Dear M.,
That's great that you're using Burt's Bees... I was going to recommend the Baby Bee Apricot Oil for your daughter's scalp (http://www.nurturedfamily.com/detail.aspx?ID=71).
Also, I'd make sure that nothing you use contains Sodium Lauryl Sulfate and Sodium Laureth Sulfate - (http://www.healthy-communications.com/slsmostdangerousirr.... With the issue your daughter is having, those chemicals would just aggravate it (and they're in about every shampoo). It's a shame that they use it in anything - for anyone!
I'm also CRAZY about the lotions from http://www.tropicaltraditions.com - the Virgin Coconut & Virgin Red Palm Oils in them make them WONDERFUL. Here's some info about that (sorry it's kind of long) - "All of the skin care products that Tropical Traditions offers are made with organic Virgin Coconut Oil and Virgin Red Palm Oil. No other products on the market are made with finer oils as their base. Virgin Palm Oil contains high concentrations of a powerful form of Vitamin E called "tocotrienols" which published research has shown is 40-60 times more potent than alpha-tocopherol (the most common form of Vitamin E found as an additive in most skin care products.) In addition to these powerful Vitamin E tocotrienols, Virgin Palm Oil is also rich in natural carotenes. It is one of the richest natural plant sources of carotenes with concentrations of 500-700 ppm. It is 15 times more retinol-equivalent than carrots and 300 times more than tomatoes, for example. In addition to using only the best oils available for the skin, all other ingredients used in Tropical Traditions Skin Care Products are 100% natural. Our hand-made creams, lotions and lip balms contain no alcohols, no artificial fragrances, and no petroleum products. Because we recognize that many have sensitivities to fragrances, each product has an unscented version. For those products that are scented, we only use high quality organic essential oils which are distilled with low temperature and low pressure over an extended period of time. Low temperature and lower pressure have proven to be the most effective method of obtaining all of the essential constituents from the plant, and provide our products with the very best quality fragrances available."
Tropical Traditions tend to have sales every other day, so I'd get on their mailing list. I never buy anything until it comes around on sale. Their package deals are good, too, so take a look at those!
Hope you get it figured out!
Blessings,
R.
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