Ok Ladies... JFF. Can We........ (A Little 'Exercise' of the Soul If You Will)

Updated on August 12, 2011
A.S. asks from Wyandotte, MI
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***DISCLAIMER*** - This is NOT for telling me how you can't possibly think of anything at all. I understand where some of you ladies are coming from. Those of you know how I feel and what I would do in that situation. Been there. Done that. Divorced him.

This is to make all of us think about the things we are thankful for and ask ourselves if we really point out WHAT we think is wonderful TO OUR MEN. We want our men to tell us how much we mean to them and say thanks (for doing the dishes... whatever we may see as thankless) or sorry when they're wrong... But do WE really do that for them too? I've even given my husband a dozen roses to say, "I love you". Or a card to say how I feel about him in every way. Not for a holiday. Not for his birthday. Just because... Maybe it's just because he mowed the lawn after working overtime. Or maybe just because it's Wednesday. You'd be surprised at how much it's returned. I never ask. Never expect it... It just happens because he isn't the only person doing it.

Can we say what we love our men for? What we appreciate about them? What we think we might not be able to do without them? What are their awesome qualities? What drew you to them in the first place?

I can honestly say, I cannot think of ONE complaint about my husband. He is a wonderful husband, father, best friend, lover, and therapist. There isn't anything he does NOT know about me. He doesn't judge. He doesn't accuse. We don't really fight.... If one of us gets upset with the other, we talk about it. If either one of us starts to get angry to the point of yelling (which means not really listening to the other person - in our world anyhow), we walk away from one another and readdress it later.

What drew me to him was (is) that he's a wonderful listener. He's a great shoulder to lean on.

I make it a point to tell him how much he's loved and appreciated. I find that if I do that for him, he does the same in return. So, how about it ladies?

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K.P.

answers from New York on

He is a great father.
He is a great son and son-in-law.
He is smart.
He really listens to the people he cares about.
He's a perpetual teenager (I'm pretty serious most of the time)
He's honest.
He's funny.
He thinks I'm brilliant.

I tell him all of the above all of the time!

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M.J.

answers from Dover on

My husband drives me nuts a lot of the time, but I truly do love him to pieces. I do try really hard to tell him that he's:
wonderful
handsome
smells good
is great in bed
a wonderful father
& that I just love him on a totally regular basis.

He texted me earlier today that he had done all of the kids' laundry (they're going to my parents tomorrow for a week), cut Mike's hair & marinated the chicken for dinner tonight. My reply? You're Awesome! I love you! He's also the one who cleans the house (sweeps the floors anyway), cuts the grass AND fixes the cars. I also really loved the other mama saying her husband thinks that she's brilliant. I've got that one, too. Also, I love that he loves everything about me physically no matter how big or small I ever get, no matter if I have a zit on my nose, or haven't colored my hair in way too long, he doesn't care, he loves it all.

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A.G.

answers from Houston on

My husband works out of town and we only see him a little bit out of every month. Meanwhile the kids and i are very well taken care of and he works very hard to accomplish it. I let him know in the ways that have proved very popular with men in the history of time. Sex and food. :0)

I love my husband for no "one reason",, i loved him when he was a pimply teenage bum, i loved him when he was an unruly 20 year old with too many hormones, and i love him now that hes in his 30s, he is my favorite, and my daughters favorites too.

I wouldnt be as happy without him, i would certainly struggle in many ways.

Him and I share the same dreams and outlook on life and same plan for our kids. hes not only a great father but a good daddy too and i would say that that is my favorite thing about him...........and hes awesome in bed :)

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S.G.

answers from Norfolk on

My husband is awesome. He takes care of our kids while I work full-time, he cooks, he cleans. He renovates our house, including a grueling year-long kitchen renovation where we went down to the studs and he rewired everything, laid down a new tile floor, installed new cabinets...all of it. He sits and watches HGTV with me and we have a blast! We love to read the same books so we can discuss them. We really are freakishly compatible. He brings out the best in me and helps me be a better person, but he doesn't lecture or preach at me. He's just the hilarious, sweet, smart person that he is and he is ALL MINE!!! Hahaha!!!

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A.S.

answers from Boca Raton on

My husband is just absolutely my rock . . . when I'm perplexed about something I almost always go to him. He is a go-getter, and really knows how to make things happen.

Sometimes when I'm worn out from homeschooling and being stuck in the house he will take us all out for dinner, even though we're supposed to be cutting that down financially.

He loves my older son, his step-son, so much it touches my heart. And our son together - let's just say he's the best there is.

If I had to pick a song for him, it would be Tina Turner's "Simply the Best."

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J.P.

answers from Dallas on

I have an amazing husband. He does so many things for me and our daughter. He puts fluids in my car when it needs it. He is a wonderful cook. He is an amazing father. He rubs my back. He makes me laugh. He is extremely handy around the house. After he worked yesterday he came home and put the new highchair together. He is an amazing man and friend.

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C.M.

answers from St. Louis on

Holy cow MechanicMama..I could have written this post myself!!

I love leaving my hubby notes in random places so he will find them later. Anytime I see candy/food/drinks he likes, I get them even if I was not shopping for those things. I bought him a 12 pack of Yoo-Hoos yesterday and you should have seen how happy that made him. He's used to me brining him soda, but that made his day. Funny!

I make it a point to tell him every day how much I love and appreciate him. Sometimes I'll type letters to him at work and bring them home (easier to type and faster!).

I cannot think of one complaint about my husband either. Because he is who he IS and I married him because I love him so much!!!

Thanks for this post!

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C.O.

answers from Washington DC on

HHHHHMMMMM My Bobby is a great provider!!! I don't HAVE to work!! He fixes the things I break!! he puts up with me!! And I can drive myself nuts sometimes too!!!

He's a very good father - there are some things I'd change - but he loves our children and would do anything to provide and protect them...

Bob can be my knight in shining armor...coming to my "rescue" for stupid things I might do....

Bottom line? Love my Bobby!!! Good and the not so good!!!

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S.J.

answers from St. Louis on

* He is a great provider and very hard worker

* He is the most honest and loyal person I have ever met. Ever.

* He is great in bed.

* He makes me laugh like no one I have ever known!

* We love just hanging out with each other - we have so much fun.

* Lately, he is helping more around the house even though I know he hates it.

* He is so wonderful with our money. I can trust him with all of it and not think twice.

* I can literally trust him with my life.

* Although I disagree with his parenting sometimes, when I see the look in his eyes when he sees his kids, it melts me. He truly loves them.

I needed this post today - thank you.

*ETA: forgot to add what I do for him. Cook his fav dinners, offer to rub his back (he doesn't want me to usually, strange I think!), tell him I appreciate what he does around the house, "let him" golf every tuesday for man's day.

Now can I make the "hate about him" list?!

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J.D.

answers from Burlington on

cool! I love it! I mostly remember useless facts, like my 3rd grade teacher's name. But this is one thing I will remember, and remember to do! I do small things like leaving him notes in his lunch, or just telling him I really appreciate what you do for us. But I love your ideas!

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P.S.

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My husband has watched all 3 Twilight movies with me so far!

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T.H.

answers from Kansas City on

My hubby is a pretty awesome guy too. He just took a day off work so that I could go on a girls' weekend and stay until Monday...woo hoo! He even said, shop if you want to, put in on the credit card! I almost fell over at that one! ;)

He will mop the floor if it's really horrible and I just can't get around to it. He gives the kids a bath and helps with jammies almost every night. He always eats what I cook, even if it sucks. He puts up with my family drama, and I have a lot of it!...But, best of all, he loves me for who I am and I love him!

Oh I forgot to add that things I do for him are... sometimes leave him notes in his lunch, or I've also left love notes taped to the remote control cuz I know he'll find it there, hide his favorite ice cream in the freezer for him to find, make the bed occassionally (I think making the bed is dumb, but he likes it, so sometimes I thrill him with it! ;), sending him random happy emails, cooking or baking his favorite stuff, scratching his back

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B.B.

answers from Spokane on

I am disabled and my husband didn't completely know everything he would be getting into being with someone with a disability but he rolls with everything that is put in front of him and makes me laugh at the same time. There are times I get worried that its going to be too much for him ( my own insecurities) and he constantly reassures me that he loves me for me no matter what. Like some of the other ladies have said he is a great cook which is sometimes torture for me being on a diet LOL but I can see him light up as he watches me enjoy the meals he makes. He is a wealth of knowledge he calls it useless knowledge. I told him once however that it is only useless until you need it and together we have needed his knowledge on several occasions to fix a problem. I feel so blessed to have finally found someone who can love me for me and look passed my flaws.

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A.S.

answers from Canton on

He makes me laugh. He "plays" with the kids b/c he's still a kid at heart. He works hard for his family. He's a "people person" and everyone loves him. If he sees a car in a ditch he always pulls them out. (loves his 4WD!)

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R.B.

answers from Grand Rapids on

What a great question! I have a wonderful hubby. I was first drawn to him because he is so genuine. I also love that he is stable, caring, and always wanting to better himself. He is so hard-working and such a provider. He is patient with my flaws and such an amazing father. To see the joy on his face and the face of our three children when they play and laugh together brings tears of joy to my eyes. My husband is also very selfless and is a big help with the kids. My husband is a great son and son-in-law and puts up with my parents' quirkiness. We can also be goofy together and he shares my desires for a simple, content life.
I need to do better in showing him how I love him. I bake his favorite cookies, leave him notes of appreciation, give him back rubs, and try to offer him "breaks" when he has been overly tired.

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E.D.

answers from Seattle on

(((laughing))) I can think of MANY complaints I have with my husband. As can he with me. But I'll take all of him. We don't have to be perfect (or perfectly matched) to be perfect for each other, right here and now.

- He teaches me, and our relationship is a canvas through which I may learn the lessons I am ready to learn.
- He loves me so completely, and through my flaws, in a way that reflects my own value back at me.
- He is loyal to the point of flaw. He Loves passionately.
- He is a passionate lover.
- His skin is dark, and his eyes are a deep blue. They make me swoon.
- No matter how desperately angry I am with him, he can make me laugh.
- Last night, I asked him to get the kids ready for bed, and read a book with them while I was taking a minute to myself. When I walked in, he was playing wakie-takie command center and his eyes were filled with laughter.
- He makes my children laugh until they can't breathe.
- When my sister became pregnant, and I could see that at some point she would probably not be able to raise her child, he said, "It's alright Ephie, I'll help you." Little did we know how real that would become, and how much he would stand up with me.
- He loves the sea passionately.
- He is...completely...unpretentious.
- He has seen me through the darkest times of my life, and our relationship has become stronger as a result (though it's been chaaaaaallenging as all get out).
- No matter the trauma he has sustained, he is still beautiful and always trying to show up.
- He really wants it/and us.
- I think he is some serious foxy.
- He is smart as a whip, not in an academic way, but in a - he sees it how it is.
- Come zombie apocalypse, we'll be set. (LOL)
- He just feels good, for me. He fits me, so to speak.
- He's playful. He doesn't take himself too seriously.

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