Still No Response from Police About at My Daughter's Exposure Charge.

Updated on September 23, 2015
H.K. asks from Nescopeck, PA
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Hi Moms,
Wrote about having the babysitter's landlord expose himself to my 8 yo daughter. I reported this to township police on Aug. 20th. Haven't had any response from them. When I call to ask about this, I get that they have only one detective and his main priority is a missing person. After the case of the missing person is closed then ours will be looked into. In the meantime he is walking around town talking to all kinds of children. We see him at his neighbors and the different homes he owns in town. I was talking to a mom down at karate. She says OMG does he look like this and drive a red pickup. I said yes that's him. She says her best friends' step girls had something done to them by thier mom's landlord guess who???? The cops aren't doing nothing, women in crisis won't do anything, a childline I called wouldn't comfort me only said here call the DA or children in youth bye. Who will do something he's been doing this for years and probably still now. Please help. One good thing the counselor showed up for my little girl today. She said they played games and talked,and she came right to the school.

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So What Happened?

Hi moms,
Just answering some of your questions. The policeman took a statement from my daughter, the babysitter's daughter and the babysitter. He questioned both girls mine more because of the exposure and the other girl only reporting the touchy feely stuff. This touching stuff he does while people are there and watching. The girls are sent to another room or away from him as soon as he gets close.and now as soon as he's seen. The police did not give me a report or say there was one. They told me when I asked what next that they would most likely interview the girls again and question him. When I call the police station the receptionist says the only thing on file is the first statement that we filed . She then says that the detective has to close the missing persons case before he can look into this. This is the question, is this normal or some sort of cover up? I haven't done this before and never expected this to happen to my baby girl and I definitely didn't ask for this to happen like it seems some of you are saying. I do believe he did things in the past but nothing has been done. Next question do I really want to pursue this or should I be glad this is all that happened to my daughter and let it go.? I set the counseling up to be sure that this was not all a lie. The counselor told me what was said would not be used in court that they were there strictly for the victim and she told my daughter that she would see her in 2 weeks. I guess that means she isn't lying.Okay just trying to clear things up. Thanks H.

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Can you go talk to the local news station? They might do a story on it. When they start calling the police station to get a quote, that might start the ball rolling...

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T.F.

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There are still some fishy info that you've provided thus far from hearsay from your sitter. This comes from your previous post and this one.

What did your daughter say? What happened? Did police interview your daughter? Him?

Things aren't adding up and it sounds like you have a personal issue toward him. If he's been guilty in the past, he is in the record books. Is someone out to try to hurt this landlord because they feel wronged by him in some way and this is a way to get him in trouble?

If you are being so adamant as to prosecute him in public, ( talking about him, his actions, knowing his routine? Etc) watch out for a potential slander suit if for some reason your sitter was lying.

Don't make your daughter a victim if she's not a victim.

Something is going I here...possibly someone trying to entrap you with slander. Be cautious before you speak with anyone other than authorities on a legit case.

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W.W.

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okay - H. - I'm NOT going to go back and read your other post - sorry.

Your post leads to more questions than answers.

1. Was your daughter interviewed by CPS? If she was - what was their determination?

2. The other family that said something happened? I doubt it.

What you need to do is start from the beginning
a. was a police report filed?
b. was your daughter interviewed by the police and/or CPS?
c. If she has and they said "unfounded" - then you are without a case.
d. If they said "founded" then the police are putting a case together.

You do NOT know for a fact he's been doing ANYTHING for years.
DO NOT tell your daughter ANY "information" (i.e. gossip) you have received from other people - it will taint her and her memory and make her a bad witness that IF there was a case - it's gone because she's no longer credible.

If a counselor showed up at school - you should have been there or at least a witness to it from another room (closed circuit television). If the counselor deems your daughter is fine and NOTHING happened? LEAVE IT ALONE.

DO NOT make your daughter out to be a victim. If you feel your daughter needs counseling? Fine. but You might be over reacting.

Good luck!

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J.S.

