How to Discuss My Breast Augmentation with 10 Year Old

Hi D.,
I had mine done a few years ago and my explanation was the total truth approach. I was unhappy with the size of my breasts (barely an A) and I was choosing to have them increased to make me feel better. I was VERY uncomfortable about hardly having any breasts and thought this would be the right choice for me. I think you should just give her your reasons and let her know if she has questions to come to you. I wouldn't make it a big secret as that is alot of pressure for a kid. So what if she says something people always have something to talk about!
Best Wishes on your talk!

First of all I would tell her the truth. Second, I would tell her that you are going to be in a lot of pain for a couple of weeks (it was 6 weeks for me) & that it is normal after this procedure. Third, don't tell her to lie about it to people. You can ask her not to announce it, but if someone asks she should be able to tell them the truth. I was all paranoid about people finding out after my operation & now I know that it is just silly. They can tell just by looking at you. No one grows boobs naturally in one day, so people will know even if you don't tell them. Good luck & enjoy your new body.

If you have any kind of medical condition that would warrant any reconstructive work, I would really encourage you to start there (i.e. one is much smaller/larger). If you are having it because you desire to be a larger size, just approach the subject gingerly. You want your child to be confident with her own body image and having the augmentation, for the sole purpose of enhancing your body, may be a bit conflicting. So just be careful how you tell her. If you wish to keep this part of your life, private, I would probably word that into your conversation, too. (She may be fascinated, or not, to tell everyone!) Also let her know what she can expect, from you, after it, as you may be sore or have physical restrictions for a short time. Also, if there will be any dramatic changes, you may give her a heads-up on that too.

It's good that she hears it from you, first, so that you can quell any of her concerns. It would be embarrassing to overhear anyone talking about it, too, and if you were secretive, it may give her reason to wonder why you weren't upfront.

Best of luck to you.

My mom got breast implants somewhere around when I was that age, maybe a little older. It really wasn't that big of a deal and I was not traumatized by it in the least. In fact I don't even remember her having a talk with me about it. I would just keep it low key. Good luck and enjoy your new enhancement :).

My mom had breast augmentation when I was 8 or 9 years old. She explained that she always wanted to have breasts that were larger and that a doctor was finally going to help her with that. That information was not a problem for me at all. However, there were three things about the experience that were traumatic. 1) She was in the hospital for several days and I felt abandoned. 2) I was not allowed to tell anyone and got into trouble for mentioning it to our babysitter. 3) She was in pain afterwards.

So, I guess my suggestion would be IF you have to spend the night in the hospital, call her several times a day and let her come see you. Don't make her keep it a secret. And, take your pain meds.

Best of luck with the procedure.

I have no idea what I'd say, but I'd be very careful as you could be sending her a very dangerous message about body image. At that age the littlest things make huge impacts on them. You could be telling her that what God gave you which should be considered perfect just wasn't 'enough' (sorry about the play on words). So many young girls struggle with weight, acne, hair, issues...you can't just let her think that it's that easy to change what you think isn't good enough. I would talk to a counselor at her school, a doctor, and if you have a religious affiliation someone at your church/place of worship. Good luck.

Tell her what you've been thinking about for all these years and years. It will help you to articulate your own feeling too....that this is definitely what you want to do, or no, you've changed your mind. She is old enough to hear whatever you have to say. Just listen to yourself and share your heart. It will help build your connection for the future years. xo