S.A. asks from Savannah, GA on September 18, 2006
Time Out - Pooler,GA
My son is 18 months old. I definitely think he is ready for time outs because he looks at you before doing something he is not allowed to do. However, I know he will not stay on a time out chair or naughty mat. What have other parents done regarding time outs at this age? Thanks for the advice.
K.M. answers from Nashville on September 18, 2006
I had a hard time keeping my son in time out at this age, what I found to be the most effective is putting him in his high chair and facing him to the wall for a few minutes they hate it and will scream and cry there little heads off and you might too but it works very well
L.R. answers from Atlanta on September 18, 2006
For an 18 month old child, time out should only be for 30 seconds. He won't remember why he is on time out beyond that amount of time. And definitely make a chair or mat, like you are doing, the time out area. You may have to keep taking him back to the time out area for the first couple of times but he'll catch on. I have a son who will be 3 in December and it has gotten to the point that sometimes he puts himself in the timeout area because he knows he did something wrong.
1 mom found this helpful
C. answers from Tuscaloosa on September 18, 2006
My advise is a combination of Lisa B and Denise R. It will take a while before you son learns that he has to sit in time out, you just have to keep putting him back in and letting him know that time-out means he has to stay in his seat and think about what he did. You child will get it in a while. And always let him know in words why he is in time-out before you send him to time-out and again after he comes out.
Children at this age just want to please. They also test their boundaries but once they realize what they are, they just want to be some personal attention each day to know they are loved.
L.O. answers from Mobile on September 18, 2006
Sit and hold them there!
J.W. answers from Atlanta on September 19, 2006
You'd be suprised to find that your son might stay in time out. We started time-outs with my son when he was around that age, and we just stuck a chair in the corner for him. At first he wouldn't stay in it, but for the first few times, I stood right behind him and counted to 20 aloud so he would know when he was done. Now, my son is 2 and will stay in the corner and count to 20 when told. Good luck!
R.R. answers from Atlanta on September 18, 2006
What I found to be the best for our son at that age, was to put him in his crib or in a room that I knew was safe and isolate him for just a minute or so. It worked rather quick and he knew, because we would say do you want to go to your room. It sounds awful, but it works and if you do not start setting those boundries now, you will have a time in just a couple more months.
M.C. answers from Chattanooga on September 23, 2006
I bought a kindergarten nap map and put it in our front room (no toys, TV, ect..)and turned the timer on the stove (one minute for every year). When my daughter needs a time out, I pull out the mat and lay it down. She knows to stay on the mat until the timer goes off. Then we talk about her behavior and she says she is sorry. We hug and kiss and go on with our day.
Sounds easy....well, not at the beginning. The key is consistancy. Everytime she gets off of the mat, put her back on and start the timmer over. It will take some time but stick with it. Your child will eventually get that you are not coming back until they do what you ask.
Now when my daughter is frusterated, she will tell me she needs a time out and get her mat out herself. She lays down until she feels better and then goes and plays. We started when she was one and now she is almost 2 1/2.
N.P. answers from Birmingham on September 19, 2006
i know what you mean about enforcing time-outs...we have had a hard time with our 2 yo son. i tried everything from confining him to the laundry room, to placing him on the bottom step of the stairs to having a naughty chair. Nothing seemed to work...until i placed him on the kitchen chair and turned the oven timer on. i set the timer for 1-2 minutes depending on the crime. Our son eventually settles down and just listens for the buzzer to go off. afterwords, we tell him what he did wrong and what behavior would have been right (i am not sure how much he understands...but, the punishment seems to deter him from trying the bad behavior again).
Just making his "world" stop and taking him away from the situation seems to do wonders...it also saves me from losing my voice over yelling at him :)
hope this helps!!!
C. answers from Nashville on September 18, 2006
It looks like you have gotten some good advise. I mean no disrespect for the mom who puts the child in his crib, but I would like to warn against doing this, as it could teach your child that the bed is a "bad" place, which could lead to bedtime problems.
I have a 2 yr old and we have been utilizing time outs for quite some time. She always stays where I put her, and like another responder, will go there if I tell her too. The point is that the child get no attention for a short alloted time. It is the lack of interaction that is key. An hour or so of replacing the child in the spot will be exhausting, but worth it from that point forward.
When explaining, keep it short and sweet.... ex. Hitting is not ok, or We don't pull toys from our friends, etc. Then, expect an apology. After that, hugs and moving forward with normal activity.
I hope this helps.
I am a 33 yr old mother of 2 (6yr old and 2yr old girls).