I'm not even sure I really want a lawyer at this point. I just want the pain to stop. My husband of fifteen years (last Thursday!) continuously engages in emotional affairs with other women. I say they're emotional because that's all I catch him doing: talking, emailing, texting, sending pictures. And since that's all I catch him doing, of course that's all he'll admit to. A couple of weeks ago, I caught him again. This is the fifth time in our marriage that this has happened and I want him to go. But he won't go. He feels like he shouldn't have to "leave his home after working so hard for it." I say he's worked equally as hard tearing it down. He says he understands if I want to leave, but he has nowhere to go anyway and he's not leaving.
I am a stay-at-home mom of four kids. He works the night shift. Who is going to be here with my kids if I leave? I just think he's being unreasonable and trying to make a difficult situation even more difficult. I would like to find a reputable family lawyer to find out what my rights are concerning our home. I really don't want to leave him, but I refuse to be a doormat. He refuses to take responsibility. Every time he gets caught, he apologizes, but that doesn't stop him from doing it again. If I'm not enough for him, he should move on and let me do the same. Please help.
Carl Gold taught a class I took at Towson of Family Law. I don't know if he deals directly with divorce, but he definitely knows family laws and if he can't handle the case himself, he can refer you to someone who does. Here's his info:
Carl Gold ###-###-####
If you ever want to talk to someone who has dealt with the "emotional affair" situation, please feel free to email me! ____@____.com
S. ~ First and foremost, my heartfelt sympathies to you for having to endure such heartache. Although every situation is different, they are never easy, and often the emotion affair is more gut wrenching then the physical one. That being said, I work for a law firm in Towson, Maryland and we have a wonderful group of family lawyers. Not only do they practice your typical conventional law, but we also offer what is called Colaborative Family Law which takes the matter out of the courts and allows all of the parties to sit down amicably to reach a resolution. In my opinion, it keeps it personal between the parties involved, which in most instances is much less painstaking. If you need to reach me you can call at ###-###-####. I would be glad to put you in touch with someone who can walk you through the process, of course, with baby steps and caring hands.
Best wishes for you personally. Warmest regards,
C. Hunt
DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOME! That is the worst thing you could do in terms of the law. My advice, only because I have done this, is to make you and your husband separate rooms and live in the home as if he does not exist. Do not wake him for meals, do his laundry, nothing. If you pay the bills then do not pay his cell phone bill. If they are all on the same plan, separate them from his and then pay yours and you kids, if that is the way it is. Do your very best to do everything without him. I would also seek a good marriage counselor before and attorney. Raising 4 kids by yourself is no easy task. I know - I was a single mom of 5 kids under 7 when my husband left. So by all means try this first and at least go to counseling for yourself.
About me: Currently SAHM, homeschooling youngest 3 high schoolers, 2 are in the service. Happily married for second time for 5 years.
Contact
Bonnie Butler
34 Market St
Baltimore Md 21202
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Robert Thompson
12 E. Pleasant St
Baltimore Md 21202
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