Hi C.. I have a 12 year old daughter. She'll be 13 in May. She's not all that rebellious, just very headstrong. She won't take advice from me on anything. She acts very depressed most of the time and shows it with her posture and the way she dresses. The other day I tried putting her hair into a pony tail, because she always has her hair hanging in her face, she ripped it out as soon as she got to the party she was going to. I call her "the Queen of Darkness". Of course, she hates being called that, but I just get so frustrated. Has your ex-husband been involved in the discipline of your son? Is he addressing this problem? How does your son get along with your soon-to-be?