i think this is really a parental decision. does the school have a policy that you cant attend unless potty trained. many do, and if so, i understand then you must make that happen. but if not, i really think she is putting her parenting techniques on you.
my neice is in daycare, and when she moved on to the next room, they take them to the bathroom, but then never advised to have her in underwear. she has no interest at all, but she does sit like everyone else. my daughter is 2 weeks younger, and at home or quick errands, she wears panties, but she had been telling us the minute she goes, immediately pulls off any wet or dirty diaper, and goes on the potty by herself when
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does the school have a policy that you cant attend unless potty trained. many do, and if so, i understand then you must make that happen. but if not, i really think she is putting her parenting techniques on you. i see no problem with him sitting on the potty at school, as well as home to be consistent, every hour as long as no one is forcing him. the problem is see is the underwear issue. having him in panties doesnt magically make him more ready than he was last week. having a child wetting themselves several times a day is not positively reinforcing anything, it just shows the child isnt ready yet.
my niece is in daycare, and when she moved on to the next room, they take them to the bathroom, but they never advised to have her in underwear. she has no interest at all, but she does sit like everyone else but nothing comes out. my daughter is 2 weeks younger, and at home or quick errands, she wears panties, but she had been telling us the minute she goes, immediately pulls off any wet or dirty diaper, and goes on the potty by herself when i tell her. she hates diapers. she still has accidents if i dont remind her, but she was showing signs she def was ready to move to panties. she still wears pullups at night and long outings. two weeks apart and completely different, both 2 1/2.
i would just tell the school he will be wearing pullups until he shows more readiness signs. he is your child, and i expect you know him better than them. pullups are necessary so he can pull them down like underwear, but they will still protect him from the accidents. when you see his pullups are staying dry and he uses the potty regularly(with or without you reminding), then the underwear can come back out. the reason i think intervals are ok, is that my children have no desire to pee in their pretty panties. to me, that means when they do pee, they really forgot. the timed intervals is just a reminder so that wont happen, then before you know it, they go without you saying anything. imo, the constant wet clothes are a reminder to him that he isnt succeeding. im sure he doesnt like the fact he is wetting. wearing pullups can help him be happy the times he goes on the potty, but not feel bad about the times he has accidents.
and boys do potty train slower than girls, its a fact. 2 1/2 for a ready boy is still on the younger end, let alone for a child not showing signs. good luck.