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Has it occurred to you that your babysitter lied, your friends are paranoid, and there is nothing going on here? I ask because there is no way this guy wouldn't have a record if he is old. There is no way they would put it on the back burner if he had a record. Even one detective can work multiple cases unless yours is not a case

This post doesn't make sense just the same as your babysitters story didn't make sense. By they way, do you have a question, I didn't see one there.

Your questions show a pattern of you putting your need to work before the safety of your child. This seems to be the case here. If any of us believed this happened right in front of our sitter we would never allow that sitter to watch our child. She didn't notice a man standing in the middle of the room unzipping himself? Would she notice your daughter walking out the door? Would she notice your child getting into medications? Would she notice your child turning on the stove. Please ignore for a moment what your sitter said about this man and pay attention to what she said about herself. She does not sound like someone I would trust any of my kids with.

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S.T.

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i dunno. something smells funny here. if there's a child predator on the loose, i find it difficult to believe that the township is dumping it all on their ONE detective and not having the county or state step in to investigate.
the stonewalling by ALL the possible departments seems not really credible.
assuming, however, that this is on the up-and-up, i'd escalate. go to the county. go to the state police. call your elected representatives. keep making noise.
btw, the way you word your post makes it sound as if your daughter is the one who exposed herself. we know what you mean, but use your words carefully while you pursue this!
khairete
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Did the other folks file a police report? If not, they should. With more than one incident and more victims, it should get someone's attention. You should be VERY leary of going on television or posting anything on social media about this guy. You could very well be looking at a slander suit if you do. The counselor coming back in two weeks doesn't necessarily mean that your child did not fabricate this. In fact, a child fabricating something like this would be a good reason for ongoing counseling. The police are not going to give you full information when you call, especially since you are going around town talking about this. Too much talk/gossip can taint/ruin a criminal investigation.

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Call child welfare and skip the police, obviously he either is a pervert himself or he's related or just overwhelmed and can't investigate this.

Call child welfare, call the county sheriff, call the county offices that hire and fire the law enforcement, call your states Attorney General's office. Call the District Attorney. Call your representative.

Make a huge mess so that this officer is under a microscope. Post on FB and other social programs that your daughter was assaulted by a man in this community. If anyone else has a child or themselves that has been approached or assaulted by a male individual to please private message you.

Start a list of people who will name him, a list of names of parents who say this man did it Ask the parents if they'll let you record the conversation with the kids so they can't say later on that you told the kids what to say. Etc...protect yourself, he's going to be pissed off and if it leaks out that it's him your investigating he might come after you.

But call it in. Have child welfare come out and talk to the kids, have the kids go to the ER or the doc for an exam to see if he did more than talk, touch, and stuff.

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M.P.

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I'm a retired police officer who investigated sex offenses.

Were all the other incidents reported to the police at the time they happened? If not, the stories are second hand and would be considered gossip. Remember, stories change each time the next person tells the story.

I suggest that when all the people with whom you talked are not concerned it's likely that they believe this is not an urgent situation. People in those offices care about children and keeping them safe. I see holes in your story. The most important ones are the lack of timely reports to the police and the lack of criminal history for the alleged suspect.

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J.T.

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In your SWH it sounds as though your daughter still goes to same babysitter????!!!???!!!??? Even though you KNOW this individual can or will be around.... Sounds like the police aren't the only ones doing nothing to protect your daughter.

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M.D.

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I haven't read any responses. I would call your local news station. If this goes public, I guarantee the police department will make this a priority.

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Call a lawyer. I'm not usually one to advocate litigation first, but you are talking about the safety of children. If the police are not willing to take timely action, then you need to light a fire under their seats. And lawyers are good at starting fires.

M.M.

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It's because the only thing he's done is a minor offense. Not to you, of course, but legally. They have far bigger fish to fry. At the end of the day, all he's going to get is his hand slapped for indecent exposure.

Better to arm your girls with what to do and who to tell when that happens. Get on social media and warn the community. There is strength in numbers, but legally, there isn't much recourse, and without a witness, it's his work against your daughter's.

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