Getting Divorced but Tomorrow's Our 6Th and Final Anniversary -- What Do I Do?!

It's not crazy. You all need closure and if this is the next step, then you definitely need to do the things that is going to help you get through this.

My ex (fiance) and I actually went out to dinner. It was kind of like a memorial/ way to end on a good note and try to build a friendship out of the "new" relationship (that is to say no relationship). You have children and I so would say that it's even more vital to try to maintain some sort of relationship. I think dinner would be a perfect way to try to come to an agreement on things.

Hope this helps. Good luck.
N.

Why not make it the First anniversary of the redefined family (you, ex, and kids as a united family of two homes)?

In response to your follow-up...that is really sad. I'm sorry to hear you are going through this, but soon you'll be able to have the life that you wish to live.

N. - There's a reason why you're getting divorced and although this may be a painful day for you, maybe you should reflect on why you would want to mark this day as special with someone who abused you and is mentally unbalanced. I mean this only in the nicest way, but seriously, don't you think there's something a little wrong with that idea? Why would you want to do that? You committed your life to him, had children with him and he was abusive toward you. I'm not surprised that while you were thinking of having some type of event around this, he wanted nothing to do with it. I agree with the person who wrote that you should do something to celebrate your freedom from spending your life with someone who is unstable and abusive.