So here is the story: I have had some issues with one of my daughter's teacher's since the beginning of the school year. Nothing major, but I have just found her a little rough around the edges, which bothers me a bit. I figured that the school year is almost over and I should not think about it too much. However, I recently registered my daughter for day camp which is at my daughter's school during the summer. I found out this morning that this particular teacher will be a part time counselor for my daughter's group. Should I let this bother me? I was pretty upset when I found this out. My immediate thought was to decide not to send her to camp over this, but then I thought that was pretty harsh. What would you do in this situation? Thanks in advance for your responses!
It sounds like it's okay. If she is just strict I think that's alright. I wouldn't want my child near anyone mean spirited though that I entrust with my child's well being. I'm not loving my preschool teacher either. She is the opposite. Passive and uncommunicative. I'm counting the days....
I think it's more important what your daughter thinks of her. After all, she's the one going to the day camp, not you.
This won't be the first, or last, teacher that rubs you the wrong way. Unless you're planning to home school her you need to get used to it!
Nervy Girl, I do not know if you are or were a teacher or worked in a school--but you are so right. I have great rapport with my students--not so much with parents. I have tutored girls to pass dance auditions for the next school level, I have taken 2 costumes home to rebuild into one for heavy girls, I have brought in deodorant when I hear girls whispering about smelly girls. All of this will stop for a particular when a mother of one of the supported girls complains about some issue like: Ms. Rhonda was on her cell phone and would not look up to answer my question (I was at lunch and no I am not stopping my 23 minutes of lunch time to talk to a parent...
So, M. W., if she is good with kids who cares if she is gruff with parents?
Does your daughter like the teacher? If so, I wouldn't think twice about it. Let her go and have fun.
Being a little rough around the edges doesn't seem like it warrants finding a new camp or speaking to the director about it.
Does your child have a problem with this teacher. If get the feeling that your daughter is just fine. Let her go to camp. I get the feeling that you do not like the way she does things. Don't let your feelings for a teacher impact your daughter.
I would choose not to let it bother me or be upset, and send her as planned. Your daughter will encounter people who are rough around the edges throughout her life, trying to protect her from dealing with them won't teach her the coping skills she'll need to interact effectively with them.
Personality aside, if this teacher has been doing things she shouldn't it would be helpful to everyone to bring them to the attention of the director/principal.
You don't specify if 'rough around the edges' is manifested in her manner with the children, age-appropriateness of her manner/conversation, or safety issues or other concerns regarding discipline, etc.
I know some teachers can be great with the kids but aren't always wonderful with the parents. Even some excellent teachers. Some may be truly fantastic with kids but come across as very blunt and all business with adults.
If that is your concern-- just a personality mismatch between yourself and the teacher, I'd let your daughter go to the camp. If there is a quality of care issue, then use your best judgment. Otherwise, it's great for kids to have some consistency in caregivers and it will ease the transition to a different 'style' of curriculum, etc. Sometimes familiarity is a great things for kids. So, unless there's a concrete reason you have concerns about the summer, your child's safety, how the staffing is (I wouldn't want someone who gossiped in front of the kids, talked on their phone/was texting, discussed their adult life or exposed them to blaring top 40 radio all day, for example)-- unless the concerns are more than what you have minimally described, I wouldn't worry.
my answer would be if it's just a camp for fun and somethign to do then actually i say yes follow your M. gut and at this age it's fine to control what you can.
if it's because of your work and you need the childcare, then in all reality while you might not love this lady, it doesn't sound like she would permanently harm your child. and i'm old enough to have learned that my first impressions aren't always right.
It's hard to know what I'd so since I really don't know what you mean by "rough around the edges."
If you have a problem I would talk to the office about it. Maybe she can be put with a differnt leader.
