Come to Our Class Party*(except Not Everyone Is Invited)

Was the invitation issued at school or through the mail, email..some other way that the rest of the kids don't realize they are not included?
If this is a private party...at a private home then I would not have a problem with it. The problem is with the idea of a "class party"....I think End of the Year Party would have been a better way to state it.
Don't be too worried about this...as long as it isn't school sanctioned I don't see a problem

I'm a little confused about who is throwing/sponsoring the party. Is the school involved? Or is one family just throwing it themselves?

If the school is involved, everyone should be invited. Anything else is extremely inappropriate.

However, if one of the student's family is throwing the party outside of the school, not on school time, then I don't think there is an obligation to invite the whole grade, or even the whole class. That would be very expensive and a huge undertaking.

I think you should let your daughter go if she wants to. This could be a good opportunity for her to make some new friends and let those her tease her get to know her a little better. It might make things much smoother and more fun for her next year.

For a private "end-of-the-year" (shouldn't be called a class party) it wouldn't be practical or economical to invite everyone from 3rd grade. I wouldn't hold it against those parents for limiting the number of invitees.

But the good news is that if the party happens on the last day of school, none of the kids will be bragging about it to the non-invited kids at school the next day.

Let your daughter attend if she wants to. Selective friendship and participation is something that she will have to learn eventually. This might be a good experience for her.

Here is my take on it: if it is held in a private home or a space that is being paid for out of private funds there is no need to invite all the kids.

We have b-day parties at our home and in the summer we occasionally do BBQ's in the backyard. I would love to invite all of the kids in my daughter's preschool class, but we have neither the funds nor the space to entertain 20 kids with their parents (imagine everyone comes, that's easily 60 people).

If they are paying for it, you have to understand that there is a limit. If you have the funds for a party for the entire grade, maybe you can make a financial contribution so all kids can be invited...
Good luck.

I think the problem is in how it is being classified or termed. It's not really a "class party." It's more like a birthday party where a select few guests are chosen and people are limited by space, budget, etc. As long as it is off school grounds and the school has nothing to do with the planning, financing, etc. and there isn't more to the story, I would let your child go to the party, but I would encourage him/her to try to be discreet about it and not talk about it in front of the other kids, etc. Sometimes easier said than done.

I would def. let your child go. Like another person commented, not everyone can be invited to everything. At some point these things are going to happen. The parents who are hosting it probably should not have stated that it's a "class party". But we have to choose our battles.

You child will probably be excited to go, like most children are when they are invited to any party. I would let your child know that not everyone in the class was invited and that it would not be polite to discuss at school with other kids as to not hurt feelings.

But, like I said these things happen all the time and while it's sad not every child is included but it won't make anybody feel better if you don't let your child go.

I think they labeled it wrong. If its a party for a few kids its not really a class party! But since it is not on school grounds, I would let your kid decide if they want to go or not. If they like the person hosting, why not? Not everyone is going to be invited to everything----maybe your child has become friends with the host's child? I would just see how the party goes and if there is any problems, deal with them then. GL!

M

Since the party is off school grounds and the invitation was mailed and not given out at school I do not see a problem attending the party. Not sure of the ages but not everyone gets invited to every party. Let your child be excited about going and have a great time. I do commend you on thinking about the other kids that were not invited.

The party isn't being given by the school, correct? It's being thrown by some parents off of school property, probably for the kids who are known to get along better than others. I don't really see a problem. Let your daughter go to the party if she wants to go and if parents are invited to stay then stay with her to chat with the other moms. I have a feeling if you do that you'll see that you're making a big deal out of nothing.

I suggest that calling the party a class party is just a misnomer. It's not an accurate description of the party. Some people are just not as sensitive to language as others are. It's a party to which your child is invited. Of course she should go if she wants to go.

I think this is a time to let your child make the decision as to whether she wants to go. The party seems to be an outside-of-school, private function therefore the host has no obligation to invite everyone.

I do think you're right on the mark with considering the feelings of the other students who were left out, but I don't think it would be fair to your daughter to deny her entrance to the party just because you don't like the image that it might project. If she wants to go, let her go and have a good time.

How is your child/what grade is he/she in? And is he/she friends with the birthday child?

I would let the child go, and don't read into it. I don't know many people that can afford to entertain 20+ kids & (possibly) their parents/siblings. Since the parents are paying, it's really no one's business who or how many kids they invited. I can bet the kids that didn't get invited will find out. It sucks, but honestly, disappointment is a part of life for everyone.

I would let your child go. I understand that not every child is invited to every party. Frankly I think it is sad when all children cannot be invited. Personally, I think that I would probably tone down the extravagance of the party so that I could include more children rather than causing ill will. This is a hard lesson for your child to learn...

I think this is not a "class party," as such events are usually considered. It is not a party for the class, in which the whole class participates and a gift is given to the teacher. It is a merely a party for some of the children in the class.

Wouldn't it be nice if people actually said what they meant?

I think that if I were you, I'd let my daughter go if she wants to go, but I'd let her know that it's just a party for a few kids, and she mustn't assume that too many others of her classmates know about it or were invited. It's better for her not to say anything about it, no matter what anyone else does or says.

And be thankful that it's the end of the school year.

Is there going to be an end-of-school party for the whole class in the classroom? Perhaps you'd like to encourage that.

If it's happening outside of school, it is a private party. You can elect to go or not to attend.

Better luck next year.

Blessings....