College - West Monroe,LA

"hi mom, yes I was studying when you called, I am doing GREAT, no trouble any more, it all clicked into place, I know, isn't that great - I studied almost the whole day today, yes the housework suffered a little, but studying is my most important goal right now, thanks for calling, bye"

How will quitting solve the problem? Your mother will really nag you then. Ignore her texts and calls, and keep working. School really has nothing to do with your mother.

Do you live with your mother? Dont answer the phone! If she texts, text back that you're too busy studying to text now and she needs to quit keeping you from studying. :-)

My mom drives me crazy for other reasons, so I only answer the phone if I want to talk to her.

Don't quit! It's hard right now, but you're working to make life better for your daughter. I hate my job, but I go to work every day knowing that the money I bring in helps keep a roof over our head and stuff. My daughter is worth me hating my job.

you are doing school for you not her if you resent it she wins. so don't answer the calls or text she will get the point or tell her I am not a kid and don't need to be babysat.

you will miss out on more of her life if you dont do school. trust me I missed alot on my oldest son working 3 jobs as a single mom.

Dont give up now Girl.There is no reason to tell your Mom every or even many details about school, you are a grown up now and it's time she minds her own business. What you are doing takes bravery, perseverance and intelligence. I am a mom and wife and was an average student in school and college. I went bk to college again in my mid 40's after graduating in my early 20's to better myself and start a new career. It was hard at first but the best thing I ever did and now I am veryproud of my accomplishment and have a job I love. Know you are doing whats best for you and your young family. You may need to stand up to Mom and tell her you would prefer to talk about other things besides your classes then change the subject a nice way. Also be sure you are taking advantage of all of the teacher assistance your instructors provide often generally after class hrs to get thru the tough class. There is a lot of free help out there if you only seek it and take advantage of it . You can do this and imagine how proud your husband and child will be of you when you are done. With blessings!

added: Mom, arent you able to take your classes when your daughter is at daycare or preschool? or take a class at night when your husband cane be home with your little girl? THis is what I did when I went bk for 1 1/2 yrs?? It can be done if you arrange the classes this way

Stay in school! Ha, I sound like a public service announcement! Seriously, I was laid off from my job in April 2009. Along with hearing I am overqualified for hourly jobs, I also hear, "since you don't have your bachelor's degree", when I apply for jobs in my field...annoying!

I am also back in school, at 45! Keep going, you are setting a great example for your daughter. As for your mom, I really like the Melissa gave, really good. It might not make her stop the first time you do it, but after a couple of times, your mom will stop.

Keep studying! Your daughter is going to be so proud when you graduate.

You are a grown-up.
Your mom is thinking (imagining? presuming?) that you're still her little girl.
You need to have a conversation, F2F, with her.
Not attacking or complaining but an information conversation.
Letting her know that you are a grown-up now.
That these messages are a nuisance and a distraction.
That you've got enough on your plate as it is
without these nuisance calls and distractions.
That you'll keep her informed of progress and important stuff,
if/when appropriate.
That you welcome her calls or texts if they're about ___________
(pick a topic or two) but no more about studying or school topics.

I was a full time college student the first few years of my daughters life and I thoroughly enjoyed it. You should be taking the classes you want and enjoying it too. I know there are many general ed required classes that we all despise but they go quickly.

The one thing that made my college experience enjoyable is that "I" picked my class schedule. I never had an advisor tell me I had to take this class or that class. If I wanted to take adult piano and aerobics along with American History and Political science I did, I took a couple of no brainer classes with my regular classes and I made almost straight A's.

I basically took 6-9 hours of core classes and 1-3 classes that anyone can pass if they just show up, like choir, music appreciation (Humanities credit), Good Life Cooking, Weight Training (P.E. substitute), Adult Piano, Tennis, Country and Western Dance, etc...most of those are 1 hour classes and they can be totally fun. They not only reduce stress but fill in the remaining hours of a schedule to be full time without it really being 4-5 core classes that would just be too much for a full time mom.

Take a moment and think about your schedule and decide to let it be more fun and enjoyable. Don't quit unless you can work and support yourself without a college degree, right now. If you can make enough money to live well without it then maybe it isn't worth the time and effort but I believe that education can never be too much work and effort.

Good luck in school and hoping your grades are all A's.

My suggestion, STAY IN SCHOOL! Im a mother of 2 girls ages 3 and 2. I am also married for 10 years and my hubby just graduated with his bachelors. Im in school and what gets me through the day is one, I have my own interests so I dont go crazy catering to other people. Also after getting my degree and getting a job I will be able to support everything my child wants in life by myself if something happened to my hubby I wont be crushed. Give them the opportunities that I never had. You need to shut your mother off, your not a kid anymore, dont talk to her unless she is being positive. You mother is a person too but you are not obligated to talk to her.
School is the best thing especially in your adult life your kids have to learn sacrifice and this is a great example of teaching them how hard work pays off. STAY IN SCHOOL!

I am sure she means well. She is probably just thinking she is motivating you. So be a good girl and do your homework and when she asks if she calls, tell her you can't talk until all your home work is done.

Keep going!!! You can do this!

I'm really sorry you are feeling this way. I would think that she's just really overly concerned about you "starting over" as you stated. It's hard to be a mom and not in control of the situations that involve our kids (even when they become adults my parents tell us). I definitely know how important down time is along with study time. Both are equally important to make it work. Could you write her a note and tell her that you are doing everything possible to make your new start a success and that you appreciate her being concerned but it's actually adding to the stress and you have to limit those matters for it to work. Reassure her that you do study as is appropriate but you can't function well when feeling so overwhelmed by trying to do what is needed for school and worrying about pleasing her too. Ask her to trust you and you'll let her know if there's any problems, otherwise, all is good with school. Stay positive and I hope you work it out!

Congratulations on going back. Set your priorities and go for it. Mom is going to have to learn not to text and call you or put your phone on vibrate and ignore her until you are ready to talk with her.

Don't quit. I know it is hard. I am take one class while I work at the university and it is algebra and I haven't had it in 40 some years. Needless to day, the class had changed tremendously and it is on computer. So time warp to the future and adjusting the teaching methods had me about to pull my hair out. I passed (took one class twice) and am now in the next level.

Your routines of school and family will get better.

Enjoy this time in life. You are going to make a difference to yourself and your family.

The other S.