Friend Displaying Favoritism with My Kids

J., I do agree with the other mom's, although this happend to me and I did talk to my friend about it. I have a 4 yr old girl and a 6 yr old boy. My friend has a 2 yr old girl and she loves my son, he was born on her birthday. She always talked to him while I was pregnant. I knew she didn't mean to shut him out of everything we did together but she did. So one day last summer I just flat out told her that I could not get together with her anymore until he went back to school in the fall. She question me wanting to know why. I told her how I felt and she felt so bad. She had no idea she had been doing that. I also felt bad for saying what I said, but it all worked out with no hard feelings after the fact. It all depends on how close you are with your friend. If she's a good friend she'll appreciate your honesty, mine did.
Good luck.

Honestly, 4 year olds are a bit easier to be with than a 7 year old boy that she may feel she does not have as much in common with. Even my nephew as he has gotten older wants less and less to do with us, but the younger kids still crave the attention. Honeslty, I would not bring it up, unless your oldest son does (with out any prodding from you) or you think it is severe. Sometimes I worry because my family gives my now 5 year old daughter more attention and laughs than my almost 8 year old, but she has never brough it up, and my 5 year old clearly requires more attention that my oldest, so they give it to her. Really, I say leave it alone for now, and deal with it if it becomes a major issue. Best of luck!! ~A.~

I, personally wouldn't say anything to her .. I mean .. like you said .. she doesn't have kids - it can be harder for person to 'connect' with older children. I have a 2, 5, and 7 year old .. and I would totally agree with your friend. In general, it's a lot easier to 'play and dote' on a 4 year old than it is a 7 year old .. don't you think?

Now, if she's being rude to your 7 year old, then yes, mention to her .. but I don't see the harm just b/c she favors your 4 year old. Again, JMO!

I am going to be honest with you.. I have family that does this with my boys.
No matter what we say its the same and doesnt improve no matter what we say.
But then what if she doesnt even know she is doing it?
She might not know that she is doing it... or she might be that she is giving him more attention because he is giving her more than the 7 yr old..
I dont know the situation. If you do talk to her she might get upset are you prepared to loose a friend?
good luck..