Poopy Pants Little Girl

My daughter had trouble with this until she started school this year. She would prefer to do it in her pants and said she was afraid of the toilet. PLEASE do not yell at her or show frustration it only makes it worse. Just keep putting her on the toilet or a potty seat. Try giving her a toy or book to look at while she is sitting. I also keep a step stool in the bathroom for my daughter to put her feet on, this way her legs won’t hurt from hanging.

I think it is a control thing, once she feels she is in control of sitting on the toilet she will use it. You can also try bribes, a piece of candy or keep a few dollar store toys and let her pick one.

Just remember she will not do this forever, she will grow out of it. Please have patience with her.

How old is she? Are you using a potty chair? Does she have a stool to put her feet on when she goes? Has she had a bad experience or feels like she might fall in? Does she have "big girl" panties yet? Maybe tell her that you know she can do this, and as soon as she shows you that she can poop in the potty like a big girl, she can wear pretty big girl panties. Also, making her clean it up might be effective.

Some kids feel like it's "part of them" so make sure to explain the whole poop concept. That it's waste, that it's what's left of their food when all the vitamins are taken out by her body. How old is she?

I got my daughter this llittle red book. It explains about potty. We got a little potty not the big toilet. Those big toilets scare kids. In the morning we had a routine. Get up sit on the potty look at the book read it. Just sit and relax. After the book was done regardless if she went we got up and went on with our day. Just by your post it looks like both of you are way frustrated on it and it does no good to scold her. you'll only make it worse. We also had her sit on the toilet while thre bath was filling up at night before bed. I did not leave her alone. I gave her a book to look throuhg and we talked about other stuff. When the bath was full it was done . no comment and into the bath. When she did pooh or pee in the potty I made a big deal of a hug and said what a big girl you are i'm so proud of you. For the first week do not say if she goes in her pantgs. Let her pick out the big girl panties etc.

They will, when they are ready.

My son, even if he was 3... really FEARED pooping in the potty.
It really scared him.
We didn't force him.
He really thought 'he' was in the potty.

Don't worry.
They will get it, just in time before you worry they won't.

The more you force it, the more they will get stress and anxiety about it.
That is what happened with my daughter. Even if we did not force her.... she, just had MUCH stress and anxiety about it. So then... she would NOT poop at all, even if she had to. And then this caused... medical problems for which we had to take her to a Pediatric Gastroenterologist. Because, not pooping, causes medical problems and constipation and Encopresis. NOT good.
My daughter, had emotions, stress/anxiety, about pooping in a potty.
And it thus, made her not want to poop at all.

So, don't worry. Don't force it. Don't make the child feel wrong... about it.
Encourage, not being heavy handed about it.

How old is she? How long have you been training her? It sounds as if it could be a rebellion problem from what you have said ~ she knows what to do and then proceeds to hold it until SHE wants to go ~ so I would suggest reading and following this approach for potty training refusal, it worked for my guy in a little over a day before he was 2.5.
http://www.rogerknapp.com/medical/pottytrainingrefusals.htm

I potty trained my 2 y/o this past summer and what worked for me was briving her with 1 gummy worm. I would say "If you go poo poo in the potty you get ONE GUMMY WORM!!!!"And I would make a big deal of her going potty, it would make her very happy ;) good luck!!!