Child Support - Aurora,CO

Updated on December 13, 2006
R.P. asks from Aurora, CO
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I recently moved to CO with my now 4 yr old daughter from IL. Her father has not been putting his all into helping me with her since birth. When were there he barely came to see her or when he planned to something always came up and now I am here in CO to make a better life for us he still does not do his part. I never thought that I would have to go through something like this. We always said that we shouldn't have to go to court about getting someone else to force us into taking care of our own children but I have gotten tired of waiting to see if he will acknowledge that he still has another child. I did not want to do the child support thing at first but I have filed because he still has not sent anything or called to talk to her since July 4th. I have to explain to her in a good manner that he has other things that he is doing that is important. Recently on her birthday she expected a call or for him to send her something and he did neither. I could tell that she was upset. I cannot say he has spent close to $700 on her since birth. I am sick of struggling trying to do his part and mine. I cannot hold a job because I cannot pay for daycare alone on my own income. He maybe upset when it all falls into play in court but my questions are ........when will we begin to receive the checks? Will they garnish his wages and if so how much? Will I have to deal with a big custody battle?

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So What Happened?

Hi Everyone,

I have finally gotten a court order established for child support in Illinois. It was obvious he got a court date because our daughter has not heard from him since July 2006. Then out of the blue he called harassing me about what he got in the mail. He only spoke with her for 2 minutes (like usual) and argued with her about her stating that she has two fathers (him and my fiancee). After she got tired of saying it she finally passed me the phone and he asked if I had to talk to him about something. To keep the story short, manipulation became an issue and all his so-called purchases for her since birth was one also (which I can count on two hands). Needless to say, after I told him that we had nothing further to talk about and that I was doing what was best for our daughter whether he is there for her or not and that he should just cooperate with the courts...he finally hung up! I called my attorney and told her of our conversation and she informed me that both states (CO and IL) has placed our case under a family violence code. I am not surprised that he called when he got his papers but wanted it to be known to him that although he is out making babies with different women that he has to take care of these babies in the long run. Stepping up to the plate is what has to happen because it is obvious that just asking and demanding was not going to happen with me doing it by myself with him. My fiancee and I have discussed, if he doesn't stick to the court order that our next step would be to ask for permission of Sole Custody to us and he can go on about his life for good. Blessed by God's arms, my daughter has one Dad and one Father where she will learn the difference between the two as she gets older. It took awhile to get things set up like those of you said but I feel really good that now there will be some type of order for him to take care of his responsibility or pass it on to someone else who really cares and loves our daughter. Thanks for all your advice.

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R.W.

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You will want to open a case with your local county child support enforcement unit. File an application with them and pay the $20 application fee. They will attain a support order (if you don't have one already) and will enforce the order they attainor will enforce your existing order. They will have to serve the other party with process, so in order to get the support order, they have to locate the other party, however they are very good at this if you don't know where he is. They can also review and adjust child support when the financial situation changes if you so request. They have numerous enforcement techniques, including wage assignments, suspension of driver's license, credit reporting, etc. which make it much more likely that you will receive the child support. They also get new hire reports and Department of Labor reports and will send a new income assignment when the obligor changes jobs. This is for the child, not you. Sometimes, in response to request for child support, the other party demands parenting time. This could be very good for the child as it is best for the child to have two involved parents.

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C.M.

answers from Denver on

With my experience with child support, custody is a whole different department, so when it comes to child support they just look at how much you make and how much he makes and once they find him and the child support is setup, they usually take it out of his check, if the amount get past a certain amount you can also get his taxes. This is how it work for me but we both live in colorado, I dont know if it is different since he lives out of state

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C.P.

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R.,

I'm not positive, but I believe the Family Support Registry will provide a lawyer for you to fight for what you deserve. Just call 411 for their number. I think you can get all the info you need from them. Since he's hasn't been there for your daughter but every once in a while, I doubt a big custody battle would happen, courts are always on the mother's side it seems. Family Support Registry may be able to tell you an approximate amount you can get, but I have a support calculator saved on my computer (my husband pays child support to his ex wife). If you want me to give you an idea of what you can get, email me. ____@____.com

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J.C.

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Hi R.,
I know what your going through. my daughter is 18 months and her daddy hasn't attempted to come see her since birth. here is my knowledge about child support.
were you married to him when your daughter was born? if not they will have you do a paternity test, when it comes back that he is the father they will set an ammount for child support....if he doesn't pay they will garnish his wages.

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D.Y.

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Hello,

I had a similar situation. You both will have to go to court more than likely. You will both have to declare your incomes and depending on how much he makes and how much time he sees her will depend onthe amount. If he is currently working, they will garnish his wages if he does not make timely payments once they are set. Its a long process so I wouldnt expect anything anytime soon but start the process as soon as possible because it dxoes take long.

Best of luck.

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