Well if she cannot focus on her regular work, how do you think she can focus to learn new coping skills?
I have said this 100's of times on here.
I have known my husband since he was 13. He also is ADHD. He and his parents went round and round for all of his school years because he could not focus and could not follow through. This has caused a lifetime of problems between them.
This first reason is he overheard his mother ask a doctor if he was "retarded". The second was his father refused to allow him to take any medications and felt the whole thing was an excuse and he would "grow out of it".. He dd not want my husband t be stigmatized with a learning disability.. They now call it learning difference.
What did this lead too? Low self esteem/ Struggles in school. A lack of understanding from his teachers and he was not able to make it in college.
He can tell you how anything works, but he cannot sit down and write it out."Takes too long and it is boring."
He could pass the tests in school, but could not/would not do the homework.. Or he would be forced to do the homework and never turn it in!!!! He would forget or just become distracted on the way.
The good news is that He is successful at any job he has ever had. But they were all jobs where everyday is different. Different projects, different people.. etc. But he has never reached his potential, because when he loses interest.. he is done.
I am like his assistant. My husband has NO understanding of time. It is just not there ans is never going to be there. He has a watch, a pager, a fancy cell phone, his ipad, his computer.. all using different types of calendars and alarms.. and he still can forget or get sidetracked very easily. I also keep a calendar and I have o tell him over and over about events.. or whatever.
Example, even when he lived with his parents and now that we have been married 30 years. Trash day has ALWAYS been on Friday. He still cannot remember this. I can leave a post it note on the bathroom mirror, the front door his keys, his helmet.. 1 out of 10 times will it make it to the curb. And each time he is sheepishly apologetic that he forgot. But this is our life.
And so I have begged him to go and get help, but he refuses.. He feels that is a weakness or proof that something is wrong with him.
Just because something works for your husband, does not mean it is working for your daughter.
Sometimes as moms, we have to make the executive decision and do what we know in our mommy hearts and brains are best for our children. Help your daughter reach her potential. She deserves to start off on an even playing field.
This is not a diet thing, or every person with ADHD would be doing it.
I am sending you strength and clarity.