I was the over-acheiver and LOVED school, hence my 3 degrees. I hated the social aspect of it - fake, catty girls. I say what I think and feel and no one needs to wonder if I am mad at them or not.
So our son was dying to go to school at 3 years old. We finally agreed to 3 days and only 3 hours each day. Then, he went to kindergarten. He HATED it. He asked me everyday if that was the last day. I made a deal with him to get him to Christmas of K and then we can decide. He agreed. I figured by then he'd be in the swing of things. It worked. He wanted to stay. Once K graduation came, he was excited and happy - he was in a dual immersion class and learned to read, write and speak Spanish...and received an A. He came home and asked me if he "could never go back to school." WHAT? He hated it. Ummmm, ok.
So, after LONG discussions and lots of fear (What if WE fail him?), we decided to homeschool him. My husband was terrified and I was confident that I could do more for my one child than a teacher can do trying to teach 30 kids who ALL learn differently. Guess what? I was right. He LOVES home schooling. I ask him periodically if he wants to go back to school and he always replies, "No way!"
We finished 1st grade in 2 months. I figured that I must have missed something, so I went through the state and federal standards again - nope, didn't miss a thing. I was spending all of the hours we were suppose to, but when he knew something, we didn't do busy work or wait until everyone got the concept. If he got it, we moved on - not to bore him. We'd go back and test him to make certain he really did "get it" and he had. So, we started 2nd grade - that only took 7 months and that was only doing 1 hour each day of work! If I had put in the recommended 6 hours each day, he would be graduating HS right now. So, we do about an horu each day, sometimes more, depending on his mood (If he's being lazy, it takes longer.) and some days, we don't do a darn thing. (We all have our off days.).
He's now 8 and starting 5th grade. (We've slowed him down a bit, so if he ever decides to go back to school, then he won't be totally immature for the grade he's in.) He LOVES learning and we do it all of the time. When we go to the store, it's all about multiplcation (6 jars of peanut butter @ $4 each = $24. Do we have enough money?) and we discuss the clouds - Cumulus Nimbus (Is it going to rain?), etc. THE BEST PART? His 5 year old brother and 3 year old sister learn all of it too!
Our 5 year old sounds like your son - he wants to be perfect and hates not knowing something. He and our oldest (8 year old) sit in the back seat of our Expedition and discuss math, geology, English, geography, etc. It's amazingly easy and I don't have to deal with all the junk related (PTA, etc) to school.
OH WAIT, the best part is vacationing ( field trips) after school gets in. It's cheaper and no crowds. In fact, we are leaving this week to head north. We will be gone for 2.5 weeks and going to Alcatraz, Mt. Shasta, Klamath Falls, Crater Lake, hiking to all of the lighthouses along Oregon's coast, Orgeon caves, Grant's Pass, etc...all part of our studies for this year. How much more can you learn by being somehwere, than reading it in some boring book?
A lot of people don't think they can do it, but there are so many options and it SO easier than I EVER imagined. I mean, who else knows your child better than you?
I work, homeschool and have 4 kids - the youngest being 4 months old. It can be done. A friend of mine was a school bus driver and she homeschooled her kids. (Her daughter got a full scholarship to Pepperdine at 16 and graduated at 19 with a double major. Not extra smart, just without busy work, knew how to get through things efficiently.) There are co-ops, charter schools where they go all day or 2 days each week and then the parent homeschools them the other 3 days. We file a Private School Affidavit each October and just do our own curriculum.
If you have any questions, let me know!