Is It Just a Boy Thing?

My husband was never shy to admit he wanted boys. We do have two boys, so I can't say how he would have responded if they had been girls. I wanted boys too, so we were both thrilled. He is not unusual in wanting boys, it is a guy thing, carry on the family name, etc...Healthy was my first priority, but once we knew that, we were all smiles when we knew the sex was a boy.

No but enjoy it! All three of my bio kids are boys so we didn't have any excitement in terms of a different gender.

A girl and boy are great but I have to laugh at all of my friends who had girls first. I realize that some girls are terrors and some boys are angels, but I have three friends who had girls first and all are easy-going, compliant, and not a ton of work. Then each had a boy and all hell broke loose. I hear at least once a month "I don't know how you managed three boys I love this little guy but had no idea what I was in for..."

Some guys get the same way about the thought of having a daughter.

It's fine. There should be a bit of a man/son thing, just like there's usually a mother/daughter thing.

It's all good. Congratulations!

My husband was the same way with our son. He literally couldn't help himself. He immediately started planning with my dad and BIL all the things they could do with him. We're having a girl this time and he's actually just as excited, but in a totally different way- already worried about having "enough put away" for her... college, wedding, first house. Very sweet, but totally different kind of excitement than with our son.

Having a boy for a man is like having a "mini-me". He can teach his son so many things like how to pee standing up LOL!!!

Another thing you may not have considered, having a boy means his family's name will be carried forward which is also important to some men.

Your husband is over the moon happy about the upcoming boy because his unspoken dreams and desires to create someone in his own image are about to be fulfilled or at least that is the thought when boys are conceived. However the reality may be much different than the dream but any way you look at it CONGRATULATIONS.

Aaaw, what a great post!

And actually, I felt that way when we found out #3 was a girl (finally!). I started buying girl stuff right away. I was like a 6 yo with a new doll baby.

It does not mean I loved my boys less! But really I was just SOOO thrilled to have a girl, too.

Congratulations to you and your family!

:)

Yes, my husband was the exact same way!! He adored (and still does, of course!) his daughter, but the idea of having a boy put him over the top :)

Mine was that way when we found out we were having a girl. He already had 2 boys so the thought of having a girl just made him over the top with joy.
God Bless and enjoy!

After having 3 miscarriages, I was at the ultrasound for our son (finding out the sex)...my mom & stepfather came with us for moral support but were out in the waiting room...waiting. We were bracing for the worst. We found out we were expecting a healthy baby boy. We went out to the waiting room after. My husband picked up my mom and literally swung her around yelling "It's a boy...it's a BOY!!!" So cute.

My husband was scared to death to have to raise himself...or anything that could be in any way shape or form close to himself. and well, at 4 yrs of age now I know why! LOL he loves his two girls! Tolorates his son...;0)

My DH sucker-punched me with "I wish we were having a girl" when I was 6 months pregnant with DS3. I think it's just the excitement of getting to experience the other side of things, rather than the fact it's a boy.

And congrats! Boys are fun- I adore all three of mine!

My husband was the same way! Our daughter was almost 2yrs old when we found out we were expecting a boy. Both of us were beside ourselves, but my hubby was on cloud 9! He said, "now I have my little girl to walk down the aisle and my boy to take fishing!!" We've been married almost 12 years...........our daughter is now about to turn 8 and our son is 5 1/2 and that is STILL my favorite thing my husband has ever said. It just summed it all up perfectly. =0) Congratulations to you on your perfect little family of 4!

I have 2 boys than a girl. While my husband was super excited with all of them there was a little something extra when we found out we were having a girl. I had it too. I'm sure some of it is that she's the first girl in a good 50 years born on my husband's side (my FIL was trying to think and knew it was at least that long if not longer). Having a girl was going to be something new since we'd done the boys already. There was a different kind of excitement with my first that had nothing to do with sex but simply being the first. My husband never once held a baby before he held our son and everything was a first from that point on.
I could not tell you if it's because the baby is a different sex or if it's because it's a boy. Hard to tell.

Nope....LOL! At first with baby #1 for us...my DH was opposed to a girl but guess what that's what we had...She stole his heart immediately after her birth...Still trying to get a piece of it back for myself.

So when we went to find out with baby #2 and #3 (boys) I think he would have been in his glory with all girls because of his love and attachment to #1. Anyway he was amused when learning I was going to have boy....and loves it because #3 looks especially like him....My DH would like one more to see if we could have another girl so we would have 2 of each...Not in the cards..I am done.

Congrats and Best wishes on your baby boy to be :)

My husband grew up around girls (4 older sisters) and just knew our first would be a girl. He said he couldn't imagine us with a boy. He was right, and she is all Daddy's girl. When we found out #2 was a boy, he was shocked but happy, then when we found out #3 was a boy he was ecstatic. He really enjoyed being a dad to a boy, and was thrilled to get that experience again. #3 is very attached to Daddy which is nice since #2 has always been more of a Mommy's boy. I always pictured us with girls, or at least the majority being girls, but life doesn't always go how you pictured it. In my case, now I can't imagine our family being any other way. It's perfect!

It's definitely a man/son thing. When we found out our first was a boy, my hubs practically jumped out of his chair, and actually yelled "HELL YES!!"

No, my husband didn't care either way. (We have one son). Neither did my dad. In fact I thought it was odd when people said, Wow, your dad/husband must be SO excited. I know both of them - they would have been equally excited about a girl.

Oh yeah. My husband was the same way. He loves our daughter (firstborn) more than life itself, but when we found out #2 would be a boy, he called EVERYONE he knew and even called relatives he hadn't talked to in a long time to share the good news. When our son was born, my husband was grinning from ear to ear for days. Baby #3 is a boy too, and my husband thinks he is the cherry on top of the icing on the yummy cake.

It's definitely a father-son thing. My husband lost his father when he was very young, so it is nice for him to pass onto his sons a lot of the lessons he learned from his own father. It's not a sexist thing. It's the same way some mothers have an extra special relationship with their daughters. Congratulations to you!

It is not a guy thing it is a personality thing. I know just as many women as men that were boy crazy, same thing with girl crazy.

Just enjoy it, I love when guys are silly.

My husband would be the same, we have two girls. He never says it in front of them, but I know it breaks his heart he will never have a son. He's very macho and a jock. I try to remind him that if he had a son, he might want to be a ballet dancer instead! =)

From your description your husband sounds like he's filled with joy that you are having a healthy child. I think he would be feeling the same if the baby were a girl.

I think it is a difference, to raise boys, and different for men in their minds when considering raising a boy vs. a girl.

My husband wanted all girls, didn't want any boys; but I think that was because he was afraid that he wouldn't be a good father to boys, but would be a good father to girls. Or maybe that he knew what it was like to *be* a boy, and thought girls would be easier, or have fewer problems or something. He never really verbalized why he wanted a girl. Then I got pregnant.

We both thought it was a boy, but he said he wanted a girl -- though he didn't belabor the point. Then we had an u/s a few weeks before I was due, and decided to find out the sex. It was a boy. I was a little nervous, because I thought he might be disappointed, since he had said he wanted a girl; but I have never seen him look so *joyous*! After we had him, my husband said, "I don't know why I ever wanted a girl! I want all boys -- a hockey team!" But I know that if we were to have a girl, he would be thrilled with her, and probably wonder why he ever wanted a boy. ;-)

Yes, I think there is a father-son dynamic that goes on that we women don't quite get, just like there is a father-daughter thing, and a mother-son and mother-daughter thing. With fathers and sons, though, there may be something about a man doing things with and for their sons that they felt were lacking or missing in their relationship with their own fathers. And, face it, males are all very similar, and have certain experiences which females do not have (testosterone levels, e.g.), and a man may feel that he is more able to relate to a son, even though he doesn't necessarily love or want a son more than a daughter, but just be able to *relate* to the son more.

my hubby was like that when we found out we were having a girl after two boys....so i do not know......

I think it depends on the guy but I suspect a lot are like your husband. My husband and I were both hoping for a girl the first time around (our oldest is a boy). Our second child is a girl--I was so happy and acted like your husband! Interestingly my parents, who raised 2 girls, love having a grandson.

I think it is a father/son thing. My hubby had the same reaction to the news our second was a boy. I think my hubby's father was more excited to have a namesake. Don't get me wrong they both love our daughter to pieces but there is something with male bonding or something! Congrats on your upcoming addition!!!

I think it is cute...it's a man thing that he created a minny him. He is probably thinking of playing football, basketball, baseball, hunting , fishing with his BOY. Also, he is probably happy not to be the ONLY guy in the family. He now has allies. It is totally normal.

P.S. I am a mother of two awesome boys....never a dull moment with them. They are fun!!!

aww thats so cute. My husband kept insisting he didn't care if it was a boy or a girl when I was pregnant but I thought he secretly really wanted a boy and just didn't want to say. Well, come ultrasound day, we found out we were pregnant with a son and it turned out my husband was telling the truth! He was happy but not crazy over the moon happy. And now when we talk abou having a 2nd we both want a girl b/c we already have a boy. In fact he thinks it would be a nightmare to have another son. He grew up with 2 brothers and he knows how crazy it can get ;) Anyway, Im sure it's awesome to see you husband so adorably happy. lol. Congratulations to you both!!

Both my girls were what we wanted - girls. Not just me but my husband too. We picked out boy names but hoped that we would never have to use that name. When we learned we needed a C-section on the morning of our first's birth, the doctor had to do an ultrasound to see exactly where the baby was. I reminded the doc that we did not want to know the sex. He said, "oh, I could have told you that from the internal."
Of course I thought he had felt boy parts. So, I told myself, "it's ok, boys are cute, they are nice if you train them right. Boys are ok." When it turned out to be a girl I was surprised and thrilled.

So for the second one, we also didn't find out. My husband by then had had nepheews as well as his own daughter. And I had been doing daycare. He told me he hoped it was a girl again. He kept saying "She" instead of it or the baby. He really wanted our second to be a girl. We are having only 2, my tubes were cut, tied, burned - two was it.

BUT
after it was a girl, he told me that he was surprised that he felt regret that it was not a boy. That HE didn't even realize that a tiny part of him had wanted a boy purely to carry on the family name. Purely to HAVE a boy.

So, I think it IS a genetic, man thing to want a boy.

Let it go. It will just make you both feel bad if you make it a feminist thing. And by the way, if you had boys, he would be giddy over finally having a girl.

Dawn