I can not figure out why someone would answer their own questions using a different account! Really ? I'm sorry if I offend anyone but really? I admit I have 2 or 3 accounts which I know is not so HONEST but I have never answered my own question and I do not use all my accounts. I just stopped using this one for a while because I felt GUILTY about asking so many questions but I was lost. Then once I asked a ton of stupid questions on the other account I came back to this one. I feel like there should be a question quota, FOR ME lol.
I expect to get a lot of negative responses from a few and I promise I am not judging anyone but as someone who does have multiple accounts I just do not get it. enlighten me!
ETA: Mamazita- I have multiple accounts because I felt like (maybe it was just me making it up) people were annoyed with me for not getting help in the situation I was in. It was nothing to make another account and it was not a waste of time or energy so I have no idea why you have responded like this. Sometimes when you are in a bad situation you dont wanna HEAR what you need to do because you will change it when you are ready, You just want someone to have sympathy and listen. I do not need to explain myself furter.
I guess it would have been helpful if I would have added that I made 2 accounts because I was in a domestically abusive relationship and a lot of the stuff I was writing about was not supposed to be seen. Like I said I do not use them both simutaneously now but as someone who has 2 accounts it was just curiosity as to why someone would answer their own questions. What I did accomplish was the exact same thing I was trying not to....having a weird moment! Sorry for the drama guys.
I am also dumbfounded.
Why would anyone need more than one mamapedia account?
You ask questions, you answer questions, what else is there?
I also have one email address, one phone number, one facebook.
Seems like having more than one account on any site would be a huge waste of time, effort and energy (like you said.)
So, why do YOU do it?
I think if anyone ever feels they have a need for more than one account - they should step AWAY from the keyboard for a bit - like a week or more - until they come to their senses.
Seriously, you have a pseudo cyber presence here - who cares what anyone else thinks - no one really 'knows' you and they can't stone you in any meaningful way, and then you wish to create MORE accounts to provide MORE anonymity?
And then people post about breaking site rules with the BEST of reasons/excuses because, you know, rules just don't apply to some people.
The pot may call the kettle black, but the kettle just doesn't care.
this is not the real world. don't get too worried by what people write on A. anonymous website. it could all be fantasy for all we know.
That is just silly...and I'm using the word "silly" to be nice. I figured schitzo wasn't appropriate!
Now, you having more than one account is not acceptable and your reasoning for having multiple accounts is not acceptable. It takes away from what so many of us regulars have created. I have been raked over the coals a couple times and have been misunderstood, but I would never change my name to hide from it...what is the point of that?! Just grin and bare it, or not even bother.
Hi C.,
I can understand what you're describing and your personal reasons for doing what you've done.
Your motives weren't sneaky, underhanded or particularly deceptive...unlike others with multiple accounts (which are CLEARLY a ploy for support and report-power).
For example, I would think in A. instance of something like A. abusive spouse and you've repeatedly asked for advice (which was overwhelmingly "Get out now!") and someone is not ready to leave yet...then to ask another Q even marginally involving the husband, you wouldn't want people responding with things like "What else would you expect from a wife beater? or I wouldn't leave him alone with your child for 10 minutes!" etc.
I mean, background info helps us answer more completely, but I can see what you're saying and the motives you had for creating another account.
C., didn't your mama tell you...'there are no stupid questions'...if you have a problem/question just be YOU! I don't know HOW you would KNOW that someone is answering their OWN questions!?!? :/
Anywho, in any & all situations in life be yourself, be true to yourself, do your best, etc..
PLEASE don't make up multiple personas unless you are trying to confuse you....(shaking my head while writing this)
sooo, this is going to sound nit-picky....but what is your actual question for this forum? I've read thru your post a couple of times now, & I can't find the actual question. "Enlighten me!" is the best I could find. :)
If that is your request, then I have to agree with Mamazita: one name, one account....I pretty much feel anything else is bogus. Part of honesty is the ability to stand by your words, even if it means you have to eat them at a later date. :)
I would hope that someone who has two accounts would only have said accounts because they have a particularly personal or embarrassing issue that they want unbiased opinions on and don't want associated w/ their 'main' account. I have no problem with this and this sounds like what you are personally talking about.
Now, if you have more two or accounts just to add another voice to A. issue (for instance political questions) to make it seem like there are more people out there with YOUR point of view) -- OR if you have two or more accounts to give yourself flowers or respond to your own questions ... then that is a whole other issue.
That's my two cents.
i think as you pointed out everyone has their reasons. i don't get why you'd have multiple accounts, either. if i have a question i am sensitive about and don't want the negativity, i try to say so. people have always been pretty understanding in general. of course there are exceptions....but you will get that no matter what account you use. and in some instances the negative responses have a point. hiding from them doesn't change that. it seems that the point is, you just want to hide from reality a bit right? want to cushion yourself from the harsh answers....to me that doesn't make much sense. we're here for the truth. at least i feel that's what this site is for. if you know you won't like the answers that would be a big red flag to me that my actions or attitude needed adjusting.
also, i have been accused (falsely) of having multiple accounts. this person just pulled this out of their a$$ and went off on me in pm accusing me of being a flamer in the past and "no wonder" i changed my name (? - i have had this name for almost six years psycho) and just went on and on about what a B i was...so i guess i am kind of sensitive to it now.
there will always be immature people on any website, who misuse it. not really my problem...although some of them are entertaining. but i stay out of the accusation thing. but i look forward to a long entertaining thread on this one, if you're going to personally respond to each and every answer :)
if it's not too much trouble, which is the question you're referring to? i looked but can't find it...and i only have so much time lol. oh well.
I'm curious how anyone is sure someone has more than one account. You seem so certain and accusatory, but as someone below said, they got harassed for the same thing and it wasn't true. It's no more dishonest to post the same question under multiple accounts because you don't like the answers than it is to support yourself with a response under a different name. Both approaches are equally silly and needy. I understand what it feels like to be that needy (although I don't think I'd go to all that trouble to make A. extra account), but you really can't act like what you've done is less needy or ridiculous.
I am soooooooooooooooo confused right now!! Even if you have more than one account and you ask/answer questions aren't you still the same person reading/responding??? Unless you are a true schizophrenic and don't know what the other one is doing?!?!?
When I post questions on here, I read all the responses and really enjoy hearing suggestions - it makes me see things in a way I may not have thought of before. If I don't like a response, so be it! I move on!
I never even gave it a thot to have more than one account on here. I guess I'm just naive in that I think everyone on here is real and sincere. I guess I'm living in la-la land!!! lol!!!
As for how many questions someone asks - so what! I didn't think we had a limit on here. If you need help, I think it's great to be able to reach out and ask! To me, it's fun and very helpful especially if you can't really ask family or friends face-to-face.
Just my opinion!!!
sometimes i guess folks just need to read something that says 'wow you are so smart and so right and so amazing.' and if no one else will oblige, what choice do they have?
;)
khairete
S.
mamazita has issues reading anyones post. its always a miscommunication issue on the psoters part, never on her reading comprhension part....just relax.
Post questions you want, answer what you want. I personally never look at the names...now I don't even have to. I can tell by the writing and sarcasm.
WOW! I must be really slow, or really ditsy. I never even realized that this was A. issue, or possible, or would have thought to DO this. WHY?? I have all I can do to keep up with the info for my ONE account. LOL! My goodness! This is truly crazyness.................. I guess I can look at it as entertainment for my morning coffee. LOL
I really don't care what people do on here. If you want to have 3 or 4 accounts, fine. If you want to answer your own question, fine. If you want to make up a crazy untrue scenario, fine.
I'll answer the ones I want to and I do it sincerely even if I think the problem or the presenter is iffy.
When I ask a question I take what is helpful to me and try to take the rest with a grain of salt.
That's it. I enjoy the site and I enjoy all your "company" in cyberworld! I don't worry about all the petty stuff.
Might I suggest a visit to Amazon or your local bookstore to check out some books? We liked the "What to expect" series (among others), although it's a little dense to just read straight through.
We LOVE the Babywise series. But there's like a whole section in any store just for information about how to do any number of parenting styles.
I don't mean this to be rude, but if you feel like you're asking too many questions - that might be a way for you to get the information you need (we all need). I mean, they don't exactly come with a handbook, ya know? (now people will think I'm Jo's alternate account).
Mrs. On Purpose and I looked around at the kids we knew did well in school, were well behaved and still "kid-like". We do what their parents do, and found books that help support that parenting style. Babywise was the one that explained everything, in easy to understand language, and in our style of parenting. But there are many out there.
Good luck! And don't worry about too many questions. I've seen 5 per day on here from some - so I'm sure you could set your limit at 10 per day and be ok. :)
Wait what???
are you asking a question or defending yourself??
If you are refering to the double flowers post, I would lilke to clarify that i personally don't care how many account you have, BUT when people with mulitple accounts with the same name, post and answer under their own quesiton and respond to the posterse before them, --we can see you and then it isn't a secret anymore.
I think she was trying to respond and didn't understand about the So wHat Happened part of the post.
But like i said, i don't care how many posts you have or how many accounts or how many times anyone answers themselves................................. As long as you are nice. that's all.
Edited: ok anyone coming along late to this party. There was a poster- lets call her Lulubelle she asked what flavor tooth paste do you like best? five people answered and then the #6 answer was lulabelle again and she said thank you numbers 1-5 for giving your fav brand of toothpaste, i should have clarifies i'm asking for favorite brands of toddler toothpaste but you all have some very good prerance of toothpaste thank you for taking the time to answer.
-- That was how you could tell she was doing something --different._- than the rest of us. IF jo W says there is a glitch in the system that lets you do that instead of posting in the SWH then it must be true.
Hit report and say why?
Um, don't know how to break it to you since you are so certain you are right but there is a glitch on this platform that sometimes puts your what happened as a response to the question. If you read it it is clearly worded as a what happened but hey, if you are feeling like you need to do some judging, go right ahead. :)
They can't go back and change it either because when they go back in edit it only gives them access to the what happened section and not the stray post.
Oh if you click on the answer or the question it links to the same profile! Makes it painfully obvious the poster didn't do it for nefarious purposes!!
My mom once admitted to me that while she was particularly struggling she sent her self some cards in the mail. I guess that made her feel better. I suppose it is the same thing. I haven't noticed but then again I seem to miss out on all the drama of this site usually.
The only reasons I could think that someone would do it (other than yours :) are:
1. THey want to spark a discussion and used that as a mechanism to support a point of view (don't know what Q you are talking about so...), stir the pot etc.
2. They were too embarassed to ask under their own name, a question with TMI etc...
I guess I'm out of the loop...I really don't know who or what you are talking about. I have a hard time believing someone would make multiple accounts just to answer their own question. Not saying it's not true, just that I've never seen anything to make me think that like others are claiming.
I am curious now though...guess I need to start paying closer attention.
I think it is better to just be yourself. I have been attacked on here. (there are a few tough titties on here...lol!) I have been here for many years though... i am not going to let them bully me into hiding. I am T. M, i live in PA, i am here to learn and to help :) Be yourself. There is no reason to hide.
But, answering your own questions... that seems like the person would have a mental illness. (not being mean)
C.,
I get on here when I want some adult advice from other parents or I come accross a question I feel I could give some useful advice or opinion.There is no such thing as a "perfect"site or forum,its post like this this that may even fuel more childish behavior .Take what you want and leave the rest.How do people know when someone is using another name anyway?Dont give them anymore attention then theyre already getting (or trying to get)and dont fight the funk,some people really are that lame(driving on the road,in the grocery store,at the mall,in your neighborhood......)In other words WHO CARES?????????
Yeesh! So many tyrants in this tiny little teapot!
I don't really get having multiple accounts, although I can see the point of having a 'real you' and A. 'anonymous you'. I just have the one account, and it points to the 'anonymous me'. My name isn't Y., and I don't live in Frederick, MD. But my heart is true, and all my Q&A's are what I really think, and I try never to troll or tear into anybody.
Peace!
Maybe they have A. alter ego! Like Superman and Clark Kent! LOL! But seriously how do you even know they have multiple accounts and how would you notice they answered their own question? I think I spend too much time on here but you must be spending way more than me in order to figure out that stuff.
Here is a reason i thought of: Some people already have the answer to their question. They think it was a rhetorical question then notice it is not going as planned. Maybe they want people to agree with the alias if theyanswers are not going as they had planned.
I read several questions on this site and have not noticed this issue.
