Help with Potty Training My 3 Year Old!!!

The book Toilet Training in Less Than a Day worked like a charm (in less than a day) on my 27-month old son, whom I had been trying to train otherwise for six months (before finding that book). If you do exactly what it says to do, it works. You can find it on amazon. Good luck!

Hi R.
I use to go with my child and set on the
big girl potty and show them that I was a big girl too.
I made sounds so they could here.
It did help a little.
It is just an sugesstion

R.,

This is how I potty trained my 3-year-old grandson. The one thing I know, after growing up in a large family, is that a child who knows enough to refuse to learn has the ability to learn.

He had graduated from dippers to pull-ups. But, they had only given him another way to be stubborn like your daughter and keep going in his pants. No one else had figured out how to make him go on the pot.

He came over to stay with me alone all day one Saturday. Just so you know, I am just a stubborn as he was.

1st: I took away his pants. He was using them as his potty. So, I took away what he had decided was the potty.

2nd: I explained to him exactly what we were going to do. Believe me, at 3 years they will understand.

3rd: Every time he asked for his pull-ups, I put him on the potty and told him I would have a prize for him each time he did his business in the potty. Of course, I didn't say, "Do your business". I spoke in the words he was accustomed to.
Note: He loves chocolate. Each time he successfully urinated, I gave him one chocolate kiss. And, each time he did the other, I gave him two. You will need to make the prize whatever is your daughter's favorite thing.

The first time He was successful on the pot, for each of the two experiences, a light bulb came on and you would have thought he invented the wheel. He was very proud. And, he discovered that he didn't have to go through most of the clean up procedures that he hated.

By the end of the day, he was successfully telling me that he had to go. And, I sent him home with a big bag of chocolate kisses for his parents to give as prizes. They only had to use the chocolate kisses for a few days. After that, they stopped giving them unless he asked. When he was busy playing, he seemed to forget about them.

He left my home potty trained in one day. Over the next week or so, he had two little mistakes while he was playing and didn't go quite quick enough. But, that was the end of his potty training experience.

Try this and see if it works for you. I wish you all the luck in the world.

THANKS!!!
JLN

For potty training to be successful at all, you must make sure that you have some initial 'successes' with time spent on the potty. If you bother to sit her there, make sure you have time to wait for that first success. If she has no concept of what it feels like to 'potty', she can't be expected to do it. Get a book, some family photos, and/or a few toys she likes and sit on the floor while she's on the potty and entertain her. It's also a good time to practice naming body parts. She'll probably kind of hesitate or stop whatever she's doing when she actually pees, so try to be alert for it. Then praise her to high heaven! Clap and cheer and say, 'Good job' or 'Good girl'! After two or three times, she'll get it. Also, tell her that you need her to tell you ahead of time when she feels like she needs to 'potty' (pee or poop), and praise her if she does tell you. It's fun to potty train if you concentrate on the successes and ignore the accidents as much as possible (or you can go the other way and have her clean up the messes). Just be sure that whatever strategy you choose to use is one you're able to be consistent with.

It also helps to use panties or training pants with no waterproofing. This way there's evaporation and they feel the wet (cold. With waterproofing, there's no evaporation and they never feel cold).

well i dont know about little girls but my son was potty trained at 3 1/2 yrs also. we tried for a year on and off until he finally had a light bulb moment and decided he liked the potty -- also for awhile he was afraid of the potty when it would flush so there were plenty of road blocks but just one day he wanted to do it and boy was i happy!! We did use regular underware as often as possible he didnt like the felling of being wet - I also did that at night to get him to stop wetting the bed worked like a charm had a couple nights of wet bed but it was worth not having to buy diapers anymore. hope this helps GOoD LUCK!!

My daughter ready to start at 1, but I wasn't. You both have to be ready. I had always let her accompany me whenever she wanted. She observed and asked good questions. Anyway, when she turned 2, in the late in the summer, I was ready. Then she started daycare when I returned to school. They claimed they'd help us. Months went by, that didn't happen. My daughter would often inform workers she needed to tinkle. Often they would tell her not to worry (couple X's right in front of me), since they'd take a group at a time to change diapers.

The following spring, when my semester was over, I took her out of daycare. I bought one of those folding potty seats that sits over the toilet. I also let her pick colored underpants and talked about how "big girls" get to wear them. She was so excited. We also kept 2 books she enjoyed about going potty in the bathroom, and made up a funny "Potty" dance and song.

(Now I know this isn't typical of most kids, but it's true)

For the 1st 4 days of being home I let go around with no diaper. The 1st day she started going pee on the potty w/ no messes. By day 2, she even had a BM in the potty. By the 4th day, she was wearing underwear 24 hrs a day. For several months I did all the wiping after she'd sing to me that she was done. But it didn't take for her to catch onto good wiping practices as well.

She's 4 1/2 now and has only had 1 wetting accident at night. That happened a few weeks ago when she got up in her sleep, pulled her pants down and started going. Then woke fully up when she realized she was in her room. I'm so proud of her. She typically has no problem waking at night and going. I was also glad we NEVER bought of used those expensive Pull Up's.

Be sure to talk about typical physical urges/feelings. Always be encouraging. Let your guard down, act silly if you need to. Don't ever get mad or punish your child for having accidents. This will typically delay the process even longer. Good luck! ! ! !

Hey R.. Children in daycare do sometimes potty train quicker. But mostly, I think, out of peer pressure. And the fact that they're keeping her in the two year old room is ridiculous. Children do potty train at different ages. And holding her back because of that is just plain silly. She doesn't see other children going potty, and her teacher may not have the time to help you out in training. I have worked in daycare... I've seen it all! You should take a few days off and get her on a potty schedule. Get her a little sticker chart and put her potty times on it. Each time she sits on the potty, give her a sticker to put on her chart. When she wakes up, take her to the potty. Every two hours, tell her "It's potty time honey." Also associate potty time with an event. After lunch. Before and after nap. After snack. Etc... Then give those daycare workers in the 3YEAR old room the schedule and tell them that this is when she needs to sit on the potty. It will help her tremendously to see others her age doing it! Don't force her to actually GO. One of those times she sits, she will "accidentally" go. And when she does, you jump up and down and do a great potty dance and praise praise praise her. Eventually, she should start asking to go. Please try my suggestions and let us all know how it goes!

my daughter was late to potty train. She was almost 3 1/2 before before she was out of diapers. Most of the advice I got was "she will do it when she's ready". And though not always what you want to hear, it's true. Nothing I tried worked with my daughter, stickers, rewards, surprises, etc. In order to get her to sit on the potty I took away chocolate milk (she LOVES chocolate milk). I told her it was time to sit on the potty and try to "go" and if she did that then she could have chocolate milk if she wanted. I didn't feel I was bribing her with food though, since she drank it a few times a day anyway. I just told her if she was thirsty she could have white milk, juice or water...the chocolate milk was a reward for the potty. At times it would backfire "well, I don't want chocolate milk anyway" she would say, but that was short lived. It did work, she started to sit on the potty more and actually "go" and the whole chocolate milk thing sort of phased out and was forgotten.

One thing that I think that helps at this age is to tell them that they are big girls and big girls dont pee-pee in their pants. But recently with my second child giving him a m&m or a small piece of candy after each time he went really helped. Just alot of talking about it and encouragement and the first time they use the potty make a big deal we always clapped and danced and it gets them excited to where they want to do it again. Hope it helps have a great day

I just potty trained my daughter who will be 3 in June. Go bottomless. Yes, there will be accidents but she will start to feel when she has to go and want to go to the potty instead of on herself. I tried pull-ups, my daughter just used them as a diaper. If you can go bottomless for a weekend, I think it will help alot. Good luck!

Hi R.. I just trained my 2 y/o son about a month ago, and this is what worked for us. I sat him down one morning and told him that we didn't have anymore diapers and that he was a big boy now and it was time to use the potty like mommy and daddy. I made a potty chart that he got to put a sticker on everytime he went pee pee or poopy, and he also got a special treat (m&m's) too. Just find something that your daughter really likes for encouragement. I didn't use pull ups, went straight to underwear. I gave him a lot to drink so I knew he would have to go more frequently and I sat him on the potty about every 20 min. We had a few accidents at first, but he got the hang of it pretty quick. I didn't scold him for the accidents, I just explained to him that pee pee goes in the potty not in his pants and told him we would try again. My little boy is also very stubborn, I think the key is making it fun and lots of praise. Good luck!

We bought a kid potty and put it in the bathroom. And anytime I went potty, she went with me. They will mimic what you do. Also, I see that you have an older daughter, let her accompany her as well. Plus let her in the stall when you are in public. Don't force it. If you are too persistant, she will get stressed. When I went potty in public, I would ask her if she needed to go and ask if she wanted to sit on the potty. If she said no, then I would happily say OK. I also got her a potty book that had a button that made flushing sounds. Plus she had a baby doll that had her own potty. So, she would often pretend that her baby was going potty. Also, I found that disposable pants were not making her aware of when she went potty, so I put her in old fashioned training pants that were a little absorbant, but she still felt real wet.

My youngest son turned 3 in december and is in daycare also. He showed no interest at all in using the potty, but his teacher and I knew he would be able to do it, he just didn't care. Finally, his teacher told me one Friday in January to send him on Monday in underwear...she didn't even want to use pull-ups because they are still a diaper to kids. So we did it and he was very excited about it even though he went all weekend without using the potty. They have a smaller potty in his classroom for the kids and his teacher took him every hour and he didn't have one accident until she left and the afternoon teacher came...she didn't care about it as much as his other teacher. When he came home, he decided he wanted to use the little potty at home (we had bought it for our older son and he never used it once). But it worked and he was so proud of himself. He felt he was finally a big boy and didn't even want to wear the pull-ups at night so after 3 nights of waking up dry, we stopped using them. It did take almost a week for him to feel comfortable enough to poop on the potty, but I think he figured it out pretty quickly that it was easier to just get it out than to try to hold it in for a couple of days. As for the little potty, he used it for a few weeks and it was a very easy transition to the big potty. Every child is different so you just need to try to figure out what will make your daughter feel comfortable enough to do it.