Another Worry of a Pregnant Lady!

Well for someone who is so adamant on not vaccinating my son, one would think that I would have done some research on this. But I didn't! I just left it up to the father. Now I wish I hadn't. I wish I hadn't had the procedure done on my son. They botched it and did one of those longer cuts so it looks like he isn't circumcised. Dad wants him to look like him and I personally don't care about that. Do they really sit around looking at each other's penises? I mean I know there is a whole macho thing, but does it extend to father/son? I have never heard of it. I have been with a man who was no circumcised, partially circumcised and fully. IT MADE NO DIFFERENCE FOR ME! However, some women don't like it, but I think that, as the other mother said, that things are changing. As far as the cleanliness issue you just pull the skin back gently and wipe it off. My son had one infection because NO ONE told me I had to do this. So... consider yourself told :D It's no big deal and it doesn't hurt them. However, watch some videos of circumcisions online and you'll have a much easier time making this decision. It's HORRIFIC! I am fighting my son's father now who wants to have him go back in and done again because i don't want him to have to be in pain...

I.,

I completely understand your dilemma. I was torn over the decision for months but ultimately decided to circumcise. I made sure that they gave my baby an anesthetic beforehand to numb him and medication after wards. We chose to do it because my husband is circumcised, but also for cleanliness reasons. Boys who don't have it done are at a higher risk for bladder infections etc. I respect anyone's decision not to though also-- Ask your doctor to numb your baby beforehand so they don't feel it. My son didn't even cry- it was quick and it healed very fast. Good luck with your decision if you have a baby boy!

Take care,

Molly

I have a 10 month old son and he is circumcised. I didn't really care either way and respect peoples decision not to. I let my husband decide. It was very quick. I was with my son. They numbed him a little and he barely made a peep. He sucked on a gloved finger with a little sugar water during the procedure. We were not using a pacifier or they would have let him suck on that. He did cry during a few diaper changes and it broke my heart. My daycare provider has a 3 year old son that was not circumcised and he now has to be circumcised because she did not clean him properly. She said she was never told about the proper care. this up coming surgery is causing a lot of stress in her family. I also had a patient(I work in health care) that had it done at 50 years old. I'm sure these cases are not the norm and whatever decision you make will be the right one for you. Good luck and congratulations.

I didn't end up having boys, but while I was pregnant I told my husband I didn't want to do a circumcision. He insisted that we do. I decided to leave the choise up to him since he was the one with the same parts. I have friends who have both done this and not done it. It seems to me that they all made their choices based on how the father "looked".

We are not Jewish but I know that they wait until the 8th day to circumcise. There is a medical reason for this and it is because it is the day on which the vitamin K--which is important for blood clotting-- is highest in the baby's blood.

We decided to circumcize my son a couple of days after birth. Our main deciding factor was my husband was so we decided to do it so they looked the same. I also didn't know anything about caring for one that wasn't, so I didn't want to mess that up and cause my newborn problems. The actual procedure I watched, in retrospect I wouldn't have, watching them strap him to a board was the worst part. The procedure was very quick and it healed within a week, so there wasn't a lot of stuff to do with the recovery. We just had to make sure we put vasoline on it so it didn't stick to the diaper. There was no stretching needing to be done or anything after the procedure. I have never heard of having to do that. I also don't know anyone who had a botched procedure. It would be much more traumatizing for an older child to have to go through the procedure should there be problems than for a newborn who isn't going to remember it. I don't think that it is for everyone, but for our family it was the right decision.

I don't have a boy, but it is my opinion that circumcision is genital mutilation, plain and simple. Would you cut off your girl's clitoris? They are the same tissue. All of my friends who have boys are choosing not to circumcise and most all other countries do not. It's barbaric. I don't mean to sound judgemental, I just feel strongly about it. It's your choice, go with your gut and you'll make the right decision.