My Friend Is Not Well?

I noticed with myself that especially at the beginning of my marriage, it took two years before we were able to become pregnant with our first. I started seeing a therapist and even went on anxiety meds. I too was in a stressful job and bad relationship with my mother, before having my children I have now. The counselor/therapist helped me put a lot of my life in perspective and I was able to calm down. I finally was able to get pregnant. My doctor concluded that I probaly was overly stressed about everything, so my body wouldn't let me get pregnant. I hope this helps. I feel for your friend. I wish you all the best. M.

Hi K.,
SHe could be pregnant & you can get a false negative (due to hormones) but you cannot have a false positive test. I have a feeling the stress in her life is wreaking havoc on her system. It can cause irregular&/or no periods at all.

Also the pill really wacks your system out. It along with stress reduction can take awhile to regulate her system.

I think some hormone balancing cream would really help her get pregnant if she isn't already, but also take the "edge" off of her stressful life. I can message you more info.

If she isn't pregnant there are many ways to find out when she is ovulating to increase her chances. The best most accurate & time tested is her BASAL body temperature. Just google it & it will tell you how to graph it. Easy as pie.

She needs to keep herself healthy & happy. This might mean limited relations with her mom. It is hard but we must do what is best for our own well-being. I hope all works out for your friend. Thanks for trusting us to help you answer your questions. Best regards, G.

I agree that she needs to be very honest with her doctor. The more info she gives, the better the doctor can help her. Stress and hormones can give the symptoms she has. On the other hand, I never got a positive pregnancy test with my daughter. I hope she gets some good answers tomorrow!

Hi K.,

When I found out I was pregnant I took several home tests about 4 before I got a positive result. Have her try it again first thing in the morning before she gets up to go to the bathroom. That's what made the diffrence for me. Best of luck!

Just a thought. She might be struggling with some depression, or anxiety, I would ask the doctor about it.

Hello K.,
My prayers go to your dear friend. I have a dear friend that had years of problems getting pregnant and months of miscarrgies. They found a tumor on her ovary, removed it and boom got pregnant. I'm not saying that is what is going on with your friend. I believe she needs to listen to her body and be honest with her doctor. It is very important to have a doctor that listens and she trust. My friend was with the wrong doctor and once she found the one she has now, everything worked out. Something else to consider is STRESS. Stress has a great effect on the body. It alone could be accounting for her symptoms. She needs to find ways to relax away from all the stresses. I know it is easier said then done. I have learned breathing techniques and meditation tapes work in the morning for me. Good luck! You are a great friend for helping her.

Hi K.,
I had similar issues when going off of the pill. Many of us have systems that are very sensitive to the hormones. My best suggestion to her is to be very honest with her Doctor about all of the things she is experiencing--even the embarassing stuff. The more information the Doc has the better He/She will be able to help. It often takes months to get your body back to a comfortable sense of normal after it has been used to the pill.
Take care,
B.