Just Need to Vent a Little - Silly Husbands

My first child was born via emergency c-section. It was terrifying and when the anesthesiologist came in to have me literally sign my life away, my husband told me to "suck it up and stop crying". Really? Good move.

He apologized later and was actually really upset and nervous. I'm usually the calm one, so seeing me freaking out upset him, but he really could have found a better way to phrase that.

For my birthday one year my husband got a bird feeder that goes in the window so "the cat can watch the birds." I feigned excitement - I did like it but... Later he asked me if I really liked it (guess I wasn't too convincing - I've never been a good liar) and I said it was fine but that I was a little taken aback that the cat got a gift and I got nothing! LOL He still frequently screws up gifts but it's just stuff. He treats me very well in other ways!

Oh, L.!!!!!!!

All I will say.... is that your va-jay-jay will catch the Dr attention and they won't even notice your unshaved legs!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just, Love him. Like you would a puppy. or an orphan who doesn't know how to behave.

Good Luck with your biopsies.

Men aren't mind readers. Most never will be.

I love my wife dearly and when she is feeling down in the dumps, I try and cheer her up. But occasionally I miss the point for her feeling down in the dumps and just try and get her something she likes so she will be happy and smile. I love it when she smiles over something I've done.

So she was feeling bad because her diet wasn't working and she had gained another 8 or so pounds. I just wanted to cheer her up. I went and made a special trip(!!) to get her one of her favorite indulgences so she wouldn't feel so bad about gaining weight. What did I get her? Specially made pecan logs. You know, pecan logs, the high calorie kind of indulgence. But she was really nice. She opened the bag and looked inside and reminded me she was feeling bad because she had GAINED weight. I took the package back from her and went in the kitchen and made her a low cal fruit smoothie. Tears came to her eyes and she gave me a hug. At least I had tried.

Your husband enjoys bowling and being with you. We (all people) tend to feel that "If it makes me happy it will make them happy" and so your husband tried. Tell your husband what you like to do if bowling is not your happiness maker. Remind him occasionally. (I bowl occasionally, and feel like I have really accomplished something IF I break 100.)

Don't worry about shaving your legs. That's not what a good doctor will be looking at if you have a disc problem. BTW, if he is examining your legs because you have a disc problems, go to a different doctor. ;~))

Good luck to you and yours.

Haha!!! Sorry, that sounds like a guy. I could be frustrated with my husband for spending money on something stupid (I love him, but I generally handle the money, and we don't have a lot of it to begin with) and his "apology" might be to buy me flowers. It is still a struggle for me to not think about what food we could have bought instead, or to tell him that a better way to make amends would be to just fold a basket of laundry. I really don't hold grudges, so if I've been mad and vented I've probably moved on anyway.

When I was in grad school he wanted to "spend time with me" instead of going and doing something with one of friends without me. His solution was usually for me to bring my homework to the bar and do it while they played darts. Great. Not only that, but to keep from making me feel left out, once we had our first child I got to sit in a booth at the bar, breastfeed, do homework, and watch them play darts. I'm also the designated driver (not that they were drinking much--they were mostly just playing darts). That is NEVER what a mom wants to do, especially with homework in the mix. He meant well every time, though. :)

the light bulb just isn't screwed in all the way....sometimes!

My heart goes out to you....& yes, this is a typical occurence with husbands. Several years ago, my Mom gave me a greeting card...unsigned. It was a brick wall on the front & inside it said...something like "for when you feel the need". She left it unsigned because she knew that I would have many occasions to pass it on to friends! Too true...

Please keep us posted as to your results.....prayers to you!

Aww, the thought is there but the timing stinks for sure :)
He sounds like a sweetie. Lots of men wouldnt want their wife on the bowling team.
Good luck on your biopsies.

men lol they try they just don't always understand that what they would see as a good thing isn't at all what we see as a good thing lol

we moved out of state & arrived (in my husbands hometown with all his family & friends) on his 21st birthday (I was 20) & as soon as we got there he was off to the bar with his friends leaving me at home unpacking & cleaning & having a total anxiety attack about being in a totally new & unfamiliar place. it was terrible but he thought I wouldnt mind since I dont like him to be "underfoot" when I'm organizing/cleaning, which is normally true but obviously this was a different situation

then for my first mothers day he got me a deep fryer...ummm yea lol

he has gotten better (well really I try to just be crystal clear about what I want in different situations, or what gift I would like) but he still has his moments...last valentines day he brought me home a lily (my favorite flower is a daisy) & it wasnt even just a lily it was a lily plant & I cant keep a plant a live to save my life lol needless to say he's still learning after 10+ years lol
hugs & good luck with your appointment

Good luck on the biopsies, I know having medical procedures can be scary and stressful. It sounds like you have children are of varying ages that would have been fine so I can appreciate how hubby wanted to get out for the night before your procedure to relieve stress. I don't see that he was trying to be mean or insensitive. Hope the leg shaving went well...I always have to have my toes done and a bikini wax when I'm under anesthesia....doctor doesn't care, I just feel more polished!

A "girl with degenerative disc disease" always deserves to have fun...take it from the "girl with all the previously ruptured discs" with seven surgeries in the past nine years...we can't let it define us!

L. C.

I'm sure you know he meant well and really did want to do something fun with you. Probably to help you take your mind off of today's procedure.

I hope he's coming with you today? If not, know that my thoughts and prayers and strength and good wishes are there with you. Keep them in a pocket and hold them tight.

Please let us know how it goes, dear friend.

When my sister was in labor with her first child, her husband got hungry (yeah, thanks) and asked if he could just go grab something quick to eat and bring it back to the room. My sister said OK, but asked him to not make it something that would smell because she was really really sick to her stomach and didn't want to smell food. So he brought back a tuna sandwich - thanks, honey.
My husband offered me alcoholic drinks regularly until well into my pregnancy. Um, I don't really drink and I'm PREGNANT you bonehead! When I finally went into labor, I woke him up gently and said - you know, honey, I think today would be a great day to have a baby - my water just broke! To which he replied - um, yeah, let me get up and feed the dog. 9 months of waiting for the blessed day to arrive and his first thought is - I have to feed the dog? Idiot! Oh, and he once bought me a limoges (sp?) box that said "I still love you." Gee, thanks big guy. What the heck does that mean? You've 25 lbs heavier than when I first met you, but I still love you? I asked him to bring it back. It's an inside joke with us now for when one of us does something stupid - yeah, I still love you. Men aren't always that bright. Even the good ones screw up once in a while.

Hope all goes will with the biopsies. Its a guy thing. One anniversary my husband "forgot" to get a card. On our way to dinner we stopped at Krogers and he got a card that said "To My Special Friend". I was like WTH! Lets just say there was no lovin and touchin that night! He said that the card was pretty and thought I would like it. Guys just think differently than us girls. Not right or wrong just different. Gotta love em! Again, good luck!

He wants to spend time with you. Id jump at the chance for a night out. Line up a weekly sitter and go join the league. He may have thought it would take your mind off your Dr appt. I used to bowl twice a week. One morning with a group of women, and one night with my husband on a mixed league. He decided he didnt want to bowl a few years ago and I really miss the fun of a planned night out with him and friends. And, I also have degenerative disk disease and the exercise is good for you. Good wishes for the Dr tomorrow. Hope all goes well, and youre bowling next week and having fun!

Silly guys. :-/

I wish you well with your biopsies.

Oh dear!! The worst gift my husband got me was for Mother's Day. Apparently he had researched all the best selling books at that moment, so I do know he tried. But not hard enough. He handed me a book, in the bag from Borders. "Here you go." I haven't even read it and it's been 4 years..... He tried to make it up to me by going completely different the following year. What did he get me? An iPhone. I am a stay at home mom. Well, sometimes I substitute teach. I have a calendar hanging in my kitchen and it works for me. What the heck do I need an iPhone for???? A $400 phone. I actually felt sick to my stomach. Then I felt that maybe I was being completely ungrateful. But really, it's cool and all, but I use it as a PHONE. I call people on it. I gently mentioned that we should return it, it was just too much for me. He said "No, you deserve it." So that made me feel good, but still!! Now I have a $85 cell phone bill every month. Oh well. Chin up Mama. They really do try hard :)

I'm cracking up at Krista P.'s response...my husband told me during labor with my daughter that he thought I was being a baby...I still can use that against him to get anything I want! He blamed it on nerves, but I think he was just being a man!! ha,ha