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one thing is for certain; do not force him to be exposed to these things, dont make fun of him for it, and dont try to make him watch things in order to get him 'used to it' - after all, in all reality, when it comes to movies or etc, these are NOT things you want a child getting used to. its good that it bothers him. this is natural, it bothers me in the SAME WAYS and im 26 years old. it just makes my skin crawl that someone would think of such horrible things and call it entertainment. however, im an adult and can realize that its not real. for kids, they dont quite understand that when they see something its just makeup and acting. they really dont understand.
i would make sure to keep in tune with his emotions. there is nothing wrong with your son, he doesnt have an anxiety issue. he has fears, and thats normal and healthy. as far as worrying about dying from something, those things arent a big deal, remind him that though some people have health issues sometimes, he is healthy and as long as he eats good healthy foods and exersizes, he should be able to live a long healthy life! :D when it comes to the forms of 'entertainment' scaring him, by all means, keep him from seeing these things, even if it means you have to record your shows to watch later, do it. commercials these days are just as bad as the shows or movies they advertise. and i dont have cable or satellite, so i dont know about the kids channels and the ads that they have on there, i would like to think that they are age appropriate, but i guess i cant guarantee it.
we as a society have become WAY to desensitized to scary, fearful, terrorizing and sexual material. we dont realize that its NOT in our best interests to watch these things, but as adults we have every right to make that choice. however, our kids are NOT desensitized to it, and shouldnt be. they are within their natural selves to be bothered by these materials. as a parent, it is our responsibility to PROTECT our children from seeing things that bother them at such young ages. i know a family that let their 6 year old child watch saw 2, and i was HORRIFIED. she wasnt necessarily scared or crying about it, and i cant guarantee that she didnt wake up with nightmares or anything, but they treated it as if it were normal or healthy for their child to watch that movie. its not, its HORRIFYING that they think she is mature enough to handle that type of material.
anyway, im kinda blabbing. i honestly dont see any anxiety issues with your son, hes just having fears and concerns, and if you explain the health related ones, or the breaking into the house ones... those are normal, everyone wonders sometimes if those things could happen to them. if you are religious, you could explain to him the role God has in our lives, how He does protect us.... you can explain to him what you or daddy would do if someone broke into the house - for an idea my dad always had a baseball bat, he figured he didnt have to shoot someone to protect us... he would just bonk them in the knee or something... anyway, you could explain your plan, and that he would be protected, if anything like that happened, tell him what you would like him to do. i was going to say he could close his door and hide, but you dnt want him doing that if there were a fire, so ... its up to you. either way, he should stay in bed and not come out to find you ya know?
im still blabbing. its normal. hes normal. theres nothing wrong with your son. :D just be concerned for his feelings and acknowledge them - dont pass them off - and no counting wont help him. talk to him - take care of his emotional needs. :D and he will be fine as he grows up