HUSBANDS 30Th on MONDAY!!! HHHHEEEEELLLLPPPPP!!!!!

Updated on December 03, 2008
A.M. asks from Rogers, AR
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What can I do???? My husbands 30th birthday is on monday!!!! I have absolutely NOOoooo idea what to do! We have been working 24/7 lately and I haven't had time to plan ANYTHING! He really just wants time with me, but it's on a MONDAY! No sitter available! No cash for a night away! ANY kind of creative ideas would be welcome! I had planned on putting together a party but the timing is off! December is always a difficult time for EVERYONE, but do any of you December babies have any ideas on how to make this SPECIAL???!!! He is always surprising me with WONDERFUL gifts on my birthday and on the holidays! I think I'm going to STROKE OUT!!!

HELP, HELP, HHHHEEEEELLLLPPPPPP!!!!!!!

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So What Happened?

THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!
With everything going on I get overwhelmed and I REALLY needed all of the wonderful advice to get grounded!
Sooo, I made a book. 30 Reasons why I love you. Including illustrated cupons, a drawing by our daughter, and a list of 30 reasons why I love him.
Some of the reasons were as simple as "Your dancing funny is better than your dancing fantastically". He really can't dance! And I love it!
Some were deep, like "You Always make sure we are provided for, even when it seems impossible to make ends meet."
We had a terribly intense business day, he was gone for most of it. Then our WHOLE family decided to go out for dinner. It was HILARIOUS.
We are in the event and music business, the last thing we want to do is go see live music when we are off. But when we showed up to the
Catfish diner there was a live bluegrass band! The place was filled with 70-80 year olds jamming out to this amazing little quartet!
Sooo, we all laughed and said we were throwing him a bash to fit his "OLD AGE"! We really had fun!
I gave him his book late that night and cuddled with him on the couch. He was really touched by it, especially because I'm not the type to write out my feelings and get mushy. He is but dosen't get too deep with me to spare me the sappy stuff. He really loved it!

So again! THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!
Normally my requests are never answered here, this came as a BLESSING!!!!

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A.J.

answers from Baton Rouge on

make it simple and appreciative

cook him a good candle light supper

put a few candles in the bed room

when you come out of the bed room bath take and tie a big yellow ribbon around you then come out and say

HAPPY BIRTHDAY - I LOVE YOU

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C.O.

answers from Tulsa on

Hello, I will tell you about a special evening I gave my husband at very little cost. I sent all my kids to a friends, which I watched hers at a later date for exchange, then I fixed my husband his favorite meal. We sat on a blanket on the floor at candlelight and enjoyed a wonderful uninterupted meal together. I then gave him a massage and it went on from there. He said it was a wonderful evening and he enjoyed the individual attention. We have four kids so it's not very often he would get that. I hope this helps. Relax and enjoy your husband.

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L.J.

answers from Birmingham on

I really think guys don't care as much as some women about the big celebrations but they do like it when friends come over and hang out and everyone has fun. There's a big football game this weekend (I don't know where you live though) AL vs. FL on Saturday mid-afternoon. Maybe you could have a FOOTBALL PARTY! theme and all the regular snacks (cheese dip, chips, party dip, veges, hotdogs) and during half-time, pull out a cake and have everyone sing. He probably isn't interested in gifts but you might mention it to anyone invited that you're going to surprise him with a cake and are SO glad they can come. That way they can pick up something for him (their option though).

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D.B.

answers from New Orleans on

Dear A.M.,

Relax,YOu've got it made! For starters, you have only one child who probably goes to sleep early in the evening. Secondly, you are an artist! This means you can be quite creative and make a nice gift. Third, Money is not a big deal when it comes to creating a nice surprise for your hubby. You don't need much at all.

Now, I am a November baby. A Scorpio who thinks Romance! Here is what I'd do in your predicament. First, feed the baby girl and get her into bed and asleep early. If possible, before the hubby arrives from his work place. If he works in the home, no problem. Send him to the showers while you set up the romantic ambiance.

Buy a nice inexpensive bottle of wine (assuming the two of you can drink a glass or two of wine). Light some candles to create romance in the living room or in the bedroom. Maybe you have some fresh flowers in your garden you can cut and place in a vase to give a hint of aroma. If not, the candles will do. Buy some Strawberries, a good Loaf of Bread, A chunk of Gouda Cheese or whatever is your favorite. You don't need much. Maybe some grapes in both colors, just a few.

Now you make up a nice tray placing everything on one. Arrange it nicely. Get out the wine glasses, pull the wine out of hiding from the back of the fridge! Put on some romantic music, low volume so as not to awaken the baby girl. And VOILA!, instant romantic evening for the two of you. To that you can add your hand-made birthday card saying all that you feel about him or make it silly to bring some humor to the night.

I promise you this will be a hit! If by chance, neither of you drink alcohol, just serve some sparkling cider. I'm guessing there is no problem with the wine idea, can be anything you both enjoy drinking. You can take it from here!

I do this occasionally for my husband and he loves it. I throw pillows on the living room floor and place everything on the coffee table, with all the lights out and only candle light with the soft music. WE eventually dance, munch, chat, and simply enjoy the time together. We have no small children but still need an occasional romantic evening.

Enjoy whatever you do and I'm sure your husband will enjoy your thoughtfulness! Good Luck and Happy 30th to the hubby.

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M.M.

answers from Tulsa on

Cheap, but cute idea. Print out a few coupons with various things on them (Your favorite dinner, a 1 hour massage, etc.) and give them to him. Redeemable whenever he chooses. They do not have to be of an adult nature, though a few of those might not hurt either! My husband and I have some serious time issues as well. It seems as though we rarely see each other without all of the kids there. Makes a great family, but a lousy spousal relationship sometimes. He did this for me for our anniversary, and it was my all time favorite gift. Whenever I need a little attention, even if it was only a minute or two, I would whip out a coupon. It may be silly, but we have gotten along a lot better since then. It almost feels like we are getting to know one another again! (Mine are reusable!)

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L.W.

answers from Auburn on

What about getting your daughter to bed as early as possible and then having a good dinner and a bubble bath, or at least a massage for him, and let a special evening unfold from there? It sounds as if your setting aside time just for him would be a great present.

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M.M.

answers from Fayetteville on

Since you both have been working 24/7 I agree that just time together will be special. Will you have time to make a special meal for him? You could have it after your daughter is in bed or before. Not having children I do not know how to factor that in. My husband turns 50 this month and like your husband, all he wants is time with me. You can make coupons for a night out later when you have money and can get a sitter. The coupon can be for any thing but you seemed to want to have an evening out. It is okay to celebrate later, that way you two can celebrate twice.
Good Luck!

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J.H.

answers from Oklahoma City on

Been there, done that - many times :}. You can plan family time - homemade dinner and a movie at home is always a good one. Small family party and games. Bottle of wine and a snuggle after the little one goes to bed. I usually spend the day leaving sweet cards around where he can find em. Mine is Dec 1st and my fiance's Nov 29th, so we usually wind up doing something in between. This year I was running short, and he was working the late shift at Lowe's, so the kids & I showed up at his work with a cake and his friend in a furry suit. We shouted the birthday song as loud as we could right in the middle of the store. I used a tiny flashlight on the cake instead of candles. It was a complete surprise and really embarrassing, but he loved it. And his coworkers loved the cake - we were lucky to get a piece when we showed back up from taking him to dinner. Hope this helps :}

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L.B.

answers from Fayetteville on

Make it a weekend birthday, complete with pancakes on Sunday.

On Friday night, make a special dinner and give him a card that relieves him of all responsibility, all weekend. Make some part of every day of the weekend fun or relaxing for him. Friday night: let him go out for beers with his friends. Saturday: family event, trip to wherever that you know he'd like (indoor batting cage, camping store - and surprise him by sneaking off to purchase a small gift while he's checking out the tents with your daughter), breakfast in bed on Sunday and let him have the house to himself for a few hours while you girls go out. WHatever else you'd like. Romantic massage, polish all of his shoes, leave candies in his shirt pockets (starting Friday), sew buttons back on his stuff that's been missing them, (bonus: you can box 'em and wrap them up like presents) etc.

I know, my husband's is this Friday and we're similarly tight on money. Just didn't see it coming, since Thanksgiving was just last week. I'm going to frame a poster that he got recently. That's as far as I've gotten just yet. But really, finishing a project that he hasn't gotten around to might just make his day. A project for him, not a general household thing.

Oh, and I called some of his friends to remind them to call and wish him a happy birthday.

L.

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H.C.

answers from Oklahoma City on

My bday is Dec 16, my daughter who will be one was born Dec 19, and my dad's Bday is Dec 26, not to add a sister in law, cousins, grandma, friends bdays also in the month, and my parents anniverary. So here is my advice....one year it was a bad ice storm, and I dont mean last years! We basicly got snowed in for my dad's birthday. We had a candle light steak dinner, the electric worked. I see that although you work from home, you could probably decorate prior to him getting home! My dad decorates for my mom on valentines day morning and his kids that night. It is always so fun and special to see his cut out hearts and balloons everywhere. If he wants time with you and you dont have money for a sitter or money for getting out. Have a daddy date night, I bet your daughter would love it....you could either wear your pajama's or get really dressed up! My husband would love it! Good Luck

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A.C.

answers from Oklahoma City on

we do a date night. we feed the kids and put them to bed, and then we either get take out, or i make a special dinner for him, then watch movies, play a game, drink some wine, have dessert...i don't know how your house is set up, we have two stories, and sometimes we make a bed downstairs, or just move our mattress, light some candles, and pretend we are in a hotel!

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H.S.

answers from Texarkana on

Make his very favorite meal for supper, and a cake if he would like that kind of thing.
Get the kids up extraordinarily early. Then,put them to bed early that night.

Buy a bottle of wine (or whatever).
Buy a nightie--even if it's cheap.
Put on his favorite music. Make mad love to him.
Any man would love this. Afterward, give him a card
with, on it, a list of all the things you respect (not love) about him,
Fill his drawer with little pieces of paper with these things written on them. (Put this in his sock/underwear drawer. He has to get into this daily, so he will see them at the bottom as he takes his underclothes out.)

These are may suggestions.
If he doesn't love this, I will kiss your rear! lol

Birthday blessings!
H.

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