Im having one of those days where something just doesnt feel right. I don't know what or who it has to do with but its there lingering in my gut. Do you usually let those around you know how your feeling and to be extra cautious or do you just let it go until it goes away? Several things have happened this past week (most of them really bad) but I really dont feel that its over. How do you mommas deal with the feelings?
Most of the time the feelings do go away on their own, but there have been several times where something has come from the feelings but those times ive been able to pinpoint the person. I know my family that has been evacuated are safe. And when I think about the fires I dont feel the negativity there. I do have some unanswered questions about one bad thing this week so that could be it. I hope that is it.
I mention it to the people around me. And then I am cautious.
I bet you are stressed about the news right now. Come up with some solutions now. So if something happens you are prepared.
Well, considering your proximity to the fires in Colorado, you may be feeling the stress of knowing family and friends may be near the fires. I don't think your location is threatened at this point, but I'm sure seeing the smoke and such adds to the anxiety.....
Just try to take some calming breaths, say a prayer if that is important to you, and maybe get some extra exercise to deal with the anxiety....
Hugs!
I see that you live in Colorado. I hope that your family is safe from the fires. I see that it's already 87*F and it's still pretty early in the morning with more chance of thunderstorms this afternoon. I would probably have a foreboding feeling as well.
In your position, when I have these feelings of dread, I try to keep myself busy and active aka distracted. I try to also do things that typically are relaxing for me; hot shower, reading, aroma therapy, cooking, art therapy, going to the library, etc. I try to involve the kids as much as they're willing. If it's a weather issue contributing to my anxiety I do keep an ear out for any changes I should be aware of, but I don't let it be my main focus. I live in New England so we do get some changeable and dangerous weather on occasion.
When I shared such feelings with my husband once he told me what he does: He said that when he has those feelings of uneasyness he "knocks on wood". Basically by doing so, he is able to free his mind from these feelings of uneasyness and anxiety. In order to be able to do so anytime, anywhere, he always wears either a necklace or a bracelet that contains at least one wooden bead. So he can always "knock on wood" if some bad thought creeps up in his mind.
I tried it too and I do feel that it helps me as well. It feels a bit like by doing this, I've done everything I can to divert bad stuff away from me and my family and instead of dwelling on the bad feelings I can let them move out of my mind. I do realize it may not work for everyone, but you could give it a try or come up with your own ritual that may ease your mind.
To your question; I usually don't let people know about those feelings and I have never had a feeling like that and then something bad happen. It has always been only in my mind. If I would have shared my feelings every time I would probably sound like a complete worrywart to the people around me.
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You don't live far from the C-Springs area. Do you have friends and family there that are trying to keep their homes safe?
When I have a bad feeling about something - I typically write it down. I pray about it as well - especially if a picture has NOT come to my brain - only that NAGGING THOUGHT "something isn't right". it also helps for me to go sit in a quiet place and just let my thoughts stream (if that makes sense to you).
As to the bad things that happened this week? Is it possible you need more information or closure on them before you can "press on"??? I know that when bad things happen - we need time to heal, process and see what went wrong in order to not allow it to happen again. Write your thoughts and feelings down. Then put it aside - go about your day and go back to it. You might be able to pick something out from it!
GOOD LUCK!!
Your mind is a powerful thing, you can think yourself into a panic attack if you allow yourself to dwell on negative thinking.
Try to find something you enjoy or something that you know would be fun and distract yourself with that.
I pray/meditate to get clarity. Stop talking and just LISTEN with every part of you.
What I do really depends on what is driving the feelings.
I have a very strange mind that collects data on all sorts of things. Most of the time I am not paying attention at the time but then enough data comes in where I feel there is a pattern. Then it hits my conscious.
Thankfully it is usually something that I can identify and pull information, kind of verify my feelings then do something about it. :)
The other information my mind collects is baseline personalities. So if someone is just a little off it sends me spinning. There is no way I can tell what is off, I have limited information on how it will effect me, and the feeling won't go away until they are normal again. Frustrating...
Thankfully the people I know well or my family, I am comfortable in saying, what is going on. Then we talk and I feel better. :)
What you are talking about is in a limited way my life. What I would do is look at what has happened, see if there is anything in the past that is similar and see the outcomes there and decide the possibilities and chances of those possibilities happening.
Then again I am a very strange human being so maybe you should listen to the normal people. :)
I pray and vision a better outcome and thank GOD for his grace.
I suggest that paying attention to the feeling increases the chances of something bad happening. Our bodies respond to our feelings. When we're tense and defensive negative things do happen.
I push the feeling aside. I remind myself that feelings come and go and that everything and everyone will be OK.
I've frequently had this sort of feeling and nothing has come from it. The feeling is just our minds way of dealing with something. I suggest for you it's dealing with the several bad things that have happened. The feeling does not mean something more is going to happen.
Jessica Wessica has listed some good ways to be distracted and focused on positive things.
I always check on the kids first. Then pray. Then walk through the house looking for signs of danger, looking out the windows, making sure things are locked and hot things are turned off. After all that I usually call my mom or anyone else who pops into my mind. If many people come to mind, I just take a deep breath, say another prayer, and go on with whatever I was doing. There have been many times when my mom and I got those feelings on the same day.
I wouldn't be afraid to tell anyone. I listen to those feelings, they are usually correct. If I feel a certain way about a situation i may avoid it, if it is just a general feeling I go aboutmy daily life until I feind out what the feelingw as about
