks and now he has no interest in it all. So I am just going to wait until he has interest again. I ask him all the time if he needs to go potty and he says nope. We cloth diaper and I have another one in diapers so it isn't costing us anymore in diapers and I am just going to let him go at his own pace. Easier on the both of us.

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C.B.

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Put the panties on her! After she wets and feels how yucky it is to be in wet panties, she will be more willing to use the toilet. Right now she has no incentive because she is wearing a diaper. So, tomorrow morning, put panties on her and don't look back. She will undoubtedly have an accident or two, but don't get upset. Just verbalize how yucky that much feel, don't rush too much to change her and let her do most of the work around getting her changed, including rinsing out her panties. Then, when she's had her first dry day, take her shopping and let her pick out her own panties. Good luck!

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V.F.

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My thought would be to put her in the panties.... and know that she is going to have accidents. She probably will not like the wet experience. From the wet experience, she will learn that she has to go to the potty. It is not so important to go on a schedule, but that she has to stop what she is doing and go.
I'd just plan to have a few days of accidents, and let her deal with learning about wet undies. :) (That said, make sure she is in easy up/down pants so that she is in control - jeans are too hard when you don't plan enough time. :) )
Good luck.
(By the way, this is what we did with my 2, and it works out in a few days. :) )

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I had to just put my daughter in underwear when she was potty training. She never wanted to stop what she was doing to use the potty because having a wet diaper wasn't that uncomfortable for her. I also found that she would get irritated with me asking every 30-60 minutes if she had to go potty. She'd instantly say "NO!" even if she had to go. It worked much better when I'd just gently remind her every so often to tell me if she had to go potty. Of course there were accidents - we went through about 8 pairs of underwear that first day! But it got better quickly - the second day she had half as many accidents and after that it was dramatically less. After two weeks, she was very rarely having accidents. Oh, and she also won't always go immediately after waking up in the morning, even now. I'm sometimes amazed by how long she can hold it! Good luck!!

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I.G.

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Just do away with the diapers, put her in undies and let it go. Mine got it very quickly that wet undies are pretty uncomfortable and would start going whenever I reminded her.

I just had plenty of clothes for changing and we changed a few times a day if necessary - it really isn't SUCH a big deal. I am sure she will realize that going potty when it's time is a lot less inconvenient that changing.

Good luck.

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E.M.

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let her wear the panties. We just started real potty training with our 2 1/2 year old boy 3 days ago. we found out that he is more than willing to go in the bathroom and pee in his potty as long as he can go by himself. he doesnt want to do it if we are in there, he likes his privacy. He has only had 2 accidents so far. The first day after about an hour of wearing the underwear he peed on the rug in his room and then yesterday he pooped in his underwear. But other than that he is doing great. We even took him out to an appt we had in regular underwear. we were gone about 3 hours and no accident. He still is wearing a pull-up at night but during the day it is strictly underwear. maybe she will be more willing to go pee in the potty if she has the big girl underwear on. let her know that she can go into the bathroom to pee/poop in the potty anytime she wants. Our son will go in there tons and tons and TONS. Sometimes there is nothing, usually it is a little bit, i'm talking about a teaspoon or so. But he just goes in by himself, we rarely have to remind him. every time he feels the urge he goes. I can even trust him on our bed to watch his Mickey Mouse Clubhouse without worrying that he will pee on our bed.

It is worth a shot to let her wear the panties all day. you pretty much have to accept that she will have accidents etc. but maybe if you let her take the lead she will be more apt to do it! good luck!

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