I am having my third child in Feb. I would like a kid friendly way to explain this to my already 4 & 5 year old girls. "God puts the baby in & the Dr. takes them out" isn't working any more! Does any one has advise or a book to recomand??
I really didn't have to explain this to my son. I wouldnt be forth coming with too much information. I wouldnt let them watch the delivery. My mother kept my son until the process was done and then he came into meet his sister. He really got distracted by the sister and forgot about the process. He understood that mom was sore from her coming out but what so in aww over her, he really just didnt ask anymore. Good Luck.
We have 5 under 8 so this ??? has come up a few times as well. We just avoid the info.We read the verse about how "God knits you in your mother womb" which really helps and answers them We give a more detailed "God puts..." making it more of a drawn out story... "We prayed and asked that they Lord would bless us with another baby. And God is so good and he saw that we would indeed be blessed if we had another baby and so he decided to answer our prayers. We were so happy... blah blah blah"
In the even that a child has asked for more I ANSWER THERE QUESTION WITH A QUESTION!!!
"How do YOU think the baby got in there?" we have had everything from baby seeds that you swallow to God just does it. We usually end up laughing at all the funny ways you can "get a baby in there"
when it comes down to it though we go back to the verse about God knitting- my girls love to knitt so the concept is very real for them on how something is carefully put together.
And that answers them just fine.
We live insuch a perverse world and we DO NOT think it is needed to have "sex ed" with little children- that will come with time and we do not want to take away from their innocense.
I'm due in February too! My son will be at the birth. This should clear up any questions he may have.
Birth is natural and normal, and you would be surprised at how well children do at births. What a bonding opportunity for everyone!
Besides, Doctors don't take babies out, mothers and babies work together and do it all by themselves.
Hi C.,
I agree wholeheartedly with Tonya. Not only is it simple to tell but it's the truth. You may have to elaborate as your kids get older but the simple truth is God created that child in you by His design. If God can put that baby in there, He can certainly take it out, lol! And if you believe that, it makes it so much easier for your kids to believe it too!
Have a safe and happy pregnancy!
M.
When I had my third child--my oldest was 5. He asked a million questions. Unfortunatley I had to have a c-cestion emergently and the truth was the Dr went in and took him out!! LOL. Anyway- when I was asked how my daughter( 2 at the time) was born without my having a scar or a sore, I paniced about what to tell him. I simply told him that Mommies bodies are designed specifically by God for having babies. That God help Mommies and Daddies to have babies if he feels that it is right. I also told him that when the time is right for the baby to arrive, God lets the woman know and she goes to the Dr. I then told him that God helped the womans body to relax, for the baby to come out. I never mentioned where the baby came out, or how the process went. That seemed to satisfy him. I know though that when, God willing, we have a fourth child, the questions will return and be harder to answer. He will be @ 7 or 8 then! I can't think of any books on the subjest,but I know that there are some. Maybe try to do an ebay search for titles of those types of book. Good Luck with your family!
Hi,
Congratulations on adding to your family!
This is how I explained things to my daughter (I think she was about 4 at the time). I told her that there was a special place in a womans body that was made just for babies. I told her that when a *husband* and *wife* (my spin) decided to make a baby, that a seed from the daddy joined an egg from the mommy and a baby grew in the special place. I told her that after the baby got big enough, it was born. I had my daughter via c-section, but didn't go into any further details at that point. She is 10 now, and as she asked more questions, I gave her the info. I think most kids don't need/want to know all the gory details too early. Just tell them a little, and then if they ask more questions, give them a little more until they stop asking.
Good luck and enjoy your family,
L.
I think instead of worrying about telling him how babies get here,try to get him excited about what will happen AFTER the baby is here and how things will change.Books are a good idea,especially ones with pictures.But if he insist on that question tell him what the other mother said.Tell him god helps babies come.My son ,without asking me, tells me things like..Mommy,remember when we got preston from the hospital.My son automatically assumed we picked him up from the hospital and brought him home...even though he knew I had the baby inside my belly.
I would show them a pea pod. Yeap.....a pea pod. Go to the market, in the fresh produce section and buy a number of them in different sizes as to illustrate how they grow and grow. Ask them how this compares to your growing belling and ask them to choose one to compare. Kids know more than we think. Point how how the peas leave the pod when it is ready. Continue to ask questions as if you are leading them to the end. They may even finish the story. Good Luck!
