In my house, I am the Morning Grinch. I seclude myself until I'm on my second cup of coffee because I don't trust my brain to think nice/true thoughts. It's bad. 10:00pm is when I'm just getting my groove on. If only I were the dictator of the world...I'd abolish the 9-5:00 work day.
But any how.
Yes, my husband's bad moods do sometimes effect me BAD (as do other people's moods). Granted, my husband was in a bad mood for three years (and did not sequester his angry little self). And I'll tell you what, I latched on to his moods like a lock-jaw dog. I would NOT let it go. "Huh huh, you're going to be sour, I'm going to be sour. Let's be miserable, yay." THAT got TIRED. See, I can take other people's feelings (not to be confused with actions/behaviors) really personally. "How dare you have an off day / that must be my fault / I can make it better, let's find a way for me to be in control."
GRATEFULLY, my husband has not been in a consistently-and-targeting-you-bad-mood for a little while now. He still get's to be a real pain in the rumpus / has feelings, but is willing to acknowledge his behavior and choices as his own and isn't living in a parallel universe where he doesn't have to be accountable but I do (for both our behaviors). Our marriage would not have survived another year had he not gone through some sort of transformation. *I* am not sure how attached I am to his moods anymore. It's hard to tell where your roof leaks when it's not raining, yah know?
I'll tell you what. It is EASY for me to spin out. Hard. If I'm not very careful I'll ruin my own day over someone else's issues (imagined or real). Which is pointless and difficult. (Imagine a dog with a rope, shaking and growlin')
So, that's what I'm trying hard to not do. Ephie is practicing personal ownership of her emotional well being. I choose to be happy, regardless of life's twists and turns. Today I am succeeding 100%. Two days ago, not so much.