Birthday Etiquette - Norwich,CT

Updated on August 31, 2009
C.S. asks from Norwich, CT
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Hi, all! You've helped me before, so I figured I'd see if any of you knows the answer this time. A friend of mine has a son; he turns three in a few weeks, and we got an invitation a few days ago. I RSVP'd right away, but was wondering--since I have three kids, should I get him three presents, or is one nice one enough? I got him one last year, but since he's getting older, should I get him more than one?

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Thanks everyone! I wanted to take just one, but with all your responses, I've definitely decided that I will.

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D.M.

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i think a present from the Family as a whole would be OK. If you're worried about the 3 kids, maybe include 3 little "toys" that go on top, akin to party favors.

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S.R.

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I don't know about proper etiquette but I can tell you about my experience. My son often has siblings come to his birthday parties including a set of triplets. The presents have varied from year to year. He has never received three presents wrapped in three packages from them. Most often from both the triplets, and the set of two siblings he receives a present that is maybe a little "bigger" than from a typical individual. Often he will receive a gift and some accessories for it where if it were one person he might just received the main gift. Sometimes he gets multiple items that coordinate (snow cone machine, flavor packs, fun ice cube trays) and they are all wrapped together.

I hope that helps.

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M.C.

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Definitely only one present is necessary. If you feel like it looks a little light you can always attach a nice big fancy balloon. A three year old will NOT know the difference.

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M.W.

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ONE is wonderful (and plenty!)

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C.N.

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At three one nice gift is the way to go.I set a price limit. I have two kids and sometimes the want to bring there own so I tell them how much they have to spend and the split it. most of the time they work together and come up with one great gift but some times they get two.

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J.M.

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I would only get him one, maybe have all the kids make their own cards to put with it. Personally, the kids get so much stuff at birthday parties I can't imagine anyone expecting you to bring a gift from each child in your family.

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J.F.

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I would think one is plenty. If a child that age gets too many presents they seem overwhelmed and cannot remember who gave what anyway. I will often do something like five smaller gifts wrapped in one bag or box; say a few books, some playdoe, a small toy, so it is like each of my children gave a gift but not all wrapped individually. Set a budget of what you want to spend and go with that. Either one big thing or several small things will be fine, I should think.

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W.D.

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one gift if appropriate.. if you still feel funny about it. get two smaller gifts from the other two children or get a gift a little more than you would normally spend .

J.T.

answers from Portland on

I think birthdays should be fun not stressful. Get one gift then have your kids each add a fun little somethingslike a bubbles, stickers or a glow stick.

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L.B.

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You could get one gift from the family.

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C.M.

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I would say 1 gift is fine. I have a few friends who have 3 and 4 kids. They only get my daughter 1 gift from them. They get so much any way they will be just fine. U don't have to break the wallet. Have a good time at the party just had my daughters 3 year party it was a blast.

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J.H.

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Hi C.
A busy mom of three little ones does not need to have the extra burden (time and cost!!) of three gifts!
One special gift is all that's needed.
J. H

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L.B.

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One gift per family...that has always been the 'golden rule' around here.
Have fun!

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M.K.

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Hi C.,
My son is an only child and alot of his friends have sibs. We recently had his birthday party and the gift giving went two ways 1) a really special gift from two to three sibs together or 2) **this was my favorite** the mom took her kids to acmoore and had them pick out different craft things to put into a gift bag from each child. Coming from the mom of an only child, I'd actually prefer no gifts and just a lot of fun for my son but come middle of winter, those craft ideas sure come in handy!
M.

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T.S.

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one gift per family is plenty! you'll see as your kids get older and you eventually want gift-less parties!

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C.B.

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I would only bring one gift. If they come to your house to the birthdays of all 3 of your kids and give 3 presents each year, then perhaps spend a bit more money since you are only returning 1 gift for every 3. But since they are different ages I assume this does not happen and 1 gift should suffice.
Enjoy.

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J.D.

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Not one person at the party will think that you needed to bring more than one gift.

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J.S.

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You're over thinking it. Bring a nice, small, tasteful gift. In fact, the parents might prefer that you not bring a gift at all.

Three year olds don't need to be showered in material goods!

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K.J.

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Hi C.,
One nice gift from your children/family is definitely sufficient. I've been throwing birthday parties for 15 years now and my children have never received multiple gifts from sibling guests at birthday parties; nor do we expect it.

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M.H.

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Hi C.,
I don't know how close a friend this is but my friends that are close & I have made a pact to not do gifts. Kids have too much these days. If that doesn't make sence for you the next question is does she buy gifts for all your kids?? & then maybe ask her what she thinks. good luck

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