Potty Training - Windham,CT

Not really any suggestions, but I wouldn't worry. My son was over 3 1/2 when he trained and had shown no interest despite everything up to that point. He basically trained himself over night when he did and never had any accidents. All my friends/relatives who trained their kids younger dealt with accidents here and there for years. I think his age as well as his desire at that point eliminated the accidents and gave him much more confidence about it than the kids who trained younger.

K.,
my 7 year old was almost 4 before she was potty trained (6 weeks before her 4th b'day). she just didn't want to and the more I tried, the more she lost interest. I finally just left it alone and one day, she brought me her panties to start wearing and no more diapers at all! She will do it when she is ready unless there is a problem. I think if it is sometime after 4 (like 4 1/2 or so) and she still has no interest, I would prob talk to dr.
Good luck, I know it is frustrating.

My son will be 3 next month & he has shown zero interest in potty training. We have potties in all three bathrooms & we talk about it constantly. We have tried offering awards, demonstrating, buying him big boy undies with his favorite characters on them- nothing works! My son is super stubborn, so I know if we push it, he will just resist more. I am not going to worry about it too much now & just cross my fingers that some day soon he will show some interest & we can bang out the potty training. I think you should probably just accept the fact that your daughter is just not ready yet & she will let you know when she is...hopefully! There are two big things that we as parents can not control with our toddlers: potty & eating! We will lose the battle if we try to fight it.

Good luck!

I do agree with many of the others. It has to be up to her and when she's ready, she'll do it. My second child wasn't trained until just after age 3. Our pediatrician had lots of ideas. He had one strategy that worked for us. He said that for kids older than 3, they understand what's going on and have the bodily control to be able to do it, they just don't want to do it. He said talk up the "big day" when it starts and just switch to underwear. He can earn little things like stickers or jelly beans for going, but more importantly for our son, he had whatever toy he was playing with when he had an accident taken away. He earned that toy back as soon as he went on the potty again. It only took a few days taking away a tractor or two get him on a good roll.

Along the lines of another answer, you could think about trying the Potty Training in Just One Day method by Teri Crane. I did this with my son and it was a great kick off to successful potty training. One other thing to be aware of is that an early indicator of Asperger's Syndrome is an inability to potty train. It is an important early intervention classification, so if there are other little things that you are noticing aren't quite right, think about talking to your pediatrician about it. My niece with Asperger's is thriving, but potty training was a big deal and she finally learned in her late 4s.

Hi K.,

I'm right there with you, although I have a boy not a girl. Same age...and has sat on the potty once and that's it. He still wears diapers, day and night.

It doesn't bother me, so I'm not pushing the issue. I know it will come in time. Know that you're NOT alone...not all kids use the potty right away.

Unless you need to force her to get out of diapers, my advice would be for nature to let it take its course.

Good luck.

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When your daughter decides she wants to be potty trained - she will be! She sounds like my oldest, a girl, who was blissfully unconcerned with potty until she turned three - the magic age she decided she was going to be potty trained, and she was entirely trained exactly at three. Somewhere she decided it was time for her to teach her little sister to use the potty - which was awesome. If my little boy were my first, I'm sure he wouldn't have trained as easily as he did. Your daughter will surprise you one day too soon!

Hello,
I have some second hand advice for you. By second hand I mean that it is not my experience. It is the experience of a friend of mine. Her daughter was 4 years old and she was desperate to potty train her. She was showing no interest. Finally, they set aside one week to have nothing going on and stay at home. My friend put her daughter in regular underware and let her experience the real sensations of having the accident. They gave her lots of juice and water to make sure she would be going a lot. By the end of the week she was potty trained. Good luck!

I'm right there with you! My DD is almost 3.5 and not only does she have no interest, she is adamantly against the idea! Seriously, if we are talking about something she doesn't want to do, the conversation will go to how she does not want to use the potty! All her younger friends have potty learned.

I don't do reward charts or anything like that and don't want to do it for this and I do know it really isn't up to me. Everyone I know has told me that she will do it when she's ready and one day she will just do it. Some days I believe that and some I don't. Sometimes kids just cannot be bothered and want to stick with diapers since it takes no effort on their part.

What I am planning to do is try to just do it after an upcoming trip. Not sure if I will do underwear or cloth pull ups. But I plan to find a week when we have very little to do, put those on her and put her on the potty every half hour or something. If that doesn't go well I will put it on hold for a couple moths and try again when it is warmer out. A friend of mine suggested that once summer comes she will really not want a big wet diaper on and may just do it then. We'll see.

The one thing that I am really trying to do is not make it an issue since that will not work at all at this age. It will make it worse. Good luck